(Closed) What do you say?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I usually just focus on something I do like about the baby, like “he has the greenest eyes” or something like that. THat way I am not lying but I am not hurting the parent’s feelings either.

Post # 4
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

In my line of work I have to say something all the time!!! I see lots and lots of FLKs (Funny looking kids) in my line of work :).  It’s always hard, but I’ve come up with a series of things I say such as,

“Oh, he’s such a little peanut!” or

“You must just adore him so much” or

“Babies are so precious, aren’t they?”

Sometimes I’m able to say,

“Oh she’s adorable!” even if she isn’t necessarily a good looking baby, just because she does something endearing when I look at her.  I feel like it all just rolls off the tongue effortlessly these days after years of practice!  (And absolutely no lies here!)

Post # 5
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh, s/he’s so tiny!

haha, great question. Most babies aren’t that cute for a little while anyway, so talking about how small their hands or feet or something are seems to get me thru. 😛



Post # 6
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I lie. Ugly babies are just one of those situations in which you have to lie.

I don’t like lieing in general of course, but I think the “ugly baby” is one of those situations you get a free pass on.

Post # 7
1251 posts
Bumble bee

I used to be a photographer, and oh wow, when people came in with ugly babies, it was a bad situation. You just have to be fake. No one wants to hear that their babies are ugly.


Plus, you have to keep good baby karma.

Post # 8
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve known some gosh-darn ugly babies that turned into beautiful little people!  Odd how that happens….

I was an ugly baby.  I have huge eyes and everyone said I just looked like a furbie.  She said people used to look in the stroller and then gasp and jump back! lol…. Whatever, now I get compliments on my eyes about 3 or 4 times a week. literally.


Rock on ugly babies!  Things may just work out in your favor!!!!

Post # 9
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

LOL @ good baby karma!

I’ll try and say something like, “Oh I think they have your eyes or nose or whatever.”  Something neutral. 

I think a lot of babies look weird when they’re first born and get cuter later on!! 

Post # 10
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I was a CUTE baby.

I have no idea WTH happened.


Post # 11
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

LOL @ VirginiaMarie –

“I just looked like a furbie.” – I bet you’re glad you have big eyes now! I wish I had big eyes!

side note: did you know that babies eyes and adult eyes are the same size? They never change. It’s because having large eyes is a “baby” characteristic in both people and animals, and it’s to help incite feelings of “protection” towards the infant? I thought that was so cool when I found out 🙂 I’m sure most people already know this, but I’m sharing just in case!

Post # 12
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I usually just pick some other quality, “Oh, how darling/precious/adorable/what a sweetheart!” etc.  I agree that honesty about their looks should not be commented on! 

Post # 13
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

My niece was darn ugly as a baby because my SIL has thyroid issues.  She had these crazy buggy eyes!  We’d usually say “She looks just like you!”  And then they were both happy, LOL!

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