Post # 1
I keep going back to the thought that my dress is not me. I think it’s beautiful, and I know it’s going to be beautiful on me on the day of. It was the only dress that me and someone else cried about, and believe you me I tried on so so many dresses it was getting to be pathetic. Everyone just wanted me to just pick a damn dress (even my FI! lol) I know once it gets cleaned and fitted that it will look wonderful on me with all of my accessories. I have to remind myself to go back to my photos and see how happy I am with this dress on. I’m not as happy in the other photos. I know I’m not crazy. Someone tell me that I need to stop stressing this, that my dress is going to look wonderful on me. I just know that if I had more money, or if onlys…. but this is what I have, I’m not getting another.
So, what do you do when you question your choice? I know I made the right choice, I just keep getting these warped photos of it being ugly in my head.
Post # 3
It’s totally normal to 2nd guess your choice. But don’t forget how you looked and felt in it. And then magnify that times a 1000 because that’s how you’re going to look when it’s all fitted, your hair and makeup is done, you’re surrounded by all that love from friends and family, and you’re the happiest and glowiest you’ve ever been in your life.
Fact is, there are probably a million dresses out there that could do the job. You just have to pick one. And you’ve already done that! You’ll look great. Go with your gut.
Post # 4
I second guessed mine a lot, but the more dresses I’ve seen on the boards and SYTTD the more I know it’s perfect for me. I felt beautiful in it and it’s perfect for my venue. I have yet to see one I like better.
Post # 5
When i second guessed mine I brought another one to wear to the reception.. Although I have to say, every time I see my dress in person I fall in-love all over again..
Post # 6
I’m another person who second guessed my choice a little. I love the dress and it has everything I want in a dress. I can just indecisive and it’s a more modern type dress. Everyone wanted me to get a princess dress, but it just wasn’t what I wanted. Whenever I have a chance, I go back to the store and try on the sample. I went to the beach last month and a store there had the dress. I tried in on again. I went to another town last weekend and tried it on in a store there. Each time I fall in love all over again.
Post # 7
i usually go try it on, that seems to help with the 2nd guessing. Im way too close to the wedding to be having these thoughts still but i do.
Post # 8
it’s totally normal to second guess your dress. it’s a big, important purchase! whenever you start second guessing, remember why you bought the dress and how you felt in it. go back to the salon and put the sample on again. and don’t look at any more dresses!
Post # 9
I started to question my dress, but there was no way I was getting another one. What helped me was to look at a picture of it almost daily and pick out what I love about it (for example, I love tha the pickups aren’t like any others that I’ve seen, or that my chest looks spectacular and isn’t falling out, lol). I would just keep a photo semi-handy and practice being nice to yourself and your dress :).
Post # 10
I think it’s easy to second guess when new dresses are coming out and everything looks fantastic online!! But, remember why you picked it in the first place, and you will look beautiful and perfect on your wedding day. I agree with Theresa, there are plenty that would do the job, but just think about the one you got!!
Post # 11
for what it’s worth, i think you look phenomenal in your dress and I’m sure you’ll fall in love with it all over again once it’s ready :]
Post # 12
When I start second guessing my dress (damn you, Maggie Sottero, for releasing more beautiful gowns, GRRRR) I start focusing on my wedding day outfit as a whole and not just my dress. My jewelry, bolero, necklace, veil, etc that I bought go PERFECTLY with this dress and if I start over I would lose all my hard work and $$ spent. Probably doesn’t work for everyone but that’s what works for me 🙂 Your gown is pretty (and what a great price!) but the rest of your accessories work with it and you will look phenomenal once everything is pulled together!
Post # 13
I really started second guessing mine – so I went and tried it on again and that helped a lot – I was worried because originally I wanted a much longer train
Then I wrote down everything I liked about the dress, sweetheart neckline, emphasized hour glass, floaty fabric, fun, flirty, unique design, beading and lace, appropriate for an afternoon wedding and tried to find another gown that had all of that
Have not found another one that meets all of my wants and so I keep falling more and more in love with it! And found that the dresses that generally WOW’d me did not have long trains
So why did you love it in the first place? What do you think you might not love?
Post # 14
I ask people on here what they think! Everyone is always really supportive! LOL
Post # 15
You take some time out! Do something different and stop obsessing about dresses for a little while. Go away for the weekend, unplug your computer, block all wedding websites, watch some good movies, see your friends! It’ll do you a world of good to get away from wedding planning and dress debating. And hopefully you’ll find you’re actually very happy with your choice once you get some distance.
Worked for me!
Post # 16
When you are questions a dress choice you either
A) have two great choices in frontof you or
B) you just haven’t yet found your perfect dress
best thing to do is ask your friend, a close girfriend or boyfriend whose taste you really tryst or maybe even admire 🙂