What do you do with your arms?

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
9920 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Lol nope.  I kept putting my hands on my waist, and had to be told multiple times to “relax” and “act naturally”…um, yeah, I WAS!!!  I also can’t smile normally, so at least you can do that!

Post # 4
1912 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I put one arm on my hip. It makes you look slimmer and more natural, kind of. 


Post # 5
5597 posts
Bee Keeper

@allyfally:  Hmmm … I didn’t really notice T-rex, dangly, or fiddly.

What I did notice was: Beautiful woman in an amazingly beautiful dress! And beautiful woman in love. Your smile in that engagement picture is radiant, and you and your FI are both incredibly photogenic!!

Post # 8
24173 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Dude, I totally have the t-rex arms when i’m running – DH always makes fun of me for it! 🙁 Hahaha

Post # 9
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I never know what to do with my hands or arms either.  I feel comfortable crossing my arms, but I try not to do that because it apparently looks unfriendly.  I do the fiddle fingers too.  I like having something to hold or to hook my thumb on my pants pocket.  I’ll have to try the hand on my hip idea.

Post # 10
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Have to follow this… I have the same issue! 

Post # 11
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

As photographers will generally tell you – you can bend it, bend it (that goes for arms, waist, legs and fingers), and try to do it in a relaxed way (no stiffness/claws). That is the best way to get a flattering look. Holding the arm bent slightly away from the body minimises the biceps and gives you a softer, more feminine look. If you are feeling stiff, try shaking it out and try it again. Often it can help to practice in front of a mirror. Eg.


Also, props are good. Delicately hold a dress, use a bouquet, put a hand on your bag, whatever. Props give you something to do with your arms and will also put you more at ease.

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