Post # 1
I’m just upset and would like to get opinions of other brides…
My fiance and I got engaged in October of last year and are planning a September 10th wedding.
When we first started planning the wedding some people were not happy with where we were getting married. The site was bad or it’s not a church our families go to, etc. I started getting really stressed out, so I talked to my fiance about eloping and I was serious! He thought it was a good idea, except that we should invite some people or at least give them the option if they really want to come.
To me, our wedding is about two people that are madly in love getting married. Not about what is best for the guest or what they or the family think is best.
I understand a lot of people will not be able to attend the wedding due to how expensive it would be to go out there and we can not afford to pay everyone’s way (obviously). Now, I keep hearing how unfair, basically, that it is that we are getting married so far away and all our family can’t make it out. That it’s not right to ask so much of people. I wanted this to be a lot less stress, but I can’t stand when people start making me feel guilty. This is OUR wedding, not THEIRS!
Is anyone else having this issue? I don’t understand why they can’t just be happy for my fiance and I. There will be a video of the ceremony and lots of pictures. It’s the perfect wedding for my fiance and I. Why can’t anyone else see this??? 🙁
Post # 3
I can’t answer your questions… wedding’s bring out the “ugly” in people. But I will tell you that I wish my husband and I would have eloped.
Maybe try telling them that you understand that they are upset, but you really want to make the ceremony about you guys and your love and you thought a destination wedding is perfect for you guys.
Post # 4
I am having the same kind of issue with some of our guests. We are getting married close to where we live not to where my family lives and Ihave heard complaints too. I have been telling people that if they can’t make it to our big day that is fine, I can understand, just as long as Fiance shows up thats all im really concerned about. and kind of make it a joke but I have realized that I cannot make everyone one happy and as long as Fiance and I are happy that is all that matters. So stick to your guns and let everyone else go fly a kite.
Post # 5
*sigh* I totally understand. We just had our engagement party last weekend and people were giving us crap about having it on the beach. Our family is ALL over anyway, so no matter where we had it, people would have to travel. I’m so sick of people complaining (who quite honestly, don’t matter. We’ve cleared this with the important people) … DON’T COME THEN!!
Stick to what you want. FI keeps telling me this is about US, NOT everyone else. Do what feels right with you. The people that matter will be there… and if for some reason they’re not… send a cute picture!!
Post # 6
Thank you, ladies for some of your comments. It’s great to hear from other people going to the same thing to stick to my guns. 🙂 It’s going to be a beautiful wedding on a mountain and I can’t wait to marry the love of my life (he was my very first crush when I was little – guess somehow I just new…).
Post # 7
I feel your pain! I would bet that most Destination Wedding brides have heard what you are hearing from people who are complaining about your wedding being “so far away.” The kick in the teeth is that you really can’t say to these people “Well, we checked with the people that really matter, and they are cool with it, so SUCK IT!”
Fiance and I are paying for our own wedding, and they say I see it, if I am paying for the party, I will have it where I want it! And besides, at the end of the day, there are really only two people who need to be there – the bride and the groom!