Post # 1
Hello bees –
This is kind of a moot point since my BMs have bought their dresses but I thought I would ask anyway.
I am having 3 BM, and a not-super-formal-but-not-super-casual-either wedding. We just had to move the venue so it is at a pretty high scale restaurant. The ceremony will be at a church.
My mom *hates* the idea of black bridesmaid dresses. She loves the dresses themselves (and so do the girls) because they don’t look bridesmaid-y but she thinks since most guests wear black, no one will know they are the BM first, second, back in her day, you only wore black for funerals.
I’m just looking for reassurance that it won’t look too morbid.
Here’s the dress for reference:
Post # 3
I don’t have a problem with them, but I’m not a traditionalist.
Post # 4
My bridesmaids wore black in my wedding! It looked great.
Post # 5
@SnowInApril: Classy and modern I like them!
Post # 6
I like black BM dresses as long as they are event appropriate. For example, I wouldn’t think it was awsome for a daytime wedding in the spring/summer. For an evening wedding I think those dresses are gorgeous.
I dont’ think anyone except your mom cares about the BMs being easily identified. I think your BMs will love having adress that re-usable and pretty. Tell your mom they’ll be identified by their bouquets.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
@SnowInApril: my wedding was also not-super-formal-but-not-super-casual-either. I asked my bridesmaids to select a black dress of their own choosing (from literally any store), so they had mismatched black dresses. they absolutely loved it, and nobody at the entire wedding said boo about the color.
the bridesmaids were espically thrilled because then they really did have a dress that they could wear again.
I think it looks really classy, clean and nice.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone I’m just a little stressed today because our venue double booked us and we had to scramble to find a new place!
The girls themselves picked this dress out and they don’t mind wearing the same dress. It’s great because it honestly looks good on all of them!
I’ll just tell my mom to relax and have a drink herself
Post # 10
I think black dresses are flattering, and are great for more formal wedddings
Post # 11
@SnowInApril: I really like them. They look smart and elegant and next to an ivory wedding dress it looks so good together. Also, there’s more chance of the BMs being able to wear the dress again after the wedding.
Post # 12
My BMs wore black. They looked so chic!
Post # 13
@SnowInApril: I love black bridesmaids dresses, but was talked out of it by the same rationale that your mom gave you. My bridesmaids didn’t want to blend in. Being that we’re Italian and in the North East, black is a very, very common color for guests to wear, especially in Fall/Winter.
Post # 14
I like it & wanted it. FI was not a fan.
Post # 15
I think black dresses are gorgeous – and they don’t look like a black funeral dress. There’s a difference! My mom and MIL both wore black gowns to my wedding, and no one thought they were funeral dresses.
Post # 16
You have great flower options when bm wear black. I had a friend do it. One issue I noticed is they don’t stand out considering most people end up wearing black to weddings these days.