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Ive been looking through wedding blogs and magazine, and I noticed a lot of people are doing the same things in their weddings. I know not everything at your wedding can be unique, but i think its tiring see the same thing over and over. I was wondering what you guys think is played out and are tired of seeing at weddings.
I think: Those curly mustaches that everyone uses in photo booths, everything vintage, and tiaras.
No offense to anyone who has any of those in their wedding. Im not trying to be insulting, just curious to see everyones opinions!
Hmm.. things that I think are very "trendy" right now are candy bars, evening snacks of sliders, birdcage veils, colored shoes, and those tissue paper poms. They are everywhere. Are they played out? Perhaps, in some respect. I have often thought to myself, "I can't have a candy bar. Every wedding I went to this summer had a candy bar. It's soooo been done." But am I the first person to run over to that candy bar at a wedding? Oh, you betcha I am. I love me some candy. :)
I think whether or not it's everywhere is just a reflection of the trends of the time. It's hard to be truly original when you stare at wedding websites... you get all sucked in by pretty pictures and think "OH MY GAWWWWD I just HAVE to have that!!!" :)
What I have seen as popular trends now:
- candy bars
- photo booths
- colored shoes
- cupcakes rather than cake
- damask
- mermaid dresses
- dresses with pickups
That being said... I don't really care :) I have heard lots of people worry about will x or y be "the puffy sleeve of the 80s"? My take on it is this: I don't think it is possible to throw a wedding today in which everything will still be in style in 20 years. Trends change, as they should. I am embracing today's trends and if I think some of them are ridiculous in 20 years? That is totally fine. I laugh at pics of me with mall bangs from the 90s but it doesn't mean I'm sad I did it... they were bitchin' at the time!
p.s. whenever i hear the term "played out" i think of that seinfeld where he does the voice for his gf's stomach. "la la laaa" hahahaha
As far as things that I'm personally "over" as far as wedding trends go:
Mustaches and prop photobooths
Bird themed vintage weddings
Personalized maps in the invitations
(I'm not saying that I don't like these things, it just seems to be overkill on various wedding blogs and such, I'm ready for new trends).
Things I will never get sick of:
Regular photobooths
Candy bars
Any kind of dessert buffet
I think it depends on the weddings you've been to and/or are in your area and circle of family and friends
StL is not a very trendy city. The damask is JUST NOW hitting. I haven't seen birdcage veils or birdcages or lots of other "popular" things. I"ve only seen a candy buffet at ONE wedding. It really just kinda depends I guess. What's popular in magazines and on big websites isn't necessarily what goes down in real life weddings. I had a signature cocktail at my wedding (you could say they are EXTRA trendy) and they were a huge hit. I had people coming up to me all night praising me about my creativity and blah blah blah and i was thinking, "dude, signature cocktails have been around for like, 2 years according to The Knot!" I was "unique" with my SHORT bridesmaid dresses (seriously, i have to laugh at that) because it wasn't what other girls have been doing here.Nobody else has had a photobooth either! Just me! So I am "trendy" and "unique" to everyone else, whereas I htink these are all just very common and kind of ho-hum.
So i guess it's just hard to say what's "in" and what's "out" and it really just depends on you and your area and soooo many other factors.
I agree with ejs. Our wedding was like, uber trendy, as far as our families went. They were oo-ing and aww-ing over our table numbers, which were named after Chicago landmarks, and people thought our candy bar was so "unique." Haha. It was cute.
In my previous post, I was actually more referring to wedding blogs and magazines. I think that currently, many of them really like featuring the faux-mustache pictures, and vintage/bird weddings, and it seems like everytime a "real wedding" is featured on a blog, it has that same feel. I like those kinds of weddings a lot, but I'm ready for some truly different weddings to be in the spotlight :)
I don't think they are played - I would call the super popular though. I think people should do what they feel brings out they feel brings out their personaility the most and plan a good time for their guests. At the end of the day it's your wedding and your taste. I'm yet to see two weddings that are eactly the same - similar but not the same - I've also found that the wedding blogs kinda follow each other's trends posting similar types of weddings.
