Post # 31
beachykeenbee : I love hiking and I go alone all the time! Sometimes I bring a book and a blanket and spend an hour hiking, stop to read for a bit, and then continue my hike. This is a great thing to do alone because it feels like you are SUPPOSED to be alone. It is also a great activity to do with new friends because it is free and the scenery provides good prompts for conversation (rather than awkwardly trying to talk and eat a meal at the same time). Plus it is therapeutic.
Post # 32
I learned aerial arts (like cirque during soleil type thing) – I got so into it I got my teaching qualifications and can now teach aerial classes. I was so unfit beforehand, but I found it was the perfect way for me to build strength and stamina without feeling like a workout! And if you can hang upside down by one knee, you can do anything!
I also make sure I get regular massages to keep my muscles happy, and have the odd spa day with friends (usually a Groupon deal).
I’m really curious about these float appointments! Going to have to find something local!
Post # 33
I am really loving all of these ideas, bees!!
Since writing this thread- I’ve booked a painting wine night with GFs and bought a paint by numbers kit online. Now the real uphill battle- getting to the gym on a Friday after work LOL
Post # 34
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
For those of you who hike/walk alone – do you bring mace or some type of protection? I’ve heard too many stories to feel safe hiking alone. Not to mention, we have a lot of blackbears where I live and the occasional cougar. But i LOVE hiking so i’d love to feel more safe & secure.
Post # 35
beachykeenbee : I actually workout at home; I’ve done p90x, p90x2, insanity, and a ton of beachbody workouts. I recently joined a personal training Crossfit gym that I will be doing twice a week and I really love that! I had my first class today and am wondering why the heck I didn’t join sooner!
Post # 36
- Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris
I play guitar & practice yoga.
Post # 37
I also lost myself in my last relationship. When I got out of the relationship I found I didn’t know who I was, what music I liked, what movies, what fashion etc. I had no idea who I was. My first reaction was to try and revert to the person I was before I met my ex. I tried to wear the same clothes, do my hair the same way etc nothing worked. Then I basically decided I was just going to try all different styles and fashions until I found one which was me. As PP suggested, book and appointment at a hair salon and MUA and just try with different looks and styles. The will help find the ‘surface’ you in a sense.
As for the deeper stuff, it took a little effort but I eventually fell in love with my old hobbies but in a different way. I used to be an artist (my medium being oil and acrylic paint) but now I’ve found DIY crafts and refurbishing furniture is my thing. Is there something you used to love doing? Perhaps try that but have a go at it from a different angle?
If you have no idea where to start, think of something you have always wanted to do but never got around to, and do it.
Good luck bee 🙂
Post # 38
I loved alone movies & dinners. Still like my alone time, but it’s usually walks or hikes now. I’ll also do massages.
I also have a hobby that I’ve turned into a pseudobusiness because it makes me happy. I like to craft & design, so I do knit stuff now.
Post # 39
Kings7911 : I conceal carry and stay on well-marked trails. I have a coworker that always has mace with her.
Post # 40
Every night I’ll take time before bed to make some tea and lay in bed and lose myself in a good book and on saturday nights I’ll steam my face,put on a sheet mask and watch a couple of Youtube videos, take sheet mask off and watch a movie on netflix or a show on Hulu and maybe have some halo top ice cream by myself.
Post # 41
10/10 would recommend solo traveling and staying in a hostel. I traveled abroad this past winter on my own and stayed in a hostel for part of it. It was such a lovely and fun way to meet lots of interesting people!
My #1 hobby I like to do on my own is photography. I have a nice Canon DSR and it’s so fun to find interesting places to shoot. I’m very much a novice, though, so I’m planning to take a photography class this summer.
Post # 42
Everyone has such great responses! I started a new job recently and it’s consuming SO MUCH of my time. In addition my fiance and I just moved to a new state and bought a house, and I’m doing about 100% of the wedding planning. So I never realized how important my time to myself is!
My favorite self care things: I’m teaching myself how to play banjo. I’m no good at all and it’s probably horrible to hear me try to play, but it’s so relaxing for me. Also, yoga. I love doing yoga and find it super relaxing. Some days I’ll do more fast paced and challenging poses which make me feel strong, and others I’ll do gentle yoga before bed to just check in with myself. Either way it’s so helpful to me. And lastly, I’ll put on a podcast (like The Moth, Modern Love, or Dear Sugar), and take a bath with a bath bomb. Add a glass of wine and I’m set!
Post # 43
beachykeenbee : It’s never to late to learn. My mom is my inspiration. She is constantly learning, growing, and choosing something new to dive into. Violin sounds great!
I know what you mean about working out. When you’re bummed it’s tempting to just curl up inside. When I was going through a breakup, I tried to channel all of my frustration into working out. I found a gorgeous path, downloaded a bunch of music, and just ran it out for an hour every day. The first time sucked, but then I found myself looking forward to it.
Someone else said volunteering and I really agree! It can be anything from helping out in an animal shelter, to tutoring ESL, or whatever. If you are starting to feel isolated or bored, I’d go for some sort of group volunteer activity.
Language classes are also a good way to grow and meet people.
Rooting for you!
Post # 44
Kings7911 : Yes, but please make sure you are trained for whatever you choose. There are too many stories of mace backfiring.
While I would love to hike alone, I’m also aware of the dangers in my location. I usually hike with a partner, or on a popular trail where I’m guaranteed to constantly run into families and other hikers.
I don’t think you should rush into hiking alone, especially in an area with bears. I’m sure meetup or some other organization coordinates small hiking groups. I think you should start with that.
This is personal, but I don’t think I would hike alone in an area with bears unless I’d taken a local wilderness course and felt highly confident in my ability to deal with a possible encounter.
Post # 45
I like DIY projects like refurbishing or repurposing furniture, baking, going for walks (helps my sanity), I like doing anything creative basically. I think that’s because I spend my days studying, so anytime I can get creative is ‘self care’ for me.