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those getting married around 18-21? whats your input? I personally think its fine if theyve been dating a significant amount of time and are both mature.
I'm 18, and my FI is 20. We have been together off and on since we were about 12! Lol...we moved in together when I was 16. We had a son together when I was 17 (not by choice...but a blessing). I think it all depends on the situation. I fully support it if they are really in love. My grandparents married when my grandmother was 14 and were married for 57 years before she passed away. If you love someone, you love someone. It erks me when people say it won't last...they're too young. But divorce rate is just as high for people who aren't young. My father married my mom when he was 28, and has since married two other women and divorced them as well. I know that people tend to grow apart, but that doesn't happen only if you're young. For all the young brides out there, I totally support you! I always pictured myself being married and having a family young, and though I didn't plan the child part, the marriage part would've happened either way. Thanks so much jwinnings for understanding and not criticizing! People can be harsh!
I really think it depends on the situation. Im sure there are alot of couples who marry young and have a great marriage. Personally I dont usually think its the best idea, but everyone is allowed to live their lives as they wish. I just think a lot of time when youre young you rush into marriage and dont give yourself time to grow. I cant tell you how many couples both my FI and I went to highschool with and got married young and are already divorced( were only 25). I can think of 6 couples at the top of my head. I know thats not everyone just something my FI and I were discussing the other night.
To each their own. I come from a pretty small town, and several of my friends were married around that age. I will be 24 and FI will be 25 when we get married, and I think it is definitely the right age for us. We will have been together for almost 6 years by our wedding.
I think it depends on the couple too. My husband and I were 21 when we got married but we have been together since junior/senior year in high school so 4+ years. We were engaged for 3 years in order to make sure that we were out of school and ready. On the other hand, I have a friend who got married when she was 20 to someone from the military. They ended up being divorced before they even reached their first anniversary.
I think it's hard to make a generalization about age because it does depend on the couple. In my case, I can't imagine having been married at that age. I am a very different person at 28 than I was when I was 21, and I think a lot of people are. I also think that regardless of how long you've been with someone beforehand, a lot of people aren't completely mature at that young of an age or really know who they are as a person and what they want in life.
I think it really depends on both the couple and the individuals. I was not mature enough at that age to get married (I am 32 now) and just can't imagine it. I didn't know myself, and I was not able to understand comprimise and committment and things like that. Now I am. But I have known people that got married young to their high school sweethearts, and it is working out great. They were just more mature at that age, with respect to their relationships. I really do think that a person needs to have a strong sense of themselves as individuals though, before they can be good spouses. That didn't happen for me until later. I think that people who think 18-21 (or whatever) is too young think that because often people at that age still have a lot of personal growth to accomplish. Sometimes not. Sometimes they can do it together. Depends!
Generally speaking, I think they are a bad idea. I would be disappointed if my kids got married young. I know everyone is different, and I have two friends who got married at 19 and have happy marriages. However, all the other young marriages I know of ended in divorce.
The problem is that this isn't our grandparents or even our parents' time.. people have such a delayed adolescence now, so I feel like an 18 yr old today is like a 12 year old in our grandparents' days. Most are still living at home, have not finished college, and have had very little independent life experience.
I know personally if I had married any of the guys I dated from the ages of 18-22 it would have been a disaster and I would be divorced now too. I feel like having been independent for a while and having had some of my own life experiences I am so much more self-confident and prepared for a marriage than I would have been at that age...
The other thing is that I had a lot of partying to get out of my system in my 20s, so that wouldn't have worked out too well if I had been married! :-)
One other thing, (not to offend anyone) but most people who I know who have gotten married early (well, the women specifically) were always 100% about family. College/education/career/traveling/living abroad were not a huge deal for them so they didn't feel like they were giving up anything in their late teens early 20s by devoting themselves to family instead.
I did not feel this way.
i think it just depends on the situation. i always wanted to get married young. my plan was to get married at 22, after i graduated college. then i decided on grad school, so i wanted to get married at 25, after i graduated grad school. then i broke up with my bf right after i graduated so that was that! i don't think it makes a difference for me though, being older or younger. i think the only difference is that i'm now with the right guy.
I got married at 21, hubby was 23 (but his birthday was about 2 weeks after the wedding). I do get a little squirmy at the 18 year olds getting married though even though it's probably unfair since I would have married my husband in a heartbeat at 18 as well. None of my family thought I was too young and believe me, there is no desire for partying in my system. It does depend on the couple I think, and probably the area. I know in NYC 21 is really young to be married (even 24), but back home, there were a handful of people married or engaged before I was and another handful currently planning their weddings.
