(Closed) What do you think about potluck bridal showers?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I think it might be a bit hard if it is a large group of people. I think only a group of people can dictate their own etiquette to tell you the truth. What might be tacky for my family and friends might be custom for yours. With a large group of people it will be really hard because there are so many items that will be brought..and each person has to cater to the whole party basically. So if it were a larger party, I would def not do it. But if it is a small group of friends, why not. Sounds great to me.. especially if you are a group of really good cooks!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’ve only been to one shower that I did not have to bring food/dessert/drinks to. I think it’s nice for people to share the responsibility of bringing something if they want to eat. How many people are coming? It’s always been “good” etiquette in my circle 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I actually threw one when I was younger.  I was 21 and a grad student and was already fretting about all the wedding expenses.  Her other bridesmaids were even more financially squeezed than I was and weren’t willing to contribute to a bridal shower, her mom wouldn’t contribute so it was me who was supposed to host about 60 people.  I wanted her to have a bridal shower but I didn’t have the money to feed that many people so I organized for the BMs and some of her family and closer friends to bring some food and delegated out some tasks (people were more willing to contribute that way).  It turned out really well, no one complained to my face or that I ever found out about and the food was a lot more plentiful and tasty than I’ve seen at a lot of showers. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My personal opinion: I think potlucks are awesome for all ocassions. I LOVE potlucks.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love potlucks! I totally wouldn’t be offended if someone asked me to bring something. I love trying out everyone’s favourite recipes 🙂 I hosted a “welcome home” party for friends who had a DW and we did it potluck style. I asked everyone to bring their favourite recipe (the food and the written instructions) and I made a cookbook out of it for my friend and her husband. She can expand on it over the years 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i love potlucks! and i would def be willing to bring something if asked ya know? we ended up having moe’s cater it, taco salads, it was cheap and delicious.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@bakerella: Tasting other peoples fav. recipes, or different cultural foods, is my FAV. part of potlucks!!! I think your idea to make them a cookbook was awesome, and I may steal your idea for future events…. don’t have one in mind, but I love it a lot. If that is ok!!!??

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I also think it’s a great idea, no matter the size. If you have enough people willing to contribute, why not?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Great idea. Potlucks are awesome. I think that if anyone is offended, they’re a bit weird, and they’re going to find something to be offended about anyway. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have mixed feelings on this.  If it’s close friends or BP members who are contributing to the potluck, then I think it’s fine.  BUT I was invited to a shower one time of someone I wasn’t that close to and asked to bring a dish.  I thought it was weird and kind of rude (asked via FB message).  I ended up not going at all.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think its all in how you make the request.  I recently attended a shower where each guest was assigned either main dish, dessert, appetizer/dip, or side, and was asked to use their favorite recipe.  The invitation came with a small recipe card to write the recipe on which the BMs put into a recipe box, organized by category, for the bride at the end of the shower.  The card were helpful during mealtime so you could read the ingredients (in case of allergies/vegetarian/other special diets). 

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