Hi Bees!
I've been seeing lots of stuff referring to Cosmo magazine on here lately-- mostly comments on how ridiculous it can be! I also think it can be kind of ridiculous, but secretly do have fun reading it occasionally. But wow, the sex tips certainly are outrageous, and sometimes not sexy at all (as I saw on a link in the "weirdest sex tips" thread last week). :)
One thing I can remember was the breast pleasure tips they were giving a while ago. . .something about using a vibrator on your breasts ("don't let your vadge hog it all the time!" or something of that ilk!). (The way they described this made it sound unappealing to me, but I can imagine that might be quite pleasant).
I got into an interesting conversation with some people at my grad school, in which Cosmo's "slut-shaming" tendancies were mentioned. I don't remember the basis of this claim very well, and am not certain whether or not to agree, but I guess the person who had this viewpoint felt that the magazine tends to be rather hypocritical about various aspects of people's sexual behavior. Do you agree?
Not trying to encourage unpleasantness; I'm just curious what everyone thinks of the magazine. :)
I found it fascinating to read when I was a teenager and curious about sex, and absolutely useless as an adult actually having sex. I can't remember the last time I bought one (over 10 years) and I can't see myself buying one ever again.
@Creiddylad: I outgrew it when I turned 20, I think lol. I used to feel so bad girl reading it in high school, but I guess I got bored of it and stopped reading it. They just recycle the same sex tips over and over. I like magazines like Glamour and People Style Watch so it's not like I read super sophisticated stuff now or anything lol.
It's become a joke magazine to me, and I think that's the majority reaction, at least on the internet. Just like you referred to, if someone says something about some strange or silly sounding sex tip, the auto joke is "sounds like something from Cosmo!"
Cosmo to me is just silly. Almost insulting to women. It seems that they recycle the same topics aimed at women who hope they can "get him to commit" if they wear their eyeliner like "this" and use "this" sex move. I will read it for the funny stories, that's about all.
@Creiddylad: oh the weirdest sex tips was hilarious wasnt it!!!
theres something to be said for keeping your sex life hot and being open to new things - of course. but the constant emphasis in comso on always having to try to be better...and different...and new...its exhausting just reading them. and so often the sex tips are just repeated over and over again but with different words
i no longer read it to be honest, i dont think its worth paying for. if im desperate for an english magazine fix (i live in mexico) that isnt all about celebrities like hello, ok etc...then *maybe* id buy one once in a blue moon. but theres no real substance to it
edit - and i dont think the emphasis that ALL men must like something. men are different and what turns one on will leave another cold
The rag is ridiculous. But--it was hilarious that many years ago it had as the cover story "Best Cities to Meet Marriagelbe Men" and it listed the town where I had met DH, and in fact, listed the very place (restaurant) WHERE I met him. This was about 18 months after I had met him.
Cosmopolitan magainze: prescient wisdom monger or dispenser of silly tips for airheads? YOU decide. 
I found it useful for a couple of issues when I first became sexually active because it gave me a couple of useful tips on what might pleasure my guy (not so much the explicit things it says but the ones like "this is an erogenous zone on most guys"), but after that it became useless to me and I've decided to stop buying it. I first started buying it for the makeup tips since I was DIYing my wedding makeup and don't wear makeup on a regular basis.
I used to like Cosmo when I was like... 13. Now I think it's the stupidest thing ever.
If I tried even half of the things Cosmo offered on my guy, he'd scream like a little girl.
It's entertaining for sure, but I'm starting to notice that all the articles remain the same in every issue... "How to make it extra hot with your man tonight"... "What most men won't tell you"... blahblahblah
I read Cosmo when I was in high school, but now it's a joke. One of my friends picked on up a few months ago and we went through it and laughed at all the sex tips. Most of them are pretty bad.
That magazine makes me sad. Is there anything on the planet that is more of a ridiculous stereotype of women than Cosmo? Maybe we actually want to get a partner through.. I don't know.. any method besides just our bodies. Maybe something that will last after the sex part.