I understand that getting married is the right decision for some but it's definitely not for me. I only have my mom and dad's experience to go on. They got married right out of college (they were 21 and 22) and it didn't last. They still have a lot of growing up to do and discovering who they were outside of school. I'm glad I waited. But if it's the right decision for you, go for it!
There are a lot of great aspects to marrying young; the tricky part is knowing who you are and making the right choice the first time. People will make mistakes at any age, and people will make good decisions at any age.
For me, being 21 and meeting my SO (29) at this point in my life has been so timely and beautiful. I would have been miserable if I stayed with my ex-boyfriend. We were dating for 3 1/2 years but the relationship was 100% crap. My SO was in a six year relationship and got married at 26, but it hardly lasted a year because his ex wasn't interested in making it work. MinMan and I have been together for a little over a year and we're thrilled with each other. I'm happy, I feel like I understand and accept myself better than ever, and I have a helluva lot more maturity than plenty of older people I've seen in relationships. You just can't predict when or how this sort of thing will happen.
That being said, I take everyone's perspective on this with a grain of salt. Maturity, personality, and experience are three very different things. People will couch their opinions on young marriage by how they felt about themselves at a certain age, so the opinions are generally nebulous or narrow-minded.
I agree with hellox3. I generally don't like it. Sure there are a lot of factors in predicting divorce, but this is one. And while someone might not exactly be able to increase their income to lessen their chance of divorce, or feasibly go back to school to increase their level of education, just to lessen their chance of divorce, couples can more easily wait until they are a little older and more mature to get married.
I think it's imporant to look at all the ways marriage gets attacked these days. ANd doing your best to guard against divorce is smart.
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It works for some and not others. I think it really depends on maturity and life goals. I know people who married their high school sweethearts at 21 and who are still together at 35 and other who divorced. It depends is the best answer.
I agree with pretty much everything HelloHelloHello said. There are always exceptions, but I think in general, getting married in your teens isn’t a good idea.
Times were different in our grandparents day – with the exception of the military, there are not the good, secure “life-time” jobs with pensions available to 18 year olds, or to anyone without a college degree, that used to be widely available in this country. I think in general, most people cannot successfully go straight from graduating high school to supporting a family - financially or emotionally.
I don’t hate on the young brides here at all (and hope I never come across like that!!), and there are successful young marriages and mature 20 year olds, but the statement that there is no data to show getting married young increases your risk of divorce isn’t really true - there are stats that show that getting married young DOES increase the risk of divorce - greatly. (stats from National Center for Health for one example). There are lots of factors for divorce, of course, but I still think that generally, no matter how mature you believe you are, getting married in your teens is a bad idea.
Let me tell you the story about how my fiance's 17 year old niece got married last summer. She basically forced her family to be supportive by telling them she would run off and elope as soon as she turned 18 anyway. They have already experienced an older daughter getting into some trouble and didn't want to lose this one, so they ended up throwing her a little wedding in July, a month before she turned 18 because her mother's school schedule was busy in August. The night before her wedding, instead of a rehearsal dinner, the whole family ended up at our house. I hadn't planned on it, so the dinner was $5 pizzas from Little Caesars. That night she told us about how they'd celebrated their 7th anniversary by going to see Harry Potter. My fiance said, "What? Have you two been dating since like kindergarten?". Oh no! She meant 7 month anniversary! Oh, the eyes that rolled!!!
The wedding so depressing because they looked like such babies standing up there, standing probably a good 5 feet from each other through the whole ceremony. They were still both taking direction from their parents and about 30 minutes into the reception, they started begging her dad for the car keys so they could leave for their 2 day honeymoon in Florida. On the way to Florida they got a $400 speeding ticket. Her husband only didn't get arrested for reckless driving because the police took pity on them being on thier honeymoon.
So that was a long story, but you can tell how I feel about young marriages. This one is still together, but the chances of it lasting aren't good. I pray that they are one of the few that will make it.
