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Omg, I have a friend whose mom wants to do this and she's so afraid that she will! Her concern is losing 'her' or if someone breaks into the house and steals the necklace. I would feel bad losing expensive jewelry, but can you imagine if that was your mom??
Part of me thinks it a beautiful way of remembering someone and it could make such a great heirloom.. The other part of me thinks it would be kind of creepy... So I'm torn I guess! But, as I wouldn't want someone to turn ME into a diamond, I guess my answer would be no, I wouldn't turn my loved ones into diamonds.
Hmm. I think I would be afraid to lose the diamond, which is a real possibility. I don't think I would be so upset about just turning the remains into something else, though. For example, I'm a potter, and bone ashes actually make a beautiful glaze. I've kind of thought of making my pets into pots when they finally end (mostly because my childhood home where I buried several animals when I was younger has changed owners, and the pet graveyard in the back was bulldozed, and I want my pets to be able to rest in peace). I think I would prefer something like a pot to a diamond because a pot isn't something anyone will steal or that will get lost easily.
@egb: I wouldn't want to be turned into one either!
I am kind of with the OP, it just seems a little to odd to me. I would be scared that I wasnt allowing them to move of or something. It doesnt seem like a very respectful way of remembering someone, but thats just me.
i dont know if i follow all that mumbo jumbo about trapping the soul in a rock...but i think this idea is really neat. i didnt even know you could do such a thing! but i agree with greeneyedmoon...i would be more scared about losing he diamond, which happens more than we realize. overall i think this is a really neat idea!
I just dont think I would be comfortable with that. I dont think it would be something I would want just sitting on my dresser every day. To each his own though!
I think it is beautiful and i I had the money I would do it when my dog passes (he is 15).
I am a scientist and I deal with cadavers (dead bodies) every day. I believe that when you die you are just carbon remains. I think turning that carbon into something beautiful is a beautiful thing!
@Future Mrs. Martin: Exactly my thoughts. I just worry about a diamond because it's so small and yet so valuable. It seems like it would disappear too easily.
Hmm. I'm not scared of it at all (i personally think your soul is long gone before we get around to become ashes), but I do think it's a little creepy. But then again, I find the whole concept of keeping ashes in the first place (on your mantle? in your kitchen?) a bit creepy too - cremation is cool but i'd prefer to scatter/be scattered than hang around in a bizarrely different form.
That's just me, though. :)
I'm a little mixed..I mean it seems like a nice sentiment, but I don't know how I feel about wearing family members. I just have a visual of a necklace and being like oh here's Gma, this one's Gpa, I really like this one because that Mom... just weird....
It wouldn't bother me. My Dad is buried, my sister is cremated, my pets were mostly cremated. I think it is a nice way to keep them close if that helps someone.
There are some blown glass necklaces/ornament that are made with a bit of ashes from remains, I thought they were kind of neat and considered having one made.
But I also do not have any attachment to remains of a loved one- I think when you are dead your body is just a body. I can't see how it'd have anything to do with your soul and if it were legal I would like my body just fed to zoo animals or left out to decompose when I die. As that is not allowed, I am being donated to science.
I just think it is kind of creepy.
There was a Law and Order episode once where a woman did that to her husband and then they tested to diamond some way to prove she didn't murder him, I didn't even know you could do that, I thought they made it up for TV.
I might consider doing that, but I could never bring myself to tell someone, "And here are the gorgeous earrings made of my mother..."
If I did it, it would be because I'd rather have a diamond than an urn sitting around in my house. Not because I would actually want to wear it!
I would think about doing this for a pet, but never for a person.
I don't think it's scary or disrespectful, but I do think it's creepy as hell. I would look down at it and think, "oh, look how you sparkle today grandma" or "well, former pet, you need a good washing!" Couldn't do it.
@jo.lee: "I would feel bad losing expensive jewelry, but can you imagine if that was your mom??
loooool
I actualy looked into this, and you don't have to use all of the ashes to create a diamond. So I guess you'd still have some remains to hold on to. I think it's kind of neat, but it was super expensive when I looked into it a few years ago. I think it would be something I'd consider for my pets, but not so much my relatives. I do know of one person who had their daughters ashes mixed into her tattoo. That was a bit much for me!
