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Occassionally we have deep conversations. We discuss things going on in our lives mostly. But, realistically, after 5 years, we know where each of us stand on the big, deep issues in our lives. So, no, we don't have some of those talks we had when we first started dating.
we talk about world events, politics, little day-to-day things.. lots of talks about work since we work in similar fields. The really deep conversations come around now and then, not daily though! No wedding/kids-talk for us yet either :)
Well, FI is not really into the whole planning of the wedding details anyway, so we don't talk about that too much. We have kids, but thats not ALL that we talk about on a day to day basis either.
We talk about work. Or about certain situations with freinds. About the weekend or our plans to remodel the house. We talk just about everything and anything that comes to our mind. We don't necesarily have DEEP conversations everyday. Sometimes we do. Most of the time our real talk time happens in the car or in bed.
We alternate: work talk, talk about friends/people we know & their lives, talk about school (I just finished and he's just starting his masters), talk about where we want to live in the future, politics, current events, trips we want to take, anything really. But no, we don't really have deep, heart-to-heart conversations daily. I think that would be tiring! I love a good chat, but you can't always be mulling over the meaning of something important. :)
My FI talks more then I would like him to about everything ....life lessons, sports, politics, the weather, his car.... Maybe we can switch for a week.
We talk about daily events. Right now he's excited my son is in cub scouts b/c T was an eagle scout. He's going to be the den assistant. All jacked up about the camping trips and the canoeing!!! He loves it and I'm excited for the both of them :)
This something FI and I are trying to figure out. We've been dating for 8 years and there has only been a few days where we didn't speak to one another. I knew he was the one when I realized that even after all these years, we still had something to talk about.
We tell each other about our day at work (rude customers, funny situations), we talk about weekend plans, something we heard on the news or radio, etc. He doesn't talk a whole lot but if you get him talking about his hobbies--he won't stop. Most of the hobby talk I don't get but I listen patiently anyway. We don't have many really deep conversations but once in a while we'll talk about having kids someday or wedding plans. We both really hate are jobs so most of the time we keep it light and fun and joke around with each other a lot.
Everything and nothing! During the day we seem to talk about such stupid things like what inappropriate outfit his old (as in like 60) secretary is wearing, what boss is pissed about today, what we're working on (we're in the same field), what we're having for dinner, what we're doing this weekend, what we had for lunch, etc. So dumb! But it's nice to just chit chat for a few minutes during the day. I like that we keep each other involved in even the stupid stuff in our lives.
I would say we have deep, heart-to-heart conversations about once a week. We've been together for almost 5 years, but I'm still learning new things about him. Plus we watch a lot of Discovery channel, History channel, and Science channel, so that sparks quite a few philosophical/intellectual conversations between us.
Day to day, we mostly talk about whatever is going on in our lives at that moment: work, friends, the dogs, etc... We do spend an awful lot of time just joking around, though, singing made-up songs to each other or making jokes about the dogs in order to make the other person laugh. :) We're pretty goofy.
We talk about everyday stuff usually like how work went or what I'm doing on WB. Lately a lot of our talk has been about the house and getting things done which excited me to no end!
We talk about day to day stuff too, what's going at work, what our families are up to, etc. We also have deeper conversations about things going on in the news, like healthcare or politicians. Usually even TV shows spur conversations for us, we talk about the storylines and what we expect to happen next, about characters, and even about the way things look in the film.
Other deeper conversations are less frequent, like what we want to do in 1 week/ 1 year/ 10 years; what we want out of life, what we think is important in life. Even if you've had these converstaions before, it's good to re-evaluate. At least I see my priorities changing as I get older.
Everything. Most of the time it's ongoing ridiculous jokes, or even what happened during our day or any news about friends or family, etc etc.