I think it all depends on the maturity of the couple. My FI and I have been together since my freshman year of high school (2002) by the time we get married in 2011 we will have been together for almost 9 years.
for background purposes, i got engaged on my 18th bday and am getting married at 20 (him 21). we'll both be finishing college (depending on summer course offerings) within a few months of the wedding and possibly walking in graduation before the wedding as there is no summer ceremony...
i think that yes you do become a different person between your teen years to your thirties. but, had we waited to get engaged and moved in together, we would not have grown together and been able to so easily blend our lifestyles. our families and friends seem to see it that way too... i havent had rude things said to me since i was still 18 and engaged. we decided on a 2.5 year engagement, but even at that we'll still be very young. but we've gone through growing up together, we grew together, and reached many milestones together. nobody who makes the "you're too young" comments was there for working more than full time on top of a full course load, finding our first place, the ups and downs of learning how to pay all the bills :P... point being, it's a personal decision. i think the fact that we got engaged as teenagers forced us to learn a lot together, and it also instilled in us this determination and sense of how serious marriage is that we may not have gotten if we didnt have to overcome all the stuff that comes with getting engaged/married young!
to be quite honest, i dont really take people's comments seriously anyway, because the divorce rate for older folks isn't so stunning, either.
Of course it depends on the couple, and I think it is bad to make generalization *to a person in that situation (if I knew you IRL I would keep my trap shut unless I had *other concerns....and probably not even then if you have a kid together!)
I have 4 friends that got married young. 2/4 are already divorced, but that is close to the normal divorce rate I think. The other 2 are very happy. My parents also got married young, and they are still together more than 40 years!
As long as you grow together instead of apart, you are OK, but in practicality, your brain doesn't fully form until I believe 25. Again, that doesn't mean you are doomed by any means! When I was younger, I wanted to get married @ 22/23, but I didn't marry until I was 29! If it were my daughter, though, I'd strongly encourage her to wait until she was more established in her career (hopefully w/ a bachelors) and lived on her own for awhile
I am going to be 25 when I get married and I wonder if that is too young and by that time I will have not only completed my undergrad with a double major, a masters, and I have gotten my DVM but more importantly FI and I will have been together for over 4 years. We also have survived a long term LDR with me abroad and him in the states - it wasn't fun but we made it work. And I also think that all of these life experiences definitely changed the people we were when we met and taught us how to grow together and become adults together. I don't think that getting married so very young you are not the person that you are going to be at all. I can look back at the guys I dated at 16, 17, 18, 19, and 20 and they are not the person I would want to be with today. Breaking off a long term relationship is considerably easier than going thru a divorce.
I also wonder what it is that makes a 18 year old want to get married so young.
I think it depends on your "culture". If you are independent, supporting yourself, and on your own in your teens, you probably have a better idea of who you are and what you want than someone in their 20's who just graduated college. I don't think age has to do with it so much as where you are at. Also, I've noticed people in the South get married a lot younger than the Northeast... not sure why that is. My hubby and I are getting married at 24, and thats young for where we are from, but him being in the military we have overcome a lot more hurdles than our friends and we don't want to go through a deployment without being married. So for us, its the logical next step.
I can't speak for others, because I know every situation is different, but I can say for myself marrying that young would have been bad, bad, and bad...and not because I was immature or anything. I put myself through college and graduated with a double major by the time I was 21...not something you can do if you're acting like a kid and being immature all the time. It just would have been bad because I know eventually I would have become to resent being married because I would have felt like I had missed out on so many important goals that I had set for myself. I always had a rule for myself, that I would absolutely in no way consider getting married before I was 25. And it worked out great. When I get married, I'll be 4 days shy of my 28th birthday and I feel the timing is great. I got all of my "single goals" out of the way. Now I can concentrate on sharing my life with someone.
Like everyone else said, each couple is different and has different goals. If marrying young is what you want, go for it.
My opinion isn't the one most wanted to hear by young couples. I think it's a bad idea.
At 18 to 21, a person should be in college, technical school or SOMETHING so they can live the rest of their life. After you get out of college, tech school or whatever, I say get married and do all you want to do. When you can afford your OWN wedding and your OWN bills, without help, then you can get married.
I don't understand getting married and asking parents for help with bills. (I have a 22yr old cousin and his 19yr old wife who are doing this. But it's from HIS family, b/c hers aren't around, nor the father of her child, so he is taking care of someone else's child at 22 and can barely pay bills. Just crazy.)
Jsdragonfly- That is how I see it also, single goals out of the way first, then couple goals. A person doesn't wantto be 30 and wishing they had done certain things.