Another trend I've recently noticed is rustic weddings.
When I think of "played out," I think of trends that I've seen IRL that I've seen to death.
Of course when you're wedding obcessed, you "see" a lot of the same things because the population that you're dealing with is all exposed to and/or inspired by the same ideas. Of all the people getting married everyday, I highly doubt "candy bars" are a super reoccuring theme, KWIM?
In my RL, I only have a handfull of married friends (and I'm 31), and have NO friends who are engaged. Of the weddings I've been to, they have mostly been very formal or very off beat and haven't been at all "trendy," so I haven't first hand experienced anything enough to be tired of it. lol... That said, these trends seem increadly popular: candy bars, photobooths (both with/without props), birdcage veils, "pop of color" shoes, vintage themes.
In my opinion, damask and dresses with pick-ups. I'm just sick of seeing them, but to each his own. I'm sure there are plently of things at our wedding that people won't be fond of, but oh well! Thats why everyone gets their own day!
Ditto EJS. I don't know anyone in real life who has worn a birdcage veil, done a candy bar, or a photobooth, or cupcakes as their cake. And everyone except one person that I've mentioned wearing blue shoes to, well I think they think I've just completely gone insane. LOL.
@Miss Root - What's a slider?
Yeah I don't know many people in real life that have done most of these things and I do think it would be cool to see them. The candy bar I've seen, but it's a good practical favor. But in wedding magazines it's a different story, they all jump on a band wagon, some variety please.
I definitly think it has a lot to do with where you live. I have been to a lot of wedding in the past couple years and they all had candy bars and photo booths. Two of those weddings also had cupcakes and bird cage veils. I still like some of these trends, there are just some I cant take seeing anymore.
Exactly. Unless you're heavily into wedding planning at this moment in time,you really have no clue what's been done or overdone. Unless you're in your mid-twenties,most people only attend an occasional wedding,sometimes YEARS apart! When my cousin's daughter got married just 7 years ago,her STRAPLESS dress in church was a scandal to my Mother & all the Aunts. They got over it and had to admit she looked beautiful,but they still talk about how it just 'wasn't right'. lol
Just think of all the compliments you'll get when everyone tells you how creative you are and how unique your wedding was!
This is too funny! I definitely think it must depend on where you live -- I saw in one Martha Stewart Weddings article that this couple did the prop photo booth with hats and mustaches, and I proposed it as an idea to my photographer. He thought it was the best, most original idea everrrr! Funny how it takes longer for certain trends to catch on some places than others.
agree with ej as well... i think that Baton Rouge is certainly a few years behind the trend. People thought that aqua and poppy was sooo uber modern, and I was like ummm Martha Stewart did that about a year and a half ago. It was almost comical. I think what's popular and overdone in the magazines are just really the newest trends and will take a year to five years to trickle down into the mainstream and longer than that in some pockets of the US...
but no offense to anyone who is wearing one, but I'm definitely OVER the tiaras!!! now, the flower in your hair or a blingie head piece, I adore.
Eh - I don't tend to think of elements as "trendy" unless they've been obviously wedged into an event where they don't fit. Like, they're there just because "OMG, cute food is in! Must. Have." Sliders and cupcakes are cute (and tasty!) - but they don't make much sense when served at a country club, you know?
What I mean is, it doesn't really rub me the wrong way to see lots of popular themes or motifs in one place, but it drives me nuts when the reception looks like a mashup of every single wedding magazine published for the past six months.
i go to a ton of weddings (because i'm a wedding photog as well as at the age where ALL my friends are getting hitched) as well as look at a ton of wedding blogs (also b/c of my job and b/c i'm planning my own!) and the two rarely meet. everyone has their own things that they love, but IRL not all of them come to fruition. i 2nd guess a lot of things b/c i think "oh, i've seen that everywhere" but NO ONE else has. besides maybe half of my BMs, i guarantee all my guests will think i am the most creative genius that ever had a wedding b/c they don't go to the volume of weddings i do.
my .02: do what YOU like. it's about the moment and about you and your FH! don't worry if it's played out. you love it and put your heart into it and others will too!