@romantical: If I tried even half of the things Cosmo offered on my guy, he'd scream like a little girl.
hahahahaha i think mine would too for a lot of them
I read it when bored. I don't take it seriously. Makes for interesting conversations with the husband.
I think the only time I ever read Cosmo was when I was 13, giggling with a girlfriend over the sex articles. Now, the only good thing about Cosmo are the Ridiculous Sex Tips articles on Nerve making fun of Cosmo!
it was fun to read it with my friends when i was a teenager, but it is absolutely useless for an adult actually having sex.
@newname_99: Seriously! Lol.. It doesn't help that my man is ticklish either!
I don't know if I've actually ever read one. Now I'm curious though..... I might go pick one up just for a laugh.
I don't remember where I read this, but they taught a HJ technique in roughly these terms: 'churn the head of the penis like you would juice a lemon'. Yours truly being the stupid amateur back then, actually tried this on then-BF. Long story short, it's a frikking miracle that the chap even talks to me now, after I well-nigh emasculated him!
Jokes apart I stopped reading mags like Cosmopolitan a long time back, because they make it sound like pretty dresses and high heels are the only way to happiness. They are feeding women's insecurities: you are not good enough, your body isn't good enough, your style isn't good enough..and so much emphasis on HIM. Give him the mind-numbing orgasm, make him the happiest man on earth, blow his mind with your moves, what he needs and desires, his secret obsession that he would never in a million years share with you...
What about HER?
There was no answer so I stopped reading them.
@romantical: Heehee, you're right!
Fun that so many of you have opinions about this! I was a little worried that people might be grumpy for some reason. . . it's amusing reading everyone's responses. :)
@mrs_brownie: YES! I know! It is indeed rather useless to an actual adult who has sex. Ans=d, like someone said before, the generalizations are absurd.
I think I read it on and off around ages 18-24 maybe. Never had a subscription, so I think I read most of what I did at the gym. But I think I've read it once in the past 4 years (and that was on an airplane). It just got way too boring, unfortunately it's the same recycled crap over and over.
It reminds me of highschool. Everyone took it so seriously back then and now that we're grown up it's such a joke haha ;)
Before I was sexually active, I loved it. Afterwards... not so much. It's a joke, and honestly quite sexist. I don't even bother to read it for giggles anymore.
I like it for the celebrity interviews and the embarrassing moments.
I used to like it but not anymore. I usually like the True Story but that's about it. The magainze (along with others) repeats itself... Reusing the same tips throughout the years.
You need a poll category for outgrowing it. In my teens and early 20s I would get them occassionally, mostly when flying somewhere because it was "Fun, but sex suggestions mostly outrageous & useless", but since then I think I outgrew it. The writing, whether sex related or not, is at best silly and at worst, plain old awful.
@sept22insf: I'd add one, as I see that is a common response, but it seems the time period allowed for editing polls and posts is over for my OP. Oh well.
Funny experience with Cosmo... reading it outloud to guy friends. They totally tell the truth and how wrong the magazing is.
If you look at the magazing, the same worlds are in bold print each issue. SEX, LOVE, yadda yadda.
@SeaSalt: My thoughts exactly.
I think that Cosmo gives virgins a really skewed idea about sex! Not at all realistic.
@SeaSalt: +1- everything that sounded exotic before I started actually having sex just sounds overcomplicated or weird now.
I don't mind it. I might read it once or twice a year if that. It's an upgraded of a Teen Mag. It's always the same format no matter what era.
I'lll occasionally pick it up. Like if there is a celebrity on the cover that I like, or something like that. lol But the sex tips just aren't good...And every sex tip is the same every magazine.
If you've seen one issue, you've seen them all. Like a lot of PPs, I found it amusing in my teens, but for an adult woman who is actually having sex, it is ridiculous at best. And at worst, I find it kind of alarmist/fear-mongering... the tone/implication of much of the sex stuff is "if you don't learn all these new sex moves your man will lose interest in you and cheat on you". Not a fan.
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