I understand all the different viewpoints, and I have spent a lot of time thinking about young marriage and making sure I'm doing the right thing, but I just felt compelled to write about myself in response to the viewpoint that young brides are more about family and less about education.
I'm getting married three weeks after I graduate from college. My fiance and I have been together for five and a half years at this point, and in a long distance relationship while we've been at college. He is in the military, which has caused me to think long and hard about this relationship and what it will mean for me.
Education-wise, I go to a really good school. I graduated ranked higher in my high school class than my fiance, and now I have been accepted to two highly ranked law schools. In February my fiance chooses his first post, and we should be able to make it work so that it's near one of my two law schools. Ideally, I don't want to have kids for at least four years or so after we're married, so I can focus on getting my JD and building our marriage.
Also, I spent last year studying abroad in Europe, and I will encourage my fiance (then husband) to post overseas if he can later on. I do know that I'm giving up a certain measure of freedom to just do whatever by getting married, but I don't think that education, travel, and that type of thing has to be incompatible with marriage. Also, having been abroad on my own, I lived that and I know what I am missing by becoming so attached now.
I don't mean to be overly defensive, but I often feel rather atypical getting married so young and being at the type of university where I am, where everything is very career focused. Just wanted to add some perspective from someone who is going to be a young wife and pursuing education after college, focused on a good marriage but possibly not "family" in the children sense for at least a few years. It's definitely true that the military has probably affected our timeline, but only in terms of the practicalities of exactly when to get married.
Divorce rates actually aren't just as high for older couples:
"Women who get married before the age of 25 make up about 64 percent of all divorces in the U.S. On the other hand, women who get married in their late twenties make up only 16 percent of the divorces. This means that any woman who gets married before she turns 25 is about four times more likely to get a divorce. (Women in their 30s have even better odds of staying married.) Divorce Rates are Falling as Couples Marry Later"
I would have been married when I was 23 to someone I had dated for 5 years, but I called off the wedding. Now, at 34, we're both glad that I did because we would have ended up getting divorced. You just change so much between 18 and 23! Whether you use that time to get an education or just to discover yourself, that time is full of so many important changes--who you are, what you want in life, your goals, what you want (or should want) from a relationship--that you come out of it a different person. Experience gives you perspective, and when you're young you don't always have the perspective you might later wish you had.
That being said, I think that if my ex-fiance had been the right one for me and we had gotten married, we would still be together today. It just depends on how realistic a younger bride is with herself, her fiance and her expectations of marriage, and these things are where perspective helps. I was lucky enough to finally be honest with myself before we got married when I realized that I wouldn't have been happy in the long run.
I typically do not like it. It really depends on the maturity of the couple. The usual "depends" statement for this is "well it depends on how in love they are." But I'm the logical lover- there has to be way more than love to make a marriage- where are you going in life? Do you share goals? Do you want kids? Do you want to move around/live in different places? I mean there's a lot that goes into a marriage, and most kids from 16-22 have NO IDEA where they are going and what they want to do. I've been with my FI for 8 years, so since I was 18. And I would have been a fool to go into marriage before 2 years ago. We weren't settled, we didn't know where we were going or what we were doing! We both needed to have a grasp on things before we got engaged. We needed to know EVERYTHING about each other, we needed to be well-acquainted with our respective in-laws. We are solid and stable, and have been through enough to cement our relationship. So young marriages just don't sit well with me.
FI's mom, at 19, married FI's dad (30 at the time!), and they've been together for about 27 years. They married quickly, too. FMIL has had it rough at times- her husband's family disliked her because she was so young and her MIL gave her a hard time for years. Her husband was rarely around (she didn't go to college, and his job required a lot of traveling and long stays in other countries), so she raised my FI by herself. That's tough for a 20 year old! Both she and FI are just fine, and it worked out ok for her, but what she went through just makes me oppose too-young marriage more. Enjoy being young, you only get to do it once, because no matter what, once you're married, things will change, even if just a bit.
In addition, I think you need some sort of solid education in case of divorce- my best friend's mom's husband left her a few years ago, and they had been married since she was 20. She quickly had a first child, and became a housewife. When her husband left her after the kids were grown and in college, she had no college or tech education and had to go into school to get a degree as fast as possible so she could get a job to support herself. It was pretty rough for her for a while there. No one should have to go through that, but you absolutely must be prepared for the worst!
