Post # 1
What do you think of this bridal party FH has 7 groomsmen and a ring boy.
I was thinking of possibly having no bridesmaids, but I’m conflicted because he has picked my long time friends husband as one of his groomsmen. If I were to have bridemaids she would no doubt be one (yes, married and all)
Another of his groomsmen is my cousin who he is childhood friends with. I would also ask his girlfriend to be a bridemaid.
2 bridesmaids 7 groomsmen? It kinda bugs me. Looks a little too off.
Then, his best man’s son is the ring boy. The thing is, the best man isn’t married…his girlfriend and I aren’t actually close at all. We don’t know if she has to walk down the aisle with him? Sit at the head table or not? She isn’t part of the bridal party. She won’t be dressed coordinating with the rest of the bridal party. But they do have a family together. I know it sounds so mean, but please let me vent a little without judgement…Let this be my ‘crazy’ bride moment….she won’t match and is going to look off in all our pictures…whine-whine- whine I know. It still bugs me judge away, lol.
Post # 3
@MrsSparkle: Do what you feel is right. It is your and your partners wedding.
I don’t beleive that the bestman’s girlfriend has to walk him down the aisle. Walking down the aisle is for the bridal party which you and your partner selcted not guests. She does not have to sit at the head of the table either. Maybe sit her next to her son?
You are the bride and and brides are allowed to be alittle whiney about their wedding day. It’s your day!
Post # 4
Is there anyone that you very close with that you would consider as a maid of honor? That may even it out. Just a suggestion. But it is your wedding do what you feel makes you happy?
Post # 5
@MrsSparkle: Normally I’m in the “you don’t need equal numbers” camp, but 7 and 2 is a bit unbalanced. Does he really need to ask everyone he knows to stand up with him? Did the two of you have this conversation before he starting asking his friends?
Post # 6
@DahliaMint: Thanks for your advice. I’m keeping it in mind, and I agree on the walking down the aisle part, so does FH.
@isabelle_86: Not really, at least not one more than the other…Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it.
@julies1949: I generally like things in even numbers matchy-matchy, lol. It bugs me, but I guess I could live with it. He hasn’t officially asked them yet, and it’s not everyone he knows, lol. They are however his best freinds and they are all a super tight knit group. I wouldn’t want him to choose between these men and I know he would be torn if he had to….Knowing him, he would just say: “O.k., no groomsmen.”
Post # 7
what If you split the boys, had some groomsmen beside you and some beside your hubby. It would look even? maybe? its just a thought.
Post # 8
It’s up to you and how you would like them all to be match up, they dont have to walk down the isle with their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse. No one in my wedding is walking down with their partner I also dont have an even number we are having 4 groommen and 6 bridemaids. Its up to you and what you want to do. Remember its your day
Post # 9
@MrsSparkle: I think it does nt have to be even. FOr example, I chose 5 BM and FI chose 6 groomsmen… so be it. I also heard you can have a male on your side! So pick your gay friend for your side… 🙂
The only reason I will choose one “less-friend” is that this “less-friend” is still my way better friend than the girlfriend of one groomsmen that my horrible FMIL wants me to choose as BM.
Post # 10
@MrsSparkle: NO to girlfriends who a bride is not close with!!!!!!! I totally understand. Just communicate with photographer to not let her be in pictures.
My FMIL tried to guilt trip me into including GF of my FBIL. How crazy, as I have no relationship with her and we met 3 times. She is not a family, plus bridal party is what bride chooses.
LOL I just realized I responded again to this thread. That bothers me how brides have so many issues over wedding etc while it is supposed to be such a happy time
My FI also picked up so many groomsmen, that puts pressure on me. Some groomsmen could be ushers or do a reading. You could pick a guy friend