Post # 1
I am giving my six bridesmaids a pair of earrings at the rehearsal dinner. My question is, I would like to give them more, and could afford it at this point (below budget yay). I guess my issue is giving them gifts when they haven’t been involved in anything. I am not having a shower or bachelorette. They are doing their own hair and makeup. Pretty much they just have to show up. Not one came to the engagement party…. Am I being too stingy? Oh, and only two have made attempts to get dresses at this point.
If this was you, would you gift them more?
Post # 3
Thats more than enough imo.
Post # 4
Have any of them helped with anything? Maybe get something extra for those who have been there to help you with projects or simply emotional support. If none of them have been helpful, then I think the earrings are fine. Although, I think maybe a personalized letter or thank you note would be nice too!
Post # 5
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Are you wanting them to wear those at the wedding? If you are then I would also do something personal, maybe and inexpensive journal or something and a nice note from you written in it. If you are not asking them to wear them in the wedding, then are those all of the girls style? For me, I would never wear those, completely not my style.
Post # 6
I don’t understand how people say “You shouldn’t expect your bridesmaids to do anything for you.” But then say “You are expected to give them a gift either way.”
Its enough, In My Humble Opinion. 🙂
I didn’t “gift” my bridesmaid or Maid/Matron of Honor with anything like that. I did however do their hair for them & bought my Maid/Matron of Honor her dress. I also offered to buy my BM’s dress but she declined it. I would be more than happy with the earrings your giving!
EDIT: I second the thank you card or letter. If they haven’t helped with anything wedding related just say “Thank you for your support on our big day.” Or something along those lines.
Post # 7
No I think that’s fine. If there are one or two that have helped out more than the others then you could get them something extra and give it to them at a different time, but it sounds like all they are doing is getting a dress and showing up, so earrings are good enough in my opinion!
Post # 8
@RahlyRah: none have been helpful lol
@tksjewelry: the earrings are just to be worn in the wedding. I will give each a letter with the earrings that thanks them for being a part of the wedding.
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: yeah, I feel bad. I would have been willing to gift a lot more if they had different attitudes I suppose. I am not even 100% sure all will show up…
@sarahrebecca0112: Hopefully one or two will come around and I’ll get them a little bath set or something nice. 🙂
Post # 9
Umm, no, I wouldn’t give them anything else. The earrings & letter are plenty– probably too much– for BMs who haven’t done anything for you.
Post # 10
If you are concerned that there is a possibility some of them won’t show up then the earrings should be enough. If you decide to be a little more gracious and gift them then you could, but under those circumstances you don’t have to.
If you want to do something extra why not just throw together some bridesmaid survival kits for the day of? It’s cheap, easy, and practical.
Post # 11
My bridesmaids did nothing but attend the rehearsal and the wedding & each event was no more than 20 minutes from their homes. I gifted them each a wrap to wear with their dresses, their jewelry for the day and a brooch as a keepsake. I think earrings are more than enough though. I gave them all of the items I wanted worn with their dresses so that their dresses were their only expenses. we got married around the holidays & I knew money was tight.
Post # 12
What you are giving them will, I am sure, be very much appreciated; however, even if they “didn’t do anything” for you for your wedding, haven’t they been really good friends? Isn’t that why you chose them? If you feel the need to give something addtional, then you should, but I would make it something that is personal to each one.
Post # 13
I think earrings are enough! Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts can be such a pain…I paid for the girls hair but I was ridden with guilt over that shit so I bought them the necklaces for the wedding and little gift sets from Lush. Mind you we all went jewelry shopping together and went to some Claires equivalent in the mall but they didn’t seem to mind,
Post # 14
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I think its fine. My BMs threw me a bachelorette and bridal shower, but they acted like everything that they had to do was a chore and were annoyed by it. They also caused a lot of drama and made me cry on several occasions. It even continued after the wedding. I didnt get them anything expensive. I gave each of them a bridesmaids survival kit, a tote bag from Old Navy, Old navy flip flops in their favorite color and a little shot glass. They liked it and appreciated it and Im sure your BMs will appreciate what you got them too!
Post # 15
Are these girls close friends of yours?
Post # 16
@noritake22: To be completely honest. No. They have not all been good friends to me. I am new to TX and don’t have as many friends as Fiance. I wanted a Maid/Matron of Honor and that was it. He had six groomsmen and in an effort to keep things somewhat symmetrical, I asked five more girls that yes, were friends. But not good ones. I realize this was a bad decision of course and symmetry really isn’t that important because in the event that one or two declined to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I wouldn’t be that upset at all. However, one Bridesmaid or Best Man and six groomsmen would have been awkward at best. I asked, and they agreed. I have even given them a chance to step down if they felt they couldn’t afford it or didn’t want to be in the wedding… None stepped down.