Well, I think I will share my thoughts. I actually have a lot of opinions on this subject, I myself will be 22 and the FI will be 24 when we are married. I will graduate from college with my bachelor's in Psychology approximately 2 weeks before the wedding. It's crazy, you know, I do feel young, but then again I feel so prepared for the journey we are about to embark on. I definitely think it all depends on the person. I have a friend who just got married she is 21 her husband is 22 and (IMO) it seems like that are playing house. Not to say they are not a fantastic couple, I am sure they will last, but thats not to say that they won't experience some hardships first.I just feel like they loved the idea of marriage and didn't consider everything that comes along with it.
I think that the my FI and I are very well prepared, we will both have college degrees (which I would HIGHLY recommend, especially to couple looking to get married young) I think a education really is one of the deciding factors in whether your marriage will last or not. I mean it better prepares you for bills and handling the pressures that go along with life. Another important factor (at least in our relationship) is our faith. We KNOW without a shadow of a doubt we are right for each other. We really feel called to be in each others lives. There is something to be said about a couple who can make each other want to be closer to God, we lift each other up. Another thing that is a MUST for young couples is support from your families. I seriously don't know what we would do without them standing behind us in all of this. It's such a joyous time and you should surround yourself with people that will hold you accountable in your marriage and be there to help you through the tough times.
All that being said, we don't expect it to be easy as a young married couple. We are moving away from both of our families (because of his job) and we know we have a lot to learn, but we also plan to take it VERY slow. NO kids for a long time, we don't want to bring a child into the world unless we can send it through college straight out of the womb :-P but overall I think the important thing to do when getting married young is plan for the future and be realistic! Best of luck in whatever comes your way tho!
I will my sister did, my mom did, FI's parents did. A couple of my friends did, so I have to say I'm okay with it.
Maybe in America this young twenties marriage thing is a bit more of a big deal. Perhaps my story will make you reconsider pigeonholing young brides. Where I live (Western Australia) the legal age for everything is 18, so technically I've been an adult for four years (am 22 now).
We also finish school before you, from what I can tell. So maybe being out in the real world for that time breeds maturity.
I had finished a three-year bachelor of media studies by the time I was 19-years-old and have been a professional in my field (I'm a journalist and photographer) for more than two years.
I've also been working since I was 14-years-old.
I must say I disagree with hello's comments.
Before I met the boy, I had travelled to the UK several times, backpacked Europe alone for three months, visited Thailand, Bali, Singapore, New Zealand. I've travelled to more places than most. And I love it and plan to continue.
Together we have backpacked around Thailand, Malaysia, Vietnam and Cambodia.
We plan to at least visit America, South America, Africa and see the Northern Lights before having children.
I will be 24 when we marry. We have lived together for more than a year and coexist wonderfully.
Construction has just started on our beautiful new house, which is jointly owned and paid for and we will live in it together come July. 4x2, 550sqm block with 250sqm of living space.
I partied myself out over the past four years and have had several serious relationships.
I don't think I'm any less equipped to handle a marriage than someone ten years older. In fact, I think I've done a lot more with my life than a lot of people.
I also pay all my own bills and the joint bills are split equally with the boy. I own my own (2008 Mazda 2 Neo, love love love) fancy car. I have no debt aside from the good debt that is my mortgage. And my job and partner's job are not well paying. It's not rocket science. It's just common sense. There are people in their fifties with less sense. I don't think it is entirely dictated by age.
Oh man - when I saw this post, I thought of myself - I'm 23. But, although I don't fit into this board's category for young, I've still known people who've married young. One of my friends got married a week before college graduation, and she's super happy. But, she'd been dating him for 6 years, so that might make a difference :)
I agree with a lot of what ie laura has to say. I think part of the reason why younger people have a higher divorce rate now is that a lot of people stay dependent on their parents for a longer time nowadays. And I really think people need to find and discover themselves individually (which is somewhat hard under your parents wing) before they can form a great partnership, no matter what age you get married at. It's just that younger people haven't had as much time to do this.
The other thing I see with younger couples is them feeling love for the first time and putting themselves in a situation where they see it basically as though they're already married, instead of working on the kinks and pushing each other to be better people, working on compatibility and really exploring whether they're right for each other. They accept as is, which is great to some extents, but it's not great to a lot of extents. You will be tempted by other people and this is by far the biggest cause I've seen for people in a serious relationships/married to end up having an affair.
