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Have any of them helped with anything? Maybe get something extra for those who have been there to help you with projects or simply emotional support. If none of them have been helpful, then I think the earrings are fine. Although, I think maybe a personalized letter or thank you note would be nice too!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Are you wanting them to wear those at the wedding? If you are then I would also do something personal, maybe and inexpensive journal or something and a nice note from you written in it. If you are not asking them to wear them in the wedding, then are those all of the girls style? For me, I would never wear those, completely not my style.
I don't understand how people say "You shouldn't expect your bridesmaids to do anything for you." But then say "You are expected to give them a gift either way."
Its enough, IMHO. :-)
I didn't "gift" my bridesmaid or MOH with anything like that. I did however do their hair for them & bought my MOH her dress. I also offered to buy my BM's dress but she declined it. I would be more than happy with the earrings your giving!
EDIT: I second the thank you card or letter. If they haven't helped with anything wedding related just say "Thank you for your support on our big day." Or something along those lines.
No I think that's fine. If there are one or two that have helped out more than the others then you could get them something extra and give it to them at a different time, but it sounds like all they are doing is getting a dress and showing up, so earrings are good enough in my opinion!
@RahlyRah: none have been helpful lol
@tksjewelry: the earrings are just to be worn in the wedding. I will give each a letter with the earrings that thanks them for being a part of the wedding.
@Mrs.Estep: yeah, I feel bad. I would have been willing to gift a lot more if they had different attitudes I suppose. I am not even 100% sure all will show up...
@sarahrebecca0112: Hopefully one or two will come around and I'll get them a little bath set or something nice. :)
Umm, no, I wouldn't give them anything else. The earrings & letter are plenty-- probably too much-- for BMs who haven't done anything for you.
If you are concerned that there is a possibility some of them won't show up then the earrings should be enough. If you decide to be a little more gracious and gift them then you could, but under those circumstances you don't have to.
If you want to do something extra why not just throw together some bridesmaid survival kits for the day of? It's cheap, easy, and practical. 
My bridesmaids did nothing but attend the rehearsal and the wedding & each event was no more than 20 minutes from their homes. I gifted them each a wrap to wear with their dresses, their jewelry for the day and a brooch as a keepsake. I think earrings are more than enough though. I gave them all of the items I wanted worn with their dresses so that their dresses were their only expenses. we got married around the holidays & I knew money was tight.
What you are giving them will, I am sure, be very much appreciated; however, even if they "didn't do anything" for you for your wedding, haven't they been really good friends? Isn't that why you chose them? If you feel the need to give something addtional, then you should, but I would make it something that is personal to each one.
I think earrings are enough! BM gifts can be such a pain...I paid for the girls hair but I was ridden with guilt over that shit so I bought them the necklaces for the wedding and little gift sets from Lush. Mind you we all went jewelry shopping together and went to some Claires equivalent in the mall but they didn't seem to mind,
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I think its fine. My BMs threw me a bachelorette and bridal shower, but they acted like everything that they had to do was a chore and were annoyed by it. They also caused a lot of drama and made me cry on several occasions. It even continued after the wedding. I didnt get them anything expensive. I gave each of them a bridesmaids survival kit, a tote bag from Old Navy, Old navy flip flops in their favorite color and a little shot glass. They liked it and appreciated it and Im sure your BMs will appreciate what you got them too!
@noritake22: To be completely honest. No. They have not all been good friends to me. I am new to TX and don't have as many friends as FI. I wanted a MOH and that was it. He had six groomsmen and in an effort to keep things somewhat symmetrical, I asked five more girls that yes, were friends. But not good ones. I realize this was a bad decision of course and symmetry really isn't that important because in the event that one or two declined to be a BM, I wouldn't be that upset at all. However, one BM and six groomsmen would have been awkward at best. I asked, and they agreed. I have even given them a chance to step down if they felt they couldn't afford it or didn't want to be in the wedding... None stepped down.
I have 6 bridesmaids, and I love them all dearly! I got them a cute tote, with their names embroidered on it in their favorite color. Then, in the tote, I got a roll out makeup bag that matches the tote, also with their name embroidered on it in their favorite color. I wrote a bridesmaid poem, and then put all the items that I listed in the poem in their bridesmaid survival bag. I also got them all pearl earrings and necklaces to wear at the wedding, and a bottle of wine with a calla lilly wine stopper.
All of my girls have been super helpful, though. They've been my best friends throughout all the hard times in my life, and I knew that they would do nothing less than everything they could for me. I, in turn, wanted to show them just how much they all mean to me. :)
@PitBulLover: I am really sorry to hear about your BMs, that is just terrible. You are so kind to have gifted them what you did, as if they would have caused drama with me, they'd be lucky to get a card... Mine haven't been the least bit dramatic, but they haven't been very cooperative either. All I asked was for them to get dresses... and it seems that was wayyyyyy too much haha.
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Honestly then, I would just give your MOH something extra special. It really doesn't seem like the other ones have even attempted to be your friend. If it were me, I would probably let them go, even if the sides were uneven. I also think that your FI should have been more considerate of you when he decided how many he wanted on his side. In my opinion, he shouldn't have picked as many as he did.
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Thanks, but its okay now! I guess weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people!
@noritake22: completely agree with you. in his defense it was really hard because he has had a lot of very good friends over the years and wanted them by his side. i can understand that however he knows how left out i felt. a lot of our friends are mutual and i have almost no girlfriends haha. oh well life happens. but thank you sooo much for your kind words and advice.
@PitBulLover: aint that the truth.
I'm just wondering..... why didn't he just ask the five other guys to do imporant things like usher during the wedding, attend to the guest book, provide wedding day transportation, etc, rather than attempt to have 12 attendants at your wedding?
I am in the exact same situation... they are getting necklaces (that they will wear at the wedding and flip flops for the reception).
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I am giving my six bridesmaids a pair of earrings at the rehearsal dinner. My question is, I would like to give them more, and could afford it at this point (below budget yay). I guess my issue is giving them gifts when they haven't been involved in anything. I am not having a shower or bachelorette. They are doing their own hair and makeup. Pretty much they just have to show up. Not one came to the engagement party.... Am I being too stingy? Oh, and only two have made attempts to get dresses at this point.
If this was you, would you gift them more?
Earrings: