(Closed) What do you think makes a shower REALLY NICE?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I don’t know. Does “nice” equal “fancy?”It seems really subjective to me.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I loved my shower and thought it was really nice, but it wasn’t fancy. What made it nice was the fact that it was very comfortable and organic.

It sounds to me like your cousin is thinking more like fancy. A fail proof formula, IMO, would be to go to a hotel for an afternoon tea, buy a fancy tiered cake, and have floral arrangements.

Though that is freakishly annoying that you are getting grief about parties other people threw for you. Did your cousin throw your showers, and vice versa?

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Can you ask discreetly what the cousin thinks wasn’t as “nice” at hers? Otherwise you won’t have any clue what separates them. Everyone has their own opinion of what “nice” entails so what is considered nice to one person will not be to someone else. So there is no one-size-fits-all answer, despite what some may think.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

Yeah, I don’t understand why your showers are being compared to hers. Did she throw yours and you throw hers? Even if that’s the case, your cousin’s mom (your aunt?) is out of line, I think.

But, yeah, a swank hotel, a fancy tiered cake, and upscale finger foods might be “nice” enough for her.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

With that information, it really doesn’t matter what the aunt thinks since she is not the guest of honor. As for your cousin’s baby shower, decorate with whatever theme/colors her nursery will be in, serve her favorite foods and non-alcoholic beverages. If someone else doesn’t like the effort you put in, too bad since it’s not their party.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

I think all the details are what makes a shower really nice. Great food and plenty of it, flowers/centerpieces, decorations (but not crepe paper swirls and cardboard cutouts), and a fun,relaxed atmosphere.

If its a house shower and there’s enough room so everyone is seated comfortably, its always nice to carry the touches throughout the area. Let people eat and drink and enjoy themselves, rather than make them wait to eat until gift opening is finished. Or split it up…let the guest of honor choose…eat first,then gifts, or start gifts,take a break so she can eat and then back to gifts. Soft background music is always a nice touch as well. Nothing worse than a room full of quiet women who don’t know each other and them sitting in silence.

Make sure the guest of honor feels special. Gifts are always great to get, but give her things that will bring her a wide range of emotions…something sentimental that touches her heart,or something sweet and personal she wouldn’t have bought for herself, or start a tradition for her new baby (like a Christmas ornament, or some kind of collectible). Make everything in her favorite colors so she knows how much you thought about her in your planning.

For my neice’s baby shower I made diaper cake centerpieces for every table and a diaper castle for the sweets table. We also made white chocolate baby feet and hershey kiss roses. We had balloons and flowers everywhere and so much food we coud have eaten 4 times, and she was overwhelmed by it all. She loved it.

And yep…get a really great cake too! lol

 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

good food is what counts for me! maybe you could just ask your aunt if she has any ideas for the shower.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

it sounds like you’re actually being baited into saying that your’s was indeed nicer than your cousin’s. And my guess is that you could have the queen of england at the party and she’d still find fault with it – do whatever you think your cousin would like and have FUN. Don’t feed your aunt’s flames!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I love unique details – like rather than going to party city and picking up pink ballons, think of somethig more original.  hunt through martha stewart for some great ideas.  i also love to see showers all done in one or shades of one color (like EVERYTHING done in green, even the food items) here are some pics that I have always loved – they arent “magazine” pics etiher, i think this is totally doable:

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