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I don't know. Does "nice" equal "fancy?"It seems really subjective to me.
@ Danadelphia- See that's where I'm having trouble. All I know is that she thinks mine were nicer and what defines nice?
I loved my shower and thought it was really nice, but it wasn't fancy. What made it nice was the fact that it was very comfortable and organic.
It sounds to me like your cousin is thinking more like fancy. A fail proof formula, IMO, would be to go to a hotel for an afternoon tea, buy a fancy tiered cake, and have floral arrangements.
Though that is freakishly annoying that you are getting grief about parties other people threw for you. Did your cousin throw your showers, and vice versa?
Can you ask discreetly what the cousin thinks wasn't as "nice" at hers? Otherwise you won't have any clue what separates them. Everyone has their own opinion of what "nice" entails so what is considered nice to one person will not be to someone else. So there is no one-size-fits-all answer, despite what some may think.
Yeah, I don't understand why your showers are being compared to hers. Did she throw yours and you throw hers? Even if that's the case, your cousin's mom (your aunt?) is out of line, I think.
But, yeah, a swank hotel, a fancy tiered cake, and upscale finger foods might be "nice" enough for her.
@monitab- We each had a shower hosted by our in-laws and then our mom's friends hosted a shower for both of us. So they same people hosted our second showers. The thing is she moved her wedding date up and only gave them two weeks to plan her shower. They had months to plan mine. The friends even said that since it was last minute they would just have it at our favorite Mexican Restaurant since we know the owners so well. They closed a section for us and made their special cake.
@Ember78- It isn't my cousin it is my aunt. My cousin is a sweetheart and is just excited to be having a baby. The only thing I've heard so far is that my aunt thought the cookies were over-the-top because they had a place put the image of my shower invitations on the cookie.
With that information, it really doesn't matter what the aunt thinks since she is not the guest of honor. As for your cousin's baby shower, decorate with whatever theme/colors her nursery will be in, serve her favorite foods and non-alcoholic beverages. If someone else doesn't like the effort you put in, too bad since it's not their party.
@Ember78- I wish that were the case. But unfortunately she rules the roost and doesn't mind speaking her opinion which then upsets my cousin.
I wish the shower fairy would just take over for me :)
I think all the details are what makes a shower really nice. Great food and plenty of it, flowers/centerpieces, decorations (but not crepe paper swirls and cardboard cutouts), and a fun,relaxed atmosphere.
If its a house shower and there's enough room so everyone is seated comfortably, its always nice to carry the touches throughout the area. Let people eat and drink and enjoy themselves, rather than make them wait to eat until gift opening is finished. Or split it up...let the guest of honor choose...eat first,then gifts, or start gifts,take a break so she can eat and then back to gifts. Soft background music is always a nice touch as well. Nothing worse than a room full of quiet women who don't know each other and them sitting in silence.
Make sure the guest of honor feels special. Gifts are always great to get, but give her things that will bring her a wide range of emotions...something sentimental that touches her heart,or something sweet and personal she wouldn't have bought for herself, or start a tradition for her new baby (like a Christmas ornament, or some kind of collectible). Make everything in her favorite colors so she knows how much you thought about her in your planning.
For my neice's baby shower I made diaper cake centerpieces for every table and a diaper castle for the sweets table. We also made white chocolate baby feet and hershey kiss roses. We had balloons and flowers everywhere and so much food we coud have eaten 4 times, and she was overwhelmed by it all. She loved it.
And yep...get a really great cake too! lol
This woman threw her child a "tiny" themed kids birthday party but I think it would also be a great baby shower theme (to welcome a tiny baby). I saw the photos on her blog and saved it because I thought it was a "very nice" party idea.
http://armellejewelry.blogspot.com/2010/06/tiny-party-invitations.html
http://armellejewelry.blogspot.com/2010/06/tiny-party-favors.html
good food is what counts for me! maybe you could just ask your aunt if she has any ideas for the shower.
it sounds like you're actually being baited into saying that your's was indeed nicer than your cousin's. And my guess is that you could have the queen of england at the party and she'd still find fault with it - do whatever you think your cousin would like and have FUN. Don't feed your aunt's flames!
I love unique details - like rather than going to party city and picking up pink ballons, think of somethig more original. hunt through martha stewart for some great ideas. i also love to see showers all done in one or shades of one color (like EVERYTHING done in green, even the food items) here are some pics that I have always loved - they arent "magazine" pics etiher, i think this is totally doable:
@snmcdowell- What a cute idea! Really like that!
@artbee- I'm starting to think it was the stupid cookies! LOL That no one ate because they wanted to take them home to keep.
@Melissabegins- I think you are right!
To me, a good shower, besides the company, is delicious food and drinks, games that are actually fun, and a good location. I have a hard time having fun in a social hall, but I really enjoy outdoor and house-showers.
@clairdarling- Thanks for the ideas! I like the photos you posted! I found the invitations and they are brown and sage green with a brown polka-dot ribbon. Very cute and I think I'm going to try to do something like the first photo you have there!
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So I had two really nice showers and my cousin had two nice showers. Not REALLY NICE compared to mine (according to her mom). And so we have caught some flack about how it isn't fair that mine were nicer than her's.
So now we have to throw her a baby shower, and I don't want to hear more about how it isn't nice enough.
So ladies... what do you think makes for a nice shower? Is it a big giant cake, the food, flowers, location what?