Also at a young age you haven't always seen a lot of relationships develop and fall apart and been able to learn from their mistakes. But it's not like I immediately think bad, I've seen a lot of young couples work out terrifically well.
First let me say that I haven't read all the comments yet, but I'm 21 and FI is 22. We have only been together a year, and at the time he proposed were only together a month. We love eachother, we have good heads on our shoulders, and we make eachother happy. I think that judging a person by their age, just can't be done. You can't generalize a person like that. I know 30 year olds who go out and party everynight, so age just doesn't matter. It's really about maturity and love.
Wow! There has been a lot of discussion on this subject so I think I'd add my two cents. First of all let me state that I am a "young" bride. I am 21 but my fiance is 26. We will be 22 and 27 respectively when we get married so I have a bit of firsthand experience on this issue. I personally think that the idea of not getting married because you will change and grow and "don't know yourself yet" is a bit of a moot point. I am very well aware that I will be a different person at 25 than I am at 21. But I will also be a different person at 30 than at 25 and different at 40 than at 30, etc. If a person stops changing and growing then they aren't developing as a person and really aren't living life. But does that mean I shouldn't get married until I'm 40 because there will be changes in my life? In my opinion, no.
I also (like others have mentioned) feel that it is an individual decision on a case by case basis. Like I mentioned, I am 21. Not trying to toot my own horn here but I graduated with my bachelor's degree in 3 years instead of 4. I am a high school social studies teacher (who looks like I'm 15 and get constantly hounded about my age). I don't party, I bought my own brand new vehicle at 17 which was paid for completely with cash, etc. I can rattle off about 20 people who are 10 years older than me who don't have a career (or in some cases even a job), drink themselves into a blackout every Friday night, go from one trashy girl to the next, etc. Are they more qualified to be married than I am because they are 30 and I'm only 21? No, I really don't think so. And I personally take offense when people say my marriage is going to fail because I am a "young" bride. If anything I think it is good that I am getting married young. I am able to grow and make those changes with my husband and we will be knit together and experience those milestones together. I couldn't imagine it any other way.
Honestly I feel like it's none of my business :D to each his or her own. I'm beginning to think I'm too old to get married (29). I am very set in my ways lol!!
I dont think its a good idea at all. Getting married young is one group of high divorce rates. I think it seems like a good idea at the time, but people never understand why its a bad idea until they get older. Im sure it works out some times, but its a lot harder to make a marriage work. Also I know alot of people here are getting married young so they are obviously for it, but no matter how mature you are at 18 or 21 youre not fully mature yet. I dont see what the rush is everyone should enjoy their time when theyre young.
What you have to understand is everyone at their age is at a different stage in their life. I dont know how old you are but there could be someone much younger then you but yet more mature (Not saying your immature Im just trying to make a point) Like ive stated before, its not the age its the maturity. many people in their 30's (when scientifically you are done maturing) are in NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM ready for marriage.
I think if the couple is supporting themselves and making a life for eachother then whats wrong with it? Statistics dont mean a thing, i dont listen to them at all. You know why? Because marriage isnt what it should be anymore. everyone walks in thinking that if all goes wrong they will just divorce. If you dont have that "butterflies in you stomach feeling" therefore your not in love anymore. Its simply not true. Like people, love matures and becomes something different. And a lot of people cant grasp that. And thats why I feel that the divorce rate is so high.
Im 19 and married. Before you go and judge me, I am very happy with my decision. I know it will make it harder on our marriage since I married young, BUT im willing to accept that and work for something that is utterly so worth it. I dated my husband 3 years and lived with him for one. we have our pet, our home, and financial support all from our hard work. Isnt that what a marriage is?
Please dont go and assume because someone is young that they wont make it and end in divorce. Because its not necessarily true :)
I don't know, maybe I am taking offense to this when I shouldn't but I don't like all the generalizations that are being made. My husband and I both went to college, I am in the process of getting a masters and he is going back next semeseter, we own our own house, we save for retirement, and the only time we have asked our parents for money was when I had to pay about $4k for surgery near the end of last year/early this year. I don't like that everyone is making is sound like younger couples are all immature and can't do anything on their own! We are 22/23 and I honestly think that we are more mature than some people who know who are older (and I feel like I have been more mature than my peers since before I graduated high school). Plus my husband and I spent a lot of time thinking about whether or not it was right for us to get married so it's not like everyone dates losers when they are in college!
PS - Rock on osakagirl!
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