(Closed) What do you say to people who groan about your upcoming full mass?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve groaned to the bride. 1.5 hours is a long damn time to sit there it’s 5 times as long when you aren’t religious.

…yet I have to go out of respect for the couple but I don’t have to like it! LOL.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my wannabe MOH said “ugh, so are you going to have one of those long ass Catholic ceremonies then?” yeeeeeeeah… needless to say it solidified my decision to not have her as a bridesmaid! FH’s not Catholic so no, we’re not having a “long ass Catholic ceremony”. i get that it seems long (45 minutes is apparently long), but i don’t get why people think it’s permissible to knock someone’s religious tradition. for just a random rude person, i’d probably just call them out on it or have a comeback in my back pocket and move on. Undecided

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

“Is it going to be 2 hours long?”

“What is all that sitting and standing and kneeling for? Do I have to do it?”

“Do you really have to have a long ceremony like that?”

It’s not an 1.5 or 2 hours, An hour at the most. I mean you are getting free booze after. Don’t complain.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t knock catholics as I am one myself, respect religion yes. I can however if I choose to make my dislike of “long ass” ceremonies. Let’s face it nearly 2 hours to sit through a mass when you’re not even of that religion is a very, very long time no matter what way you try to spin it. Though everyone has the right to choose the ceremony as they wish, you can’t really blame us for not being all that thrilled about it can ya?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@vmec: if it were 2 hours, then yeah i’d agree. around here though, i haven’t heard of one lasting even an hour… i guess it’s a regional thing since Klb’s agreed it’s an hour at the most. for me, i’d rather sit through 45 minutes of a different religious ceremony that i may not understand than hear my friend’s internet-ordained uncle stumble awkwardly over his script for 20 minutes, but i still wouldn’t complain to her about her choice of ceremony. if someone’s so put out by having to attend their friend’s chosen wedding ceremony that they have to voice their discontent to the host couple, then why go?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Would you like a straw so you can suck it up?  Laughing

I couldn’t resist.  You can’t please everyone; try not to worry about it.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

One of our GMs has teased me for years that he’d bring a book to read during my wedding…we bought him a guide to the Mass.  😉

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

90% of our guests are going to be Catholic.

I find the quick ceremonies, even when they are in a church, too quick and often not as meaningful. A lot of times the pastor/minster is stumbling over words and one I went to the bride and groom didn’t even look at each other and the bride didn’t say her vows. I just don’t feel it as much.

When you are going to someone’s wedding, in respect to them you are agreeing to participate in their ceremony by going. Even if it were a 2 hour mass. If you don’t want to sit through it don’t go.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Klb5882: Wait a sec, “we” can’t put down a long ass ceremony but “you” can call short and sweet ones not meanigful… Ummm… I beg to differ. Just beacuse catholics have a long ass mass doesn’t make it ANY more meaningful then the “short and sweets”

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@elliestan: I guess so here, catholic ceremonies are at LEAST 1.5 hours…

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@vmec: I agree with this quite a lot.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

 Double post.

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