We're both sort of dreamer-esque, so we talk a LOT about camping trips we have planned and future plans we have. There's also a ton of intellectual discussions going on about anything - books, science, politics, philosophy, etc - bc we're both just very big bookish people who love to learn. We get into a lot of deep types of discussions/debates with each other and really enjoy it :)
lol, somedays I worry that we don't talk enough. I notice sometimes that I have more to talk about with a classmate than I do with him, or that he has more to talk about with a coworker than with me. And sometimes that worries me. But we always talk about the important things. And I know I'm not really all that interested in what "Debbie" at the office did. And I don't think he's all the interested in how hard Bauerstein's finance exam is. He wants to know if I did well, if I had a good day, and I want to know how his day was and how his projects are progressing. When we're in the car for awhile, like going to my parents' (2 hours) we don't really talk a whole lot. At first, it really bothered me, but we have a lot more fun jamming out to the radio than we do talking about work or whatever. lol, normal?
Random stuff! We're not yet engaged, we don't have a house or kids and we don't live together. So we don't have a lot of "transactional" stuff to talk about. We talk about work, friends, weekend plans, music, movies, the news. And sometimes? We don't talk. And that's nice too... to be able to sit next to someone in comfortable silence.
Mostly we have just the day to day conversations that just keep us in touch with each other.
I love deep conversations, but if I pulled those out of a hat on occasions that didn't really warrant it, well, Nick's head would explode and he'd go nuts, just as most guys would.
We mostly just tease and talk to each other - he's a ton of fun and I enjoy just touching base with him.
No. We only have deep discussions when something comes up. I wouldn't want to have deep talks every day. Sounds dreadful.
We talk about work, home, books, movies, friends... normal stuff. We have a lot of blissful silence. *sigh*
My last ex never shut up, so being w/ Mr. Gothy is glorious. He's quiet like me.
lol, I'm a fan of the blissful silence too. I'd rather not talk about every detail of my day, especially since my mother often wants to hear long detailed recaps. Glad to know I'm not alone in enjoying some silence. :)
we talk of the future lately. really deep I never talked about kids with anyone before or lifelong plans
kind of deep
I feel like we're in it together
kind of heartwarming
We mostly talk about the little everyday-life things... there have come to be some topics that are off-limits while at work because they tend to get too heated - politics is number one. I'm a liberal hippy (his words) and he's an republican frat-boy (my words) and we tend to butt heads quite a bit, so we have an agree to disagree policy :)
Like missomally, we talk about everything and nothing. We talk about deep, grownup stuff and we get silly and giggle and talk like a couple of middle-schoolers. Neither one of us are big talkers by nature, so that fact that we can talk to each so much says a lot to me about our relationship. We've each finally met our match.
Not to say we don't have our quiet time, we do. I like being alone and not having to talk to anyone sometimes. And when my fiance gets stressed or overwhelmed-he stops talking. We're a lot alike, my man and I.
Dumb stuff. The dog, work, his students...stuff that doesn't seem deep or important, but it's the very art of it that means so much. Sometimes it'll get deep, but we have a lifetime for that. Just for fu I bought "365 Questions for couples", and now and then we'll toss a question out.
Right now it's a lot of wedding, househunting and scheduling. And beer. Yay for beer.
365 questions for couples... that sounds interesting. What kind of questions are in there?
it runs the gamut....animals, our dog, art, books, econ, politics, movies, philosophy, the future, the past, dreams, sports, the stock market, real estate, theater, blogs, travel......everything and nothing, really....oh, and, sometimes about the wedding....
Ha ha, we are Seinfield - a show about nothing! If we have news or interesting stories to share we do, but that aside, I don't know how we fill the evenings together. It's mostly our stupid inside jokes, teasing each other, talking to the dog and about the dog...we are the most boring people ever!
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I've seen a couple of posts about talking to your SO during the day and about this topic or that topic, but just day to day, what kind of discussions do you have? We're not planning a wedding and don't have kids so our discussions are (minimally) about work and mostly about our new house and little stuff like dinner and tv. I feel like we don't really have deep conversations often. Do you guys have deep conversations everyday or just occasionally?