Post # 1
I pretty much keep all the basics. Pictures and videos (not the dirty or inappropriate ones though), Presents (unless it’s null and void in my current relationship ie: a picture frame engraved with our names on it), anything we purchased “together” that became mine in the split ie: my awesome mirror, notes (if I think they had significance to that relationship), etc…I DON’T keep things I think are stupid like stuffed animals and the small little sticky notes he left me every morning, and I DON’T keep anything that was his, no matter how much I liked it! Such as his gym shorts that I loved to sleep in… I have new ones now 🙂
Also, what do you think is “inappropriate” to keep”? Naked pictures or videos, lingerie, stuffed animals, small love notes….?
Post # 3
I was going to answer nothing because I DID throw away everything, except for one item. It’s even been broken (on accident during our move), but I kept the cross from a wind-chime my ex-boyfriend gave me. He died last year. He tried to give me the world and rush into marriage and everything, well more like his mother tried to push that one more than anything. But, I still keep the cross, even though it’s in bad shape. All the other items from past relationships I have tossed, there’s too much hurt and hate tied to those items that were tossed. Who wants to keep crap from cheating ex’s anyways? :
Edit – I do think it is innapropriate to keep naked pictures of your ex’s, but to each their own. :shrug: To me it seems like there is some sexual pull toward the ex, which if your current lover were to find could cause a bit of an issue. Some men and women are pretty insecure when it comes to their birthday suit.
Post # 4
@RenoRose: I’m like you. They don’t have much sentimental value for me any more, but I’m the worst packrat and hate throwing things away. Watch me on Hoarders in a couple more years. :p
Post # 5
Threw everything and I sold the jewelry on ebay.
Post # 6
I keep photos because those are memories of my life – and if I throw them away I won’t have those memories anymore. It doesn’t bother me that exes are in photos…that was a time in my life and he was part of that time.
I also have some jewellery (necklaces, earrings) and other gifts – they don’t have sentimental value I just look at them as material things that I like.
ETA: Just to explain – I don’t have any harsh bad feelings towards any of my exes. So it might be a different case if I had hard feelings toward them, things ended badly, etc.
Post # 7
I have pictures still. That was 7 1/2 years of my life, I can’t just throw all of those pictures away. I gave away pretty much everything else…. except a diamond bracelet b/c it’s pretty.
Post # 8
@MademoiselleL: Ditto. I’m still friendly with mine.
Post # 9
I have a few pictures scattered in various boxes of my millions of other pictures that I never look at. When I first started dating my ex he had framed pictures of his ex and him all over his bedroom and didn’t understand why that bothered me. I had to take them down myself. I’m certain he was obsessed with her for our entire relationship but that was probably for the best as he was a total dumbass loser. I think it would be inappropriate to save nudie pictures, sex tapes, lingerie, and pretty much anything that symbolized the sexual relationship.
Post # 10
A few photos, and small things like birthday cards. My ex and I were on and off for 5 years, we were best friends too. Our relationship wasn’t bad at all, just the long distance thing was killing me. Once my current SO came into the picture, he couldn’t bare to see me with someone else so we lost touch. I only kept a few things because even if it did end, at one point I was happy, and it always makes me laugh thinking how young and stupid I was back then!
Post # 11
That’s an interesting thread because recently i was thinking about decluttering and throwing everything away that is not related to DH and me as a couple.
I keep all photos because like a PP mentioned they are a part of my life and i could never throw them away. But i also have some jewelry and little gifts as well as cards or letters. They don’t have a sentimental value but i like having memories. And it doesn’t matter if it is from an ex boyfriend or any other friend, it’s just the same like keeping things from my childhood or from the years before i met DH.
I have “memory boxes” everywhere and we could really need more space in our appartment. I already threw some things away, but i’m still undecided if i should get rid of everything else now that we’re married.
Post # 12
The only thing I’ve ever kept from a previous relationship was my child. His sperm donor gave me a ring (he was cheating and wanted me to stay around) but I sold that mofo and bought my son toys with the money.
Post # 13
I have nothing. My ex of 3.5 years doesn’t deserve a memory In any shape or form.
Post # 14
Absolutely nothing. It’s very cleansing not to keep anything for me. I’ve only wanted one thing from an ex and that was our dog that he never took care of. I was in school and couldn’t take care of her at that time but would have done anything to have her and he just wouldn’t budge. I was devastated when I found out he just gave her away 9 mths later; I was out of school then and in my own place and I could have taken her. Jackhole!
Post # 15
I have all our pictures on harddrives and the ones that were printed for albums. We were together 6 years so we did a lot of traveling and stuff, so its not just “us” pictures, but a big part of my life. I have a few piece of jewerly also but I don’t really wear it. Little stuff animals and other things, I just started decluttering and throwing away. I’m moved in with FI now, so it just didnt seem right to move those little things along with me to our new house and life.
Post # 16
I didn’t keep anything. I gave the ring back too. When I’m done, I’m done.