What do you think of my gifts?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@MrsWinTraining2014:  Honestly, the T-shirt would go to the bowels of my closet, never to be seen again. I know it’s a lot more work, but I think you should take the time to consider different gifts for different people- ESPECIALLY your parents. I think people would definitely prefer a long-term, sentimental gift over some flip flops and a t-shirt. (Sorry, I don’t mean to sound harsh). It doesn’t even have to be expensive, just something that will last.

Post # 3
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2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@MrsWinTraining2014:  Honestly, the T-shirt would go to the bowels of my closet, never to be seen again. I know it’s a lot more work, but I think you should take the time to consider different gifts for different people- ESPECIALLY your parents. I think people would definitely prefer a long-term, sentimental gift over some flip flops and a t-shirt. (Sorry, I don’t mean to sound harsh). It doesn’t even have to be expensive, just something that will last.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

The bridesmaids gifts are really underwhelming. You can’t count something that is gor the ceremony as a gift; it’s for you, even if they’re wearing it. I’d add something special like I’d give for each girl’s birthday. Maybe perfume if they’re into that or an ankle bracelet.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsWinTraining2014:  I think I agree with PPs (although I don’t know what the t-shirt is). Of course, it depends how your family is. How do y’all usually do these things? Maybe you’re more casual. Either way, I would definitely try to find something more personal to give to your bridesmaids. I think flowergirl and ring bearer are all set though! I don’t even know if most people give them gifts, so that’s really thoughtful of you!

Post # 7
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think depending on how much work and $$ your BMs spent on your bridal showers, bachelorette parties, dress, etc, you can give accordingly.

If they didn’t do much, then I think your gift is good.  But if they put in a lot more time, effort, and $$ then I think I agree with others that the gift for them is a little bit underwelming.

Everyone else seems fine to me!

Post # 8
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1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You are giving your bridesmaids the shoes you want them to wear for the ceremony as a gift?  Seriously?  Something that you insist on your girls wearing at your wedding is not a gift. 

Sorry, but giving your girls a t-shirt (unless it’s designer) and flip flops sounds cheap. 

What should you give them?  Gee, how about a gift card to their favorite store?  Or on the theme of the flip flops and tote bag, a huge body sheet type towel –the really really big ones, suntan lotion, and a water bottle with those individual flavor packets that you add to water. 

Or a gorgeous purse/clutch or scarf that they can use.  Dinner and a movie certificates, massage or spa certificates. 

I am not having bridesmiads but, if I were, I would not give them matchy-matchy type gifts but would tailor to their own personalities.

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Adding that if I had a flower girl, I would give her a piece of jewelry.  Little girls love jewelry.

 

As for the boy, how old is he?  If he’s little (under age 5), I would find a little play toy pocket knife for him so he feels “grown up”.  If he’s a little older, give him a pocket knife, too.  Maybe a smaller version.  His parents can hold onto it until he’s old enough to have it.  And he will feel so grown up!

 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I haven’t been in a wedding in years, but I don’t remember what we even received as gifts – I think in one case it was the jewelry that I wore in the ceremony?  Honestly, I didn’t really care.  Maybe instead of a t-shirt, you could do a small handmade makeup bag that matched the tote bag and put a nice palatte or gift set in it?  That is something that you can give to everyone but personalize for skin tone & coloring.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

As others have said they are very “you” centric. 

A gift is given without obligation.  If you obligate them to wear the t-shirts getting ready or the shoes for the wedding then they aren’t gifts.

The jewlery boxes may be ok, because they are for the moms.  The only two people besides yourselves that may want a picture of you on it.

I would look into something personal and related to each gals interests.  They do not have to match.

I would keep looking.  Sorry.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you are making the bags for people and putting a nice note in, I think that is a nice touch.  Honestly, I’d rather receive something thoughtful like this than having someone trying to figure out my taste.  I also don’t think all of the gifts need to be individual, unless you want to do something extra for the MOH.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

BMs: What kind of t-shirts?  Those could be good or bad.  Fun ones unique to each person would be just fine and even fun (if that’s something your girls like).  But if they say bridesmaid or flowergirl or have anything wedding related on them, then I wouldn’t think it a very good gift.  I mean, when would they wear it again?  Stuff to be worn for your wedding =/= gift since you’ll be the one who’s really benefiting from it.  So I don’t think you can count their shoes as part of their gift.  The totes sound good though and I’m neutral on the flip-flops (maybe cute flats instead?).

 

Flower Girl: I also like the suggestion of doing jewelry for the flower girl instead of an activity set.  Now I don’t think the activity would be a bad gift, this is just a perfect time to get the girl a special piece of jewelry.
 

 

Ring Bearer: With the exception of the tshirt (the verdict is still out on those) I think it sounds great. 

 

Moms: I think the jewelry boxes for your moms are a little too you-centric (as one PP said).  Presents that have the couple’s name and wedding stuff on it always rubbed me the wrong way.  Like, thanks for helping with/coming to my wedding, here’s a picture of me to remember it by…gee thanks…

I think jewelry boxes are a lovely idea so what you could do though, is engrave your name and wedding date, and then your parents’ names and wedding dates (respectively), and then leave room for any siblings’ names and future wedding dates.  I think that would be a nice way to include your special day without making the gift all about your special day.

 

Dads/GMs: Same thoughts as the moms.  I like the pocketknives, but I think the engraving part needs to be revisited.

 

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