Post # 1
I personally cannot bring myself to use the word fiance. My SO has no problem calling me that though. For me to say the word it feels as if I have to change my accent to a horrible British accent just to call it. The word is almost too formal! To make this worse, I’ve read an article on The Offbeat Bride that made the situation much worse.
Now I don’t really want to use the word because I don’t want to constantly walk around telling everyone that we are about to be married (since that word alone says all of that). On this website I use “SO”, in real life I would never say “My significant other”.
Saying “My boyfriend” is kinda like lying… so does “My husband”. Right now, I only call his name without stating the relationship status.
Do you say “Fiance” or do you introduce your SO another way?
Post # 3
I used to say “partner” because we didn’t have a date set for a very long time, and as soon as I used fiancé I started getting wedding questions. For a long time I didn’t confirm I was engaged unless my ring was noticed.
Post # 4
his name. or ‘partner’. ‘fiance’ reminds me of the dingo episode of seinfeld.. it sounds a bit froufrou
Post # 5
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I don’t like the name fiance/fiancee either, so I call him my boyfriend. I have a ring on my finger, so people know I’m engaged.
Post # 6
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I feel the same way about the ‘f’ word. If I’m really comfortable with a person, I sometimes refer to my fiance as ‘my bloke’! Sometimes I say ‘my other half’ in a casual situation; most times I just say ‘partner’.
I understand that it’s quite common in the US for the word ‘partner’ to imply that my significant other is the same gender as I am (ref: Lady Gaga mistakenly thinking our former female prime minister was a lesbian)! But it’s not that way in Australia.
One of the reasons I can’t wait to call him my ‘husband’ – it’ll just be so much easier, haha.
Post # 7
@ksus07: I agree, husband is so much nicer sounding and just easier!
Post # 8
Not engaged, but I also don’t like the term boyfriend bc we are more than that. I have no problem saying significant other in real life even though it’s a mouthful. I also like partner as other bees have suggested, but I also do associate it with same sex couples out of default but I still use it. If I’m talking to a friend or more casually I like to say “man friend” because I think it’s cute 🙂
Post # 9
I just say his first name, and let my ring and body language tell the rest of the story. I don’t have a problem with the F word, I just feel like that woman on Seinfeld when I use it a lot in social gatherings. (For reference: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04ueFND7JT4)
However, at my aunt’s Christmas party this year, I had no problem with her introducing him as my fiance.
Post # 10
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I referred to him as my boyfriend until the moment we were declared husband and wife. Fiancé just sounds weird to me.
Post # 11
It is a little weird, like I’m fishing for a complement or well wishes. I do introduce him as my fiance if mentioning our relationship if relevant to the conversation, because that’s what he is!
Post # 12
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I hate saying fiancé! I always feel like I’m forcing the other person to congratulate me on our engagement. I just feel silly, like I’m showing off. When we are married though I will totally rock “husband”! I can’t wait!
Post # 13
@pocketfox: that made me laugh so hard!! Another reason why I hate saying it.
I can’t do the Fiance thing.
Post # 14
@tiff-tiff-tiff: I’ve just noticed that I don’t say fiance either! It feels awkward.
I usually refer to him as my partner, but he calls me his fiance!
Post # 15
I called him finace. However, it took a while to get used to that. Then, after we were married it took a while to get used to calling him husband – I would constantly slip up and refer to him as my fiance.
The thing I *hated* was “boyfriend”. We were together 12 years when we got engaged, had lived together for 7, and owned a home together for 5. To me, I just felt so high school referring to him as my boyfriend and I absolutely hated it. For the past few years before we got engaged I would refer to him by his name. 😉
Post # 16
I only you fiance when I’m trying to be cute other then that I use his name or boyfriend