I totally agree that the trendy things that are borderline "played out" sound totally fresh, creative & unique (read: kooky) to family members and people who aren't wedding-obsessed!!
Obviously, magazines and blogs aren't reality. I don't think anyone would claim they're tired of current wedding spread trends because they've seen it done at all the weddings they've attended (like those faux moustaches. seriously, how many people are actually using them?)...they've just seen the pictures.
If we're basing this conversation on what we've actually seen in real life...I would say that strapless princessy dresses, tiaras, candle-in-jar-on-glass centerpieces, and matchy-matchy color schemes are "played out." The stuff in magazines and online is just making its entrance, it's hardly had a chance to be played out. Though the number of faux moustache pics are starting to bother me. I mean, really...
I really liked my wedding dress but I do agree with Minutiae and wish they had more variety in wedding dresses, it would have been fun to try them on. I almost wished I was Indian, they have great variety and colors and materials to choose from.
I agree that it depends where you live and what you're seeing online and tv, etc is what you see...you're family isnt online like us looking at wedding trends! They will love it because it's you and its your wedding day! Im not worried about trends and if its been done too much or whatever....this is what we like and what we saw as inspiration for our wedding!
Hmmm ... tiaras are definitely played out. The only way you could get one on my head is a) if it were real and b) it was a gift from Prince William :D
I think photobooths are heading that way, as well... Candy bars to me are just a different manifestation of a Pittsburgh tradition -- the cookie table (...which? I grew up in Pittsburgh but am getting married in Dallas. Do they not have the same rules about no outside food from non vendors for health code reasons in the 'burgh? So many places we looked at in Dallas told us NO NON-VENDOR LICENSED FOOD. This disparity has only recently began to puzzle me.)
Pop of color shoe -- now, although I think this is a big, big trend right now, and probably has something to do with SaTC, I'm going to stand up and defend it. To me, buying a pair of white shoes is just plain silly because I will never wear them again. But a colored shoe? I will most definitely wear again. So it's cute and practical!
Ditto to what everyone else has said - 99% of your guests don't troll wedding blogs and are not up on wedding trends. Most of them will only go to a few weddings a year. What's played out online and in magazines is very different when translated to an actual wedding. I think its a bit much when brides jump on every trend, but I think what's most important is having what you want and what your guests will enjoy. Corgi is right - there's no way to avoid being trendy!
PS
For our polaroid guest book I want to get empty picture frames so people can have fun taking photos...but in the back of my head I think my guests will say, "Huh? You want us to do what?!"
i think a lot of trends could be considered played out, but if you really wanted them at your wedding, then don't even worry about what everyone else thinks! if you love it then that's it! the only things i think are heinous are those favors you see where it's a tiny pink plastic swan covered in tulle with bits of potpourri in it. i don't even think the bride wanted them. haha!
Wow, you think EVERYTHING vintage is played out? I don't think you can rule out vintage completely--it's all about how you use it, make it your own.
That said, there are some things I am getting tired of seeing, but I think that's more a product of how long I have been obsessed with weddings! I guess I'm pretty tired of the J. Crew thing, even though one of my 'maids wore a J. Crew dress (and it was lovely). It just seems like you can get the same thing for less elsewhere.
I guess I worded that wrong. I didnt mean Every single thing that is vintage is played out. What I meant is having a wedding that is all vintage theme, to look like you got married in the 60s. My fiance is funny and not up to date with wedding trends. When he was looking at a wedding blog and saw all the vintage weddings ang photograhy style, he said why would you want your pictures to look like you got married 50 years ago. It was a sort of valid point though, at least i thought so.
I like vintage clothes and vintage things, I just wouldnt want my whole wedding to try to represent another era.
