Post # 1
So, this is a work-related question but not really. Related to boyfriends-dating-sexuality-the first time, I have to remember what things I cared about or worried me when I was a teenager. I remember worrying about how and where to get birth control, how to make it to the doctor either without my mom or telling her without dying of embarrasment, I remember thinking of where my bf and I would have our first time, I worried about meeting his parents and I definitely worried he would leave me and I wouldn’t be a virgin anymore and I’d be “tainted” for my next boyfriend. Luckily my thoughts on this have evolved!! Do you remember any stories from that time or specific worries? Care to share?
Post # 2
I didn’t have my first boyfriend until I was 19, so my typical teenage worries had little to do with sex. My worries were more along the lines of, “Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life? Probably,” “Will I ever move out of my parents’ house?” “Will I ever make something of myself — will I have a good career?” “Will these people and I continue being friends when we get older?” “Will people, will boys, be kinder to me if I lose weight, if I look better…?” “If I get a job, will I like it? Will my boss treat me fairly?”
I worried about starting college and whether I’d be too “stupid” to get through it. In retrospect, it was a breeze. I worried about not fitting in, about going through the next 4 or 5 years feeling lonely. I worried about what kind of job I’d be able to get with my degree.
Post # 3
CookieCreamCakes: That’s very interesting. My worries didn’t have anything to do with that. It’s fascinating to see how other people operate.
Post # 4
I was just thinking the other day that as a teenager I would listen to the radio a LOT more. I would even tape the top 40 count down or songs that I loved so I could listen to them on my super cool totally awesome walk man. Just the free time we had to do nothing but listen to music/the radio really strikes me now that my schedule is filled to the brim.
Post # 5
I was obsessed with watching music videos in the morning and finding indie and underground artists that no one knew of. I went to an all girls school, so I was also obsessed with thoughts of boys. I was super insecure, class -clown like, president of all the clubs weirdo. I wasn’t allowed to talk to boys on the phone, date, drive, go to dances, basically anything that makes being a teenager fun.lol My parents were SUPER STRICT. Thinking about it now, I’d give anything to be back in that place. Being an adult isn’t that much fun. lol
Post # 6
I remember thinking ‘Everyone says these are the best years of my life. If that’s true than please just kill me now.’ I hated being a teenager, I was every bit the nerdy artsy girl and my motto was ‘blend and fit in so I can survive’. It wasn’t until my 30s that I started to hit my stride and get things together.
Post # 7
I generally enjoyed high school, but I definitely wish I had worried less about what others thought of me. I was fairly popular and well-liked, but I was always SO concerned with what other people thought about me (and still am, to a degree). I think I would have had a lot more fun if I had just done what I wanted and not worried about competing with everyone else.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Ohh, the teenage years. I liked internet forums, AIM, LotR, Hot Topic, straightening my long hair every day, and “monkey cheese spoon lol sooo random!!” shit.
I remember being really excited for college. Moving out, being treated like a grown up, meeting the man of my dreams… lol. I didn’t date in high school and I knew my parents met in college so I figured the same would happen to me. I lucked out, because now I know that it’s CLEARLY not a given that everyone graduates with a SO.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I didn’t date in high school– not really by choice. But I had no intention of losing my virginity until I was “in love” so I didn’t spend time worrying about sex. I did obsess about boys. And cool odd thrift store clothes. I was also really into alternative music (it wsa the 80s) and writing, as well, so I spent a lot of time thinking about them. I made loads of mixed tapes, ha ha!!
Post # 10
I had a pretty sweet teenage life. I got straight A’s and never got in any trouble, so my family relationship was awesome too. I’ve always been close to my family and they didn’t have any of the typical teenage bullshit to hate me for. I also really enjoyed figure skating and all the fun stuff that came with that. My life was pretty much just skating, school/friends, family time and planning the future and how excited I was for university.
Post # 11
I was often the one that was left out. I was the skinny not pretty one. I worried about my looks I worried about being popular.
I struggled with anorexia for most of my teenage years so I spent a lot of time on my own. I was depressed and worried I would never get into a good and happy place again.
At 16 I left school and went to college. This is where things got better for me. My worries then were how I would do on my college course, would I find a boyfriend and how to tell my parents when I did.
I always worried about what other think and still do to a certain extent now too.
I cared about my family, my pets and what others thought. I didnt have too many hobbies and interests. I was a bit of a recluse.
Post # 12
I dont remember much at all. I have a terrible memory and usually need to have my mind jogged or see pictures to remember most things.
Post # 13
bebero: im a totally different person but i had a horrible guy i thought i was in love with. lost my V at 17 (even though we were on and off started at age 13: first kiss and what not) he started treating me not so great after that. i made out with a lot of different guys when him and i were not dating but i always went back to him. Even though he was abusive and told everyone i was a slut. I was a stupid girl. my dad died at 17 too. that same year. so i had to grow up fast and move out, and take care of myself. my mom got a boyfriend fast because she didnt know how to care for herself and well she needed a man at the time to do that. i partied hard, got caught by the cops several times and had to go to jail. it was a hard teenage life for me. i remember thinking my first time would be so special but it wasnt. next guy i slept with ended up being my DH so… yeah it all worked out. he showed me what true love really ment and i remember thinking how different the real world was. (i grew up in a native american village: aways from civilization) now i have a wonderfully meaningful job (in cancer prevention: dad passed from cancer) a wonderful DH and great friends. my teenage life greatly affected my adult life. but to any trouble teens i meet. i tell them my story. high school sucks and you start to realize there is way more to life then friends and partys and boys. as a teenager i thought i would prob end up prego and not married, without an education stuck in the same town as an alcoholic. but no i went to college and moved to the “city” trying to make a differnce in the world and im also not a big drinker anymore. 😉
Post # 14
bebero: ugh! I hated my teenage years lol! The main thing I remember is A LOT of issues with my mother (she eventually walked out on my dad and the four of us when I was 16 and we have barely spoken since) then rebelling and drinking too much alcohol at far too young an age because of this ;/
But then I also remember picking myself up from that and making sure I had a good education, buying a house and living/working in 8 different countries by the time I met my FI at 22… my teenage years made me who I am today so I have no regrets 🙂
Post # 15
souza_2005: thank you for sharing! You should be so proud of yourself for coming through all that and now building a life on the other side…You sound like a very strong and resilient person… Your DH sounds like an amazing guy too 🙂