@LemonLolly: I've heard of someone doing that with a tattoo too! For me that doesn't seem as strange as actually changing the physical composition into something new. At least she's adding the ashes to her organic body that will later die.
@artichokey: Exactly. My strong aversion to this is due only to its weirdness/creepiness factor. I would never do it. My loved ones' ashes can become diamonds over billions of years in the ground; I am certainly not keeping them around in my house.
I don't like urns full of ashes either. My parents used to keep our cremated dog's urn in our living room and I hated it so much. I begged them to take it away to the point that they eventually put it in their bedroom.
My dad just died (his ashes are currently sitting in my office...weird, on so many levels!). I don't know how I would feel about turning his ashes into a diamond. I think it would be cool, but I wouldn't want to use all of the ashes. My dad and I were always pretty close, and I am similar to him in a lot of ways, and it would be neat to have him close by always. I don't know if I would do it because I don't know how he would feel about it. And yes, it is kind of creepy.
I really don't think I could do this. It just seems really creepy to me.
@artichokey: and @jayce: both of your comments made me laugh out loud at the office!
@artichokey: lol this made me laugh. I don't think I could do it for this reason.
"Here, sweetie. I want you to have Great-Grandma's ring. I had my great-grandma's diamond for my ring, and I think it's a nice tradition." "But I thought Great-Grandma lost her ring before you were born." "No, you don't understand. See this diamond? That's Great-Grandma!"
Whole new spin on heirloom diamonds. It's a combination of bizarre and hilarious. It works with my sensibilities, though I do think it's a waste of money. I think I'm going to send that link to my mom - we talk about burial options rather frequently.
Also reminds me of Soylent Green. Diamonds are people!
EWWWWWW.
Sorry, but remains belong in the ground, not adorned around your neck.
"Oh, what a beautiful necklace!"
"Thanks...I made it from my (insert relative here)"
Awkward in so many ways.
It sounds like something from a twisted horror movie about people killing people to turn them into precious stones.....
No, because it sounds too morbid and depressing. I'd like to remember a loved one who passed away in memory only, not carry around their remains as a constant reminder of their physical being gone.
Personally I dont really understand the urge to keep ashes of loved ones. All I can think of are all the things that might go wrong, what if someone knocked it over by mistake? I dont want to keep ashes and I definitely dont want to turn the ashes into a diamond to wear. When a loved one dies I make my peace with them at the graveyard and leave them there. I dont/wont bring them home with me, (except in my heart).
What happens down the road if it gets sold to someone or passed onto someone without the sentimental connection. The ashes/diamond could be used in a fist fight, get flushed down the toilet, be part of a messy divorce, I donno, it seems weird.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but it's not something I'd ever consider doing. I'm into the symbolism of laying a loved one to rest, and saying goodbye to them physically as a part of the emotional healing process. Not carrying them around in a necklace.
The whole idea of ashes creeps me out in general... But I looked at the site and apparently you only need 8oz of ash at most, but they can also do this with a lock of hair.
The idea of making a diamond out of a loved one's hair (preferably BEFORE they pass) would be much less creepy to me, and then when they pass you have a great piece to remember them by, without having THEM in the diamond. Which would also be awesome to do with a beloved pet's hair.
So I wouldn't do the ashes, but I would be more than willing to get a lock of hair from my mother or someone to make into a diamond... But I would really only do it if they were still living, anything that has passed freaks me out.
Im glad so many others are creeped out because this is so weird!!! I just cant understand why someone would want to do this!
I think this is really odd. It seems like a ploy for a company to feed off the emotions of people who have just lost loved ones.
Is there any proof that they actually use the ashes you give them? For all we know they are just throwing them away and charging you more for it because they can.
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Hello Bees,
I was watching a program on TV and this came up. I think I heard about this a few years ago too, but it seemed so far fetched to me. What are you thoughts on this? I know for me personally, I would be too scared to turn one of my loved ones remains into a diamond. I think I'd be terrified of trapping their soul or keeping them from moving on (I know that sounds silly, but I'm serious!) or even worse how terrible would it be if you lost it? Are there some of you who have done this? What would be your reasons? Is it just a nice keepsake or heirloom?
Here is the website: http://www.lifegem.com/