I know there's a lot of elements of our wedding that fall in the "played-out" category. Photo booth, tall vases with orchids in water, parents wedding pics on the seating card table, etc. Our venue is pretty formal and has chandeliers - I still wanted to hang Chinese paper lanterns. FI talked me out of it. It doesn't bother me that it's not original, they're still fun!
Personally I didn't like a pick-up skirt on me. I wanted something more traditional. Plus, it felt like I was wearing a down blanket & I'm bottom heavy. But I've seen it work great other brides.
I think the only thing that might really "date" a wedding is the new trends in photos. The made-to-look-like-it-was-taken-in-the-70's/ Anthropology ad look (which I love btw), or a metallic finish on a photo album.
My theory is - as long as you love it… go for it!
I agree with the lists here. I also feel like everyone I know has a halo engagement ring. It's so funny though, as common as colored shoes seem to us brides, my whole family said, "WHAT?! You're wearing purple shoes for your wedding?" So I think it's true that unless your guests are going to a ton of weddings, it won't seem played out if some of these themes happen to be a part of your wedding.
@kourtney. Yeah, that makes sense. I like when vintage elements are used subtly. I agree, what is the point of having your wedding look like it was from a different era? You definitely have to incorporate some modern stuff to keep it fresh.
I wouldnt say they are played out but definitely the popular thing to do right now - Candy bars, cupcakes instead of cake, photobooths, colored shoes, I dont think any of these things would date a wedding though. We did a photobooth and it was the highlight, there was a line for it all night and our guests loved it!
I think candy bars, colored shoes, photo booths, etc are all very popular now but not played out. I also agree with what a few of you have said that a lot of things we see on here or in our wedding magazines are not always popular in the typical/"real" wedding! I think most of my stuff will seem "up and coming" to all of my guests ;)
Everything I've seen on this post, I wouldn't consider played out, but just very popular and trendy. The only thing I can think of that I would consider played out would be what CupcakeSprinkles mentioned, tiaras. They are sssooo played out to me!
damask, ranunculus, peonies, photobooths, jumpingg up in the air wedding party pics, mason jars, Michelle Williams's side-bun...
But on the other hand, who cares? I was secretly (now not so) gleeful to see your post, because there are so many times when I'm like, "Oh, you just HAVE TO HAVE peonies and ranunculus? You and every other bride!" But on the other hand, as some people have said, we're all immersed in wedding-blog-land, and things that are played out to us are new and exciting to "regular" people.
I went to a wedding with a played-out photobooth this summer, and everyone inluding me totally loved it. Each to their own!
I think we have a skewed sense as to what is "played out" because we are emersed in wedding world.
If we see 20 brides do a candy buffet we think, "Oh ANOTHER candy buffet?" When in reality the majority of our guests probably haven't been to a wedding with anything like that before. :)
I personally am "over" candy buffets... but probably for the reason I listed above! lol
Also, do what you like! I don't subscribe to the idea that your wedding has to be totally original. If you love damask, have it!
Also, for the person who wants to see weddings without all that stuff, check out offbeat brides.
I'm not really following a lot of the "big" wedding blogs right now because, like Ms. Chapstick, I notice that they seem to feature the same style of wedding over and over. All beautiful, but really similar. I notice that a lot of weddings lately are outside, with muted, kind of pastel color palettes, whimsical details, and kind of a "dreamy" photography style. I have gone on Style Me Pretty more than once and thought, "attending this wedding would be like walking into a living version of the Anthropologie catalogue." It's super pretty, but not what I'm doing, so I don't need to see it over and over.
Those moustaches in photos! I love them. They make me giggle. But I have seen them in so many blogs and sites lately. Are they played out? No, but it does make you realized how many blogs are out there right now and how many ideas are shared.
Candy bars are no longer unique in many areas, but it is CANDY! I hope it's a trend that becomes something par for the course. Same with cupcakes. I love cupcakes when I was little and I still love them.
My wedding will definitely have some current wedding trends in it, but I'm okay with that
Calla lilies. I feel like they're in every single bouquet I see pictures of.
I'm biased, too, because I don't like them. :)
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