What do you have to do to take his name in your country?

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s the same for us in Australia. Though you just reminded me I haven’t gotten my new passport yet and it’s been some time… need to follow that up.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

MrsSpagan:  In the US it varies by state. I grew up in NY and got married the first time in NY. In NY all you do is write your new name in the applicable space on your marriage license. Then after the wedding your marriage certificate comes in the mail with your new name on it. You use that to prove your name change to get a new SS card, driver’s license, etc.

I now live in PA. Pennsylvania is THE most difficult state I’ve ever seen. Everything is bass ackwards here. When you get a marriage license here they use your current name, not your maiden name. Since I kept my ex-H’s name when we got divorced that’s the name they used on our marriage license. :-/ Then after the wedding we’ll have to wait for the officiant to send the license in, wait for processing and eventually get a marriage certificate, which I have to go all the way to the courthouse in the county seat (45 minutes away) and besides wasting gas I’ll have to pay $15 for a copy of it! In addition my marriage certificate will still have my current (not even maiden) name on it.

*side note* You have no idea how it perturbs me to have to see my ex’s name on my marriage certificate! One of the many things I did not think through when I got divorced. *end rant*

I will then have to take my marriage certificate to the social security office and have them change my name (which I hope is free). Then wait for my new SS card. Then take that and my marriage certificate to change my license (which can take anywhere from half an hour to three hours around here), which will also cost me about $36 cause I *just* got a new one.

NY was so easy peasy and the few things I did have to do I could by mail. Guess I was spoiled what with the whole government offices making sense and what-not. Sorry, PA gets on my nerves sometimes!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

MrsSpagan:  I live in the US (NJ). As PP said, it varies by state. I had to bring my marriage certificate and birth certificate to the social security office and sign some papers. After my information was entered in the computer I was officially Mrs. His last name but I didn’t get my new social security card until a few days later in the mail.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

MrsSpagan:  NYC and NY state are like two different countries. Lol

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Here in England you sign the marriage certificate in your maiden name (or the name that is on the marriage certificate) and then just use your marriage certificate for name changing purposes. Just as MrsSpagan can do in Scotland. 

I took my marriage certificate into the bank to change the name on my account and get new cards issued but I didn’t need to send anything to the Inland Revenue or NHS – just told the tax office of my new name and did similarly at my doctor’s surgery. 

That reminds me though. I must change the name on my driving licence. Which is slightly more complicated because I need to provide new photographs. I’m not changing the name on my passport until it runs out though. I refuse to pay nearly £100 for a new passport when mine still has 6 years to run. 

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Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In Illinois (at least in Cook County, where Chicago is) the marriage license had zero to do with name changing.  Our birth names appeared on the license and no questions were asked about whether I would change my name.  They did, however, ask for the birth city and state of both of our sets of parents, which I thought was weird!

I also found this weird – we didn’t have to sign our own marriage license!  Only the officiant had to sign it, and then he mailed it in.  When we got back from our honeymoon, I went and bought several copies of the marriage certificate, which still had our birth names on it (I think it was about 3 dollars a copy?).  Then I had to use that for all name changing stuff.  I did my driver’s license first, then my SS card, which was mailed to me a few weeks later.  Then I did the bank and work, which took care of insurance/401k.  

It really only took me one day to do almost everything I needed to do, but part of that is because I live and work downtown Chicago, so it was easy to swing by the vital records office and pick up the certificate in person, then go to SS office in person, etc.   The only thing that took a bit more doing was getting a new passport, which I also did right away just so I’d be done with it and not panic later!  You have to mail it in with an original marriage certificate and some other paperwork, including a rather hefty check!!  I think it was around $150?  I can’t remember.  I would say I got that back in about 2 weeks or so.  

After I changed my name with social security it felt “official” to me – maybe because it involves the federal government?   I was surprised that most places don’t require ANY kind of proof – I mean like utility bills, even my credit card company!  The mortgage company was kind of a pain in the ass – it involved a lot of faxing.  

And, believe it or not, the one that caused me the most grief was my American Airlines frequent flyer account.  I’m not kidding – I thought they wanted my firstborn child in order to change my name.  And since that’s the account I always use, and it’s connected not only to any air ticket I purchase but also to my AAdvantage credit card, I really need it to be correct!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Steampunkbride:  Won’t that cause a problem if your passport is in a different name than the air ticket or the credit card used to purchase it?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

oneofthesethings:  No. Provided I book my ticket in the name that I intend to travel in – in other words the name on my passport – there’s no problem. As for credit cards, airlines here really don’t care who pays for the airfares. In any case, we usually use a particular credit card of DH’s which has the best insurance protection and a humungous credit limit too! 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Steampunkbride:  Yeah the credit card thing makes sense – I’m sure no airline in the US cares about that either.  I’m sure I’m overthinking that!  When we travel domestically we use just our driver’s license for ID, and I had to change that ASAP, so I have to book in my new name.  I suppose for international travel I could have not changed my passport and just book the ticket in my maiden name – why didn’t I think of that??? 😉

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I got married in NYC and as PP have stated, you just need to state your new last name in the marriage license.  If you opt to change your last name at a later time, though, the process gets more complicated.  In my case I didn’t take my husband’s last name, I opted to follow my home country’s tradition and kept my birth given last names.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

starsr:  Not quite… well not in Victoria at least.  What we sign at the ceremony is simply ceremonial… has no legal effect.  I’ve actually just paid up my $30 to apply for my official marriage certificate through BDM which will allow me to start the name change process – you need three certified pieces of ID for that & it has to be from a police member or JP!  

It’s more complicated than I would have thought, I ordered a name change pack online and I’m glad I did because it’s nice to have something that takes me through it step by step and there are so many places to think of that I wouldn’t have considered… highly recommend it for other Aussie brides http://www.afterthewedding.com.au/

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

oneofthesethings:  I also have a current ESTA (Travel Authorization) from the US Department of Homeland Security and just the idea of attempting to change the details on that was exhausting! So I shall definitely be visiting the US in my maiden name for a little while yet! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

In Spain we don’t take our husband’s name.

I think we are one of the few nationalities where people have two family names (our father’s name and our mother’s name) and I doubt there’s the possibility of taking your husband’s name. (Thou you can change the order of your family names and put your mum’s name first).

What some women sometimes do is to add her husband’s first name after hers. For instance, if you are called “María López(dad’s name) García(mom’s name)” and your husband is “Mario Pérez González” you can sign as “María López de González“.

I hope I explained it properly 

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