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No one says that to me because I'm older and blunt lol. I usually say the sex is too good for me not to.
hahahahahahaha thats amazing, I wish I were that blunt lol
;) This southern belle has bite... but here they call it sass lol!!!
I usually just look at them..say nothing and move along lol I can't stand when people say that!
lol @ creb
Something along the lines of, "That's such an odd thing to say, considering you're married..." works wonders.
I find that sincerity can really take the air out of a blowhard. "Oh no, do you really hate Fiance that much?" If they do have serious doubts, that's hard to hear but good to know. Otherwise, to continue "joking" like that is pretty mean-spirited and hard to do if you have the big eyes out.
When some of FI's friends responded to the news of our engagement with "about time!" I wish I had straight away said that that hurt my feelings, so it could have stopped. Pointing out that something isn't funny, it's mean, is really necessary sometimes, and I always feel good about standing up for myself (too bad it's too late to call them on it now!).
lol creb..
thats a good idea.. saying something that will MAKE THEM uncomfertable.. possibly. haha
Yes, I get this sometimes. If it's coming from family or close friends, I don't get upset. I'm only 22 and been with FI for 3 years - of course they're worried about me, we're taking this huge chance together and they just want me to be okay. So I usually say, "We're sure and we're very happy about the upcoming wedding - what are your concerns?" And then I try to address those concerns.
If it's an acquaintance, then of course it's none of their business and I get really annoyed.
It's a really nosy and disrespectful thing to say. You could always respond like "Well, good think I'm not marrying you!"
No one I know has said that to me (only strangers in passing) and I usually say, "Oh, I'm really looking forward to it!"
but I would like to say..."Just because you made a bad decision/are a poor spouse doesn't mean i did/am!"
YEah, I just think most people dont know how stupid they sound and how hurtful it can be. Sometimes all i can think is....man their married life must suck!
Yup,I have gotten this before. Ive gotten it mostly from males though! All the females Ive told have been excited (yay weddings!) and then some of the men are skeptical. Who really cares though - if you know you are happy and it feels right for you then it doesnt matter what other people say!
I would call them out. Calmly: "Wow, that's a really rude thing to say!"
I got that today! I was leaving work on my lunch break to pick up my wedding license and my co-worker was saying. "Don't do it.. DON'T do it!" Jokingly but almost seriously. I calmly looked at him and said, "Just because you got a divorce doesn't mean I am. I have been w/ my FI for 5 years. I feel we have a strong foundation to help us with this journey." BAM! He shut the hell up!
I got that once from a female co-worker that had been divorced for a few years. She kept saying "why?" and "I'll never be so stupid to get married again."
I was shocked. I just wanted to share the news and I got slapped in the face with all the reasons why she thinks marriage sucks. Uh, thanks? How about a congratulations or good luck? I didn't know what to say so I kinda just stood there until she stopped talking and I walked away confused and a little hurt. Oh well.
Other than that I've been lucky that most people are genuinely happy for me/us.
I was just talking about this last night with my FI. I've noticed that the majority of females I encounter are extremely jealous, and the majority of the men I encounter say don't do it. What is that about? 1. There is never a need for jealousy- we are all adults, we're all doing the same thing- living our lives. 2. Why can't people just be genuinely happy for others?? I don't get it.
But, to answer your question, when I'm told "Don't do it!!!", I look at them, smile, and walk away.
One of my family members said it as a joke but I knew she meant it she has always been jealous of me.
"Your parents shouldn't have done it!"
Ya know, if you want to be really mature about it. ;)
I've never gotten it, but FI has gotten something from one of his older guy friends that he has known for years...he basically said, "Are you sure you want to do this? You do know wha tyou're getting into right?" Needless to say this same friend of his can barely remember my name and I've "met" him a few times. I took it some what personally/offensively but I also pegged the guys personality to a T so I got over it.
The only person I've heard this from so far is FI's uncle, and that's really just his sense of humor. I usually just roll my eyes at him. If it was anyone else, I'd probably call them out for being rude!
I've gotten this a few times and I usually say, well why not it sounds fun to me.
well about 80% of the people we know have told us that we are screwing up by gettin married! i try and shrug it off or just laugh but some people who are just sayin it to be mean i'll come back at em like this one one time we all went out and this guy and his wife started fightin and looked at me and FI and said "dont be stupid you gotta a good thing now." i told him "i knew i wanted to marry my FI since i met him and it took us 5 1/2 years to decide when we wanted to get married and i think we are ready on our own terms. we're not gettin married bc we wanna be rebels or we wanna get outta mom and dad's house or cuz we are pregnant(he got married to his girlfriend of 2 months when she was 6 months prego)." he kind of looked at me and said well good luck and chased his wife down.
but to all those people out there who says marriage sucks and that it's not what it is cracked up to be i say LET'S MAKE OUR MARRIAGES WORK!!!!!!LET'S SHOW EM ALL!!!!!!!!!I LOVE MY FI AND THAT'S WHY I AM GETTIN MARRIED!!!!!I WANT TO LIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH HIM!!!!I WANT TO HAVE A FAMILY WITH HIM AND BUILD A HOUSE!!!!!I WANT TO FIGHT ABOUT WHAT COLOR TO PAINT THE LIVING ROOM AND HOW TO DISCLIPLINE OUR CHILDREN! I'VE BEEN THROUGH MOST OF MY ALONE AND NOW I HAVE SOMEONE TO SHARE EVERYTHING WITH AND I CAN'T WAIT. IT'S GOIN TO BE A WONDERFUL ADVENTURE AND A GREAT WAY TO LIVE A LIFE!
and to everyone who is excited for us.....thank you! you will be invited to the 50th anniversary.
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When I tell people that I got engaged some people are really excited for me...and then there are some people who say "dont do it!" "are you sure?" etc...
I know most of the people that say this are joking, but part of me is also really hurt by peoples comments about getting married. Most of these people are married themselves!!!
I just dont see the point of bringing someone down who is excited about their engagement. Has anyone else encountered this? What do yall say to these people? I feel like they are raining on my parade. I try not to let it get to me but when people tell me these things I would like to have at least something to say back to them. The times that it has happened to me I just stare blankly at them for how stupid that question is....of course I'm sure, I said yes!!!!