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I have always wondered what people say when they don't really like something that they have requested to see. As in "let me see your e-ring!!!" And then when they don't like it, what to say? This is purely hypothetical. I myself have a 1.5 solotaire, so although it is not everyone's taste, it's a nice size and the cut and clarity is AMAZING!!! (clearly I adore my e-ring), anywayz, the reason I am aasking is that I am really just curious.
I lie and say all the same things I would if I thought it was beautiful. Same goes for ugly babies, bad haircuts, and questionable outfits. If it were a sibling or extremely close friend I might say something about the clothes or hair, but never ever about the other two - not even to my own twin.
Or, if you wanna avoid lying, you can just smile and say something like "You're gonna be a beautiful bride" or "How did he propose" or something? Just avoid describing the ring at all.
What an great way to get out of something! Emily Post would be proud! I'm going to use the "how did he propose."
You are right, you can never tell anyone that they have an ugly baby or e-ring. Although there are some rude people who will still "say it" without saying it!
i would lie through my teeth!
I figured out on labor and delivery when parents picked questionable names for their kids the best response when I am really suprised is just to say "how unique! who came up with that?!" and I think something similar works for strange E rings- "how unique! did you pick it our did he? its so sparkly"
Looks like many people already have a very polite and pc way of saying things. I think that's cool. So many people do not mind hurting someone's feelings. All under the umbrella of: Well. I'm just being honest. I am a very honest person." That is such rubbish, it's just an excuse to be nasty when you feel like it. I think anyway. I am also a blunt person, but I know that it is not always appropriate!
I lie, and tell them it's beautiful.
I know my taste is pretty different then most. I'm into not into modern, so this happens quite offten.
"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all," is the first thing that runs through my head!
I wouldn't lie, but I wouldn't tell them that I didn't like it (they obviously do!). I agree with erinleigh1. I'd ask them for details on the date they're getting married, how he proposed, wedding colors, etc.
Definately either lie - "it's lovely" or avert with something like "you must be so excited" or "I'm so happy for you" My mother barely reacted to my ring and it really hurt my feelings, so I would never do that do someone else. Even if someone's ring isn't beautiful to me, it's beautiful to them and has great meaning to them - looked at it that way, every ring is beautiful in it's own way, even if it's not to one's taste :o)
@Cappugcino: That's a great way of putting it. "Even if someone's ring isn't beautiful to me, it's beautiful to them and has great meaning to them - looked at it that way, every ring is beautiful in it's own way, even if it's not to one's taste :o)"
I always say SOMETHING when someone shows me her ring. If I don't like it I'll lie. It really doesn't matter what I think, just what she thinks. I once had someone ask to see my ring, look at it and say absolutely nothing. It was very awkward. I understand that my sapphire e-ring is different than many people's idea of what an e-ring should be, but at least acknowledge it!
I say "It's very nice!"
Definitely not "It's perfect for you." I've had someone say that to me and it sat the wrong way with me. It's an underhanded dig. To me anyway.
I always say no matter what "It's beautiful!" Really, how hard is it just to say that, you know?
"It's beautiful". It's easy enough to lie and spare their feelings than dance around the subject.
You lie and say "Oh it's beautiful!" then move on. This is like askng what you are supposed to say when someone's baby is less than fortunate looking.
Say it's unique, beautiful, how did he propose, etc. Rings are like favorite colors - I hate orange but other people definitely love it, and there are people who don't like pink (my favorite) That doesn't make them pretty or ugly - it's just personal taste. To that bride, her ring is the most beautiful, so just because you don't like it, doesn't make it ugly. One of my good friends got an e-ring I would never, ever, want, but she absolutely loved it - you ooo and ahhh and ask if he picked it out, yada yada everyone's happy :)
If the ring isn't my taste I still tell them the ring is beautiful, because its true. Weather or not I think its beautiful if she loves it and thinks so then it is beautiful to someone. :-) I would never say something bad about someones ring, IDC if it was a ring pop I would simply ask them how he proposed? Or something along those lines.
I say something like "oh my god, it's so pretty and sparkly". Same answer as if I loved it.
I always say congratulations and that it's so gorgeous...
even if I don't like it, I'm sure the girl who's rocking it does! No need to make a girl feel bad just because her ring isn't my taste. :)
I've only ran across a few that I don't genuinely like, and the tend to be very gaudy, so it usually goes, 'wow, your ring is so large!' It's a compliment and still the truth :).
"Its beautiful!" then move on to the proposal or the date before they can say/ask anything else about the ring.
I always lie when they ask, I very rarely like anyone else's engagement rings.. I mean, I'm pretty sure the only engagement ring I've seen on a real life person that I like is my own.. I'm terrible.
"Wow, it's beautiful!" To not say anything about it or change the subject seems to be the same as flat out saying "I don't like your ring" It's really not that hard to lie and say it's pretty - it's not going to hurt anyone or anything and it will make the bride happy. It just seems to be common courtesy to me.
All awkwardness could be avoided if you don't request to see the ring in the first place. You'd probably see it in passing anyway. And if the person happens to show it to you, just say, "Congrats!"
I probably wouldn't say anything. I'm not really one to ask to see a ring, but if I did I would just be like ok, nice. You just have to know me I'm not a big gusher.
I would say congrats and its beautiful because the meaning behind it is so lovely. I don't think there is a ring I haven't liked because its so much more than just a ring.
I say "Congrats, it's very pretty!" The bride to be doesn't really care about your opinion if you don't like her ring 
@GeorgiaTeacup: Exactly! I actually hate when people ask to see my ring, or worse, just grab for my hand. I absolutely love my ring, but I feel a little embarrassed showing anything off and wish I wasn't put in that position.
I honestly wouldn't appreciate anyone lying to me no matter how small a lie, and I don't think asking about the ring and then changing the subject is a polite thing to do either. So the only thing left for me is not asking in the first place.
Saying nothing would be the best way. Since it wouldn't be nice otherwise, and no bride wants to hear how awful her ring looks... But I did like one bee's comment of telling her CONGRATULATIONS!! A great way to avoid an awkward event.
I would never say I don't like it. I would usually then ask about the wedding plans.
I've never really been in this situation...
But I would say the same stuff, "It's beautiful, you must be so happy, how did he propose" etc.
But this does make me think of my pediatrician.
If the baby wasn't beautiful he said "Now that's a baby!" LOL
I don't see the point of hurting someone's feelings. Saying that a ring (that you don't like) is beautiful isn't a horrible lie. It's a way of not being cruel. As a PP said the ring is probably the most beautiful thing in the world to it's owner. Why give her a complex?
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