Post # 1
My husband and I are currently TTC. But we are also trying to budget for what items we will need to purchase when/if we actually conceive. I was looking around for ideas on baby registry sites (not making a registry, obviously…just scoping out what they suggest to register for)….but…
Is ALL this stuff necessary?!?!?!?!?!
My mind is just boggled right now. Granted, I don’t have any kids yet & neither does Darling Husband. Heck, I don’t even have nieces or nephews and the last time I was really around a baby for any amount of time was when I was 5 and my little brother was just born.
Does one really need a crib, a bassinet, AND a pack n’ play? It seems like many of these items have multiple uses (or maybe I am wrong and you shouldn’t let a baby sleep in a pack n’ play??). How many blankets, onesies, pacifiers, outfits, etc. are really necessary at first? The humidifier, stroller, breastfeeding pillows, car seats, baby carriers….I’m on brain overload. I know some of these are must haves, but which ones? I’m just trying to get a rough idea, as we live really far away from family so we probably would just end up buying everything we need ourselves instead of having a shower.
Does anyone have any comprehensive lists of “You MUST have X,Y, and Z when you have a baby” that I can look at??
Post # 4
@Tangled: True. Very true. The last thing I’d want is to have a naked baby randomly pooing at-will throughout our house on everything. 😛
So many of these things they listed are things I don’t remember my parents having when my brother was born (of course, I was probably too busy playing with My Little Ponies to really notice what all went on back then).
Post # 5
What do babies do? Eat, sleep, and poop. So you have to be able to feed them: bottles/formula or a good nursing bra and maybe a pump and something to freeze milk in. They need to sleep (on their back): a safe crib and sleep sack or swaddling blankets. They need to be kept clean: some baby shampoo and diapers, wipes, etc. If you have to take them anywhere (like home from the hospital) you need a carseat. It’s a pain, but you can move the same one to different cars.
Babies can use adult furniture for their tiny clothes. They can sleep in a pack-n-play. They can wear the same outfit more than once (although they make a lot of messes, so unless you like doing laundry 3x a day, it’s nice to have a lot of onsies).
Post # 6
Stroller and car seat
place to sleep (whether that be bassinet or crib or whatever else) and mattress
place to change bum (whether that be a dresser with a pad on top or a dedicated changing table)
place to put clothes
Diapers and diaper changing supplies (wipes, cream, etc)
place to bathe baby and supplies
Nice to have:
breast pump (although this might be a necessity, it depends on the individual)
Also? Don’t worry about the onesie/clothes thing. Please loooooooooooove buying baby clothes. It’s like they go craycray when confronted with the adorable cuteness.
Post # 7
Thanks you guys!! This is really helpful!! I feel like looking at baby registries was giving me the same gross feeling as looking at wedding registries (ie. “I’ve never EVER used crystal before, nor a butter dish, , nor a punch bowl, nor a cheese keeper….why would I register for this again?!?!”).
And my second thought (after the sticker shock) was….where do you PUT all the things?? IF we had a big ol’ crib, a bassinet, and a pack n’ play (along with the baby furniture, the cute changing table, and all 200 other things we are supposed to find necessary)….we’d need at least two more bedrooms for one very wee child. The logistics were confusing! I don’t mind having lots of onesies ready….I’m just thinking that the oh-so-necessary Pooh Bear dresser might not be oh-so-necessary once the kid gets a bit older…and then you’re stuck with all this stuff that is quickly outgrown. :/
Post # 8
Diapers, a place for the baby to sleep, something for the baby to wear, and something for the baby to eat 🙂 after the first couple of weeks, you can gauge to see what else you need (we bring the baby to my moms, we need a pack and play; the baby loves to be rocked, we need a swing; etc) but do not feel like you need to stock up on this stuff…I really think the whole baby buying consumerism industry is worse than the wedding (this coming from someone who cried and fought for a $600 stroller before the baby was even born).
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel
Necessities: diapers, a form of food (boobs/breast pads, or formula/bottles), a place to put them to sleep, and a car seat. Clothing is necessary for outings and cold weather, things like onesies. A swing or bouncer isn’t necessary but a sanity saver. I have a 2.5 year old, and we used: diapers, the carseat with the stroller frame for it (60 bucks on Amazon), a bassinet, a manual hand-pump for my boobs, onesies and socks, an infant tub with bath products, gripe water and burp cloths.
Post # 10
Diapers, wipes, a blanket, a car seat, and bottles/nipples.
Post # 11
If you’re having your baby during a cooler season, for clothes, I would recommend footed sleepers. My little one wore those mostly for the first few months.
They’re easy for diaper changes, comfortable for baby (I hated fussing with my tiny baby, trying to get things over her head or putting pants on, etc), and keep their little toes covered better than socks (which never stay on at that age!).
Post # 12
Bottles if you do not plan on breastfeeding.
A basket (I would never bother with a bassinette)
A bag to carry baby stuff
A few baby clothes – onsies, a few sleepers, etc. Usually everyone else will give you clothes or hand them down. Yard sales are great place to get baby clothes.
Heaven knows, if I had it to do all over again, that’s ALL I would buy.
Post # 13
This sounds bad, but we put a registery together with some things we just want and it comes to $3,000. I feel like what every child needs is so different. I have heard from many moms that they can’t live without a swing or a bouncer… so we put both on our list. We got a pack and play only because we travel often… otherwise we would just get a crib. It really is overwhelming but I have found that it is less like the wedding registry because at the end of the day we are confident we will buy everything off our registry because we will need it. Of course a baby can survive on much less, but thats our perspective
Post # 14
You are all so helpful! I am making a list of all these so that I can sit down with my husband this weekend and really see what this will cost us. So far, I’ve got:
Something to sleep in & a mattress for it
Onesies (footed ones for winter!)…but don’t worry too much about stocking up in case we get random gifts
Baby bath tub
Swing or bouncer would be nice 🙂
High Chair somewhere down the road
This is already seeming more manageable!!!
ETA: I’ve actually made a fair amount of diaper covers, burp cloths, baby blankets, and onesies….and my craft bag is actually a diaper bag, so I’ve already got those covered!
Post # 15
Diapers and a car seat. Dh was raised in the woods on less than that!
Post # 16
@cbee: LOL…yeah. I’m pretty sure my mom just plopped us in the kitchen sink for bath times! I know that some things on my list are still just “nice to haves”…but I think at least breaking it down this way will make it less terrifying for my husband!