What do you say to people when they make annoying comments?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 4
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Sugar bee

“Wow, it’s really incredible what some people think is appropriate to say to a pregnant woman.”

Especially effective when paired with a cold stare.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Wow, time to get a new realtor.   People say rude things –  comeback with “We are so lucky to be blessed with two joyful occassions” or “Seriously, those words came out of your mouth? ”  or “If you’re not comfortable being professional with us than we’ll have to change realtors”

I was pregnant with twins (hospitalized at 16wks) but people would say “giving birth to the whole fleet?” or “you look like you’re gonna pop right now”  —  It got to the point where I just looked at a man and said, “I pitty your wife, I’m sure it wasn’t worth the money”  

So sorry you had to endure such harshness.  I’m betting hubby has learned a lesson in speaking up rather than over.  In my family it’s tradition that your husband buys you diamonds with each birth, the more he misbehaves/doesn’t defend wife the bigger or more you get (kind of gets them with guilt of their actions & labor pains) = can’t wait to see your bling. 

 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

With the sweetest smile possible, look the person in the eye and say, “Thank you for your unsolicited opinion”.

That should put them in their place!

Congratulations on your baby!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I really wish I was from the south so I could respond to rude remarks like that with “Well bless your heart!”

You could probably still say it anyway.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@ap_event:  In this situation, you’d have to add something. “Bless your heart, didn’t anybody ever tell you a baby will come in its own time?” Or “Bless your heart, you’ve never tried to plan a baby have you? They don’t come when you want them to, they come when they’re good and ready.” Really neither of those sound just right but jumping right from “Well that was poor planning” to “bless your heart” doesn’t make a lot of sense. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Be honest with your respsone and blame it on hormones.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would let her know she’s fired, and why. what an idiotic comment. Congrats on your pregnancy 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@bloodgo1:  I’d get a new realtor for sure! She doesn’t deserve commission with such a rude comment. How unprofessional! Sorry you had to deal with a comment like that:( I would have just laughed it off like you did and gotten DH to call later and fire her.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@bloodgo1:  People are rude. I have let so many comments slide, and I will let them slide when they happen in the workplace, but I am starting to become more bold when it comes to family and strangers. I am tired of the unsolicited belly touchers, the chubby comments, everything. There are 4 people that can touch my belly: DH, my doctor, my nurse, and my mom. Everyone else is getting their belly touched back if they don’t ask. As far as comments, I am just going to start speaking up. If they are rude enough to say it I shouldn’t have to feel bad about saying something back.

Fire the realtor for her idiotic comment, and find someone new.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@bloodgo1:  if someone asks an invasive question- are you having twins?- I think the best response is “why do you ask?”  Not sure it works in this situation, but put it in your pocket for the future. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

People are so ridiculous, but there are some great responses on here- I will have to remember those!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Please are rude and insenstive. I am a teacher and one of my parents yesterday asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I didn’t know so I just say I’m easy to shop for because I appreicate anything. And she responded with “well I know you’re easy that is how you got pregnant.” I almost cried. I’m married for Gods sake. I’m sorry people are making comments to you. People are just don’t think these days before they take it seems. 

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