Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning to have an elegant, black tie wedding that incorporates gold and pink in a country club.
My mother in law wanted to do the invitations and ordered them without a final sample being proofed by us.
I receieved this picture in the e-mail today for MIL, at this point I am informed that all of the invitations are printed. I feel that the invitations look cheap and tacky, and anything but elegant. I am not in love with the cheap pink ribbon and the brown background which I wanted in light gold. What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting?
This topic was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by julboyd.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
julboyd: I think they are adorable but I would lose the big bow.
Post # 3
I would lose the bows, they look like baby shower bows, without them I think they would be nice even if not exactly what you wanted. If it needs a bow to hold them all together maybe a verrrry thin gold ribbon would be better to use.
Post # 4
I think they are beautiful. You could change the bow to a belt-style ribbon just going once around the card.
Post # 5
julboyd: Hmmm that’s a tough one. For a black tie affair, a simple invitation typically sets the tone for the affair. Can you lose the pink bow? Maybe you oculd replace it with a very thin black satin ribbon to keep the lace inserts closed.
Post # 6
julboyd: I agree with the previous posters–I think that it would be well worth seeing what the invitations look like without the bows (I agree that they are…problematic) before taking drastic action. I’m sure you can find some more subtle way of closing or binding the invitations using something in a more subtle shade of gold. Although this will not allow you to incorporate the pink, that can clearly be used elsewhere in your decor!
Post # 7
Those look country/rustic and the bow will look lumpy when in the envelope and might cost more for postage. Also, that is not a black tie invitation. The most formal of invitations are printed on white or ecru paper with black lettering and traditional wording with very little additional decorations.
Post # 8
I don’t think they look right for your wedding. The brown paper and doiley says rustic and the ribbon says, um, cheap.
Post # 9
julboyd: The invitation is the first impression your guest will have of your wedding, and as others have stated, it sets the tone for the affair. The invitation pictured above looks quite informal to me, more suitable for a baby shower for a girl, or a rustic/vintage barn wedding, than an elegant black tie affair.
The photo below suggest “formal” to me….
Post # 10
julboyd: Sorry I just realized it might be more helpful to post a photo with your colors on the invitation sample!! My apologies!
Post # 11
julboyd: I think they are lovely but they don’t say black tie and i don’t think your MIL should have ordered them without your final say.
Post # 12
I want to find something nice to say about them so that you don’t have to buy all-new invitations, but I really don’t think those are right for your wedding. I am having a casual rustic wedding, and I think those would be horrid even for a wedding whose theme they fit in with.
You may have to have a hard conversation with your MIL and thank her for her contribution, but explain that those invitations are not what you had in mind. I would not expect her to pay for a whole new set, that may be something that has to come out of your budget.
What you could do is see if there is a way to salvage her invitations and make them suitable for the rehearsal dinner. It would not be a difficult DIY to print the rehearsal information on new squares of suitable paper and paste them over the existing wedding information inside.
At the very least, the pink bows need to go. I agree with the poster that said a gold ribbon would look better. If using these for your actual wedding is a MUST, I think a pink bow ought to be replaced with a more formal, satiny gold bow, and sheets of that invitation-tissue-paper-stuff need to be cut to size and placed between the lacey outer part and the brown section. That will lend it a much more formal look and make the design more appropriate for your wedding.
What does the font on the inside look like?
Post # 13
hmmm I don’t think they go with your theme at all & like pp your invitations are the first taste of your wedding your guests will get, they essential set the tone for your wedding. These are far too casual, I would be so annoyed if my MIL did that. When I think black tie I think…
Post # 14
You have far more problems than the invites. MIL should not be doing stuff like this, sorry.
Post # 15
This is what they look like on the inside. I don’t have that great of pictures because I have never actually seen the invitations in person, since no one sent me the final invitation to proof. Thank you for the input btw!