Post # 1
i just recently had a bridal shower and received alot of gifts and gift cards. so my fiance and i go and use the gift cards and got alot of the things we needed for our apartment. but just recently he desided he was not ready to get married yet and so we have called the wedding off for now. but i don’t know what to do with the gifts. am i suppose to give them back or just keep them and explain in the thank you cards that the wedding has been posted poned. i need help quick……..
Post # 3
Is it post poned or cancelled?
Post # 4
If it has been indefinitely post poned, as in a new date has not been set, then you need to return them with a note explaining that the wedding has been post poned.
If you have set a new date then you can keep the gifts but maybe mention the new date in the thank you note.
Post # 5
I believe etiquette dictates that you return the gifts, perhaps with a brief note thanking them for their well wishes, but that the wedding has been postponed.
Post # 6
im not sure what proper etiquette dictates, but if the wedding is postponed indefinitely, you should return the gifts. if you decide to keep the gifts and send thank you cards with an explanation of the postponement, I think you run the risk of leaving a bad taste in people’s mouths…i know i would be offended if I sent you a gift and there was not a wedding in the next 6 months.
Post # 7
First of all: I’m sorry your wedding was postponed/canceled (?) I imagine that is completely devastating! *HUGS*
However, you do need to return the gifts right away unless a new wedding date has been rescheduled. You also need to inform your other guests of the changes asap. If you’ve already sent out the invitations you need to call all your guests (as awkward as that may be). If you haven’t sent out the invites then you can just send out a postponement card "The marriage of Mickey & Minnie has been postponed until…" and avoid all the personal calls!
You used the giftcards already? So now you have to send your guests the cash back instead? I’d make sure that money comes directly from your FI. He canceled… so he has to pay!
Lesson learned today… We aren’t touching our gifts until after we’re married. You never know what may happen. 🙁