Post # 1
I’ve posted about my sister’s baby before, and now we’re at the point where we’re planning the baby shower. This is their first kid, it’s a girl, but they REALLY don’t want only pink and purple things. My mom came up with this idea to try to get people to buy things in all colors and I wanted to know what you guys thought of it. Be honest, if you think it’s against ettiquete or just rude or whatever. I don’t care, we just need some feedback before we go for it!
The idea was to write a little poem or something on all the invites, that basically gives the person a colour their gifts have to be. Now, before you get all upset over the mentioning gift thing, my sister is the first grandchild to have a baby, and this shower is for our aunts and uncles and family members. They’re all bringing gifts, and have already asked for registry info and all that jazz. It’s not seen as bad ettiquete in my family, it’s seen as being helpful. Anywho, so basically each invite will say, in a much cuter way, something like “Please try to keep all your gift items in the cololr ______” and people will have a different color. We are also going to pass it around by mouth that this isn’t a end all be all color thing and if they’re color is blue but they’ve been hand making a pink blanket we’re not gonna be mad at them. It’s just a way to try to get more then just pink clothing for their daughter.
Thoughts? If you don’t like it, do you have any suggestions of another way we could go about trying to make sure people bring colors? Be honest please! I’m not offended if you hate the idea and would be offended to receive an invite with this request in it!
Post # 3
I think this is a really cute idea – could you say there is a “rainbow theme and we’d love it if you could provide the colour___”.
I wouldn’t be offended at all, I would be excited by the idea!! Sometimes I feel like I “should” get a gender-specific colours, even if I’m not all that excited by the present myself. Good luck with the planning 🙂
Post # 4
I think it sounds like a good plan, especially for family! Family is the kind of people who (generally) get over stuff a lot more than casual aquantances, especially when things like new babies are concerned. I totally get the not wanting pink only, the key reason whenever we have kids, no one gets to know before that baby is here! I think it is a nice way to make sure it doesn’t look like Barbie’s closet exploded.
Post # 5
I really don’t think mentioning gifts in a shower invitation violates any rule of etiquette. That’s what showers are for.
Post # 6
The entire point of showers is gifts so there’s no issue mentioning them on the invite. I think noting what colour scheme they’re planning to decorate their nursery with or asking for specific colours is totally fine.
Post # 7
I would be annoyed if I had to search for a gift in a specific color. I personally think that your sister should just register for the things that she wants in the colors that she wants and if someone brings something too girly, she can return it.
Post # 8
When I had showers for Dirty Delete, I had people spread WOM that I was totally open to colors and didn’t prefer pink/purple. We got a wide array of gifts but still, lots of pink and purple. Now that Dirty Delete is here and almost 2, I can honestly say that it really doesn’t matter what color she wears or whether or not it’s pink.
Post # 9
Awesome thanks for the feedback. I think we’re going to go for it. Now to come up with something catchy to say.
I didnt know if putting something like that was bad etiquette, so I put that just so that wasn’t my only response lol. And I do love the idea of telling them the nursary scheme! We might make a verbal note of that as well.
Thanks guys =)
Post # 10
@julies1949: yepp. shower=gift.
I think its a fun idea:) At the same time: it limits gifts. Sometimes you can’t find a GREEN book or RED bouncer or….YELLOW diaper bag?!!? So, I think she will be limiting her gift options tremendously. I mean what about diapers, changing pads, baby nail clippers, bottles, diaper genies and other stuff? Those don’t really have colors. If she registers for non pink items, then that’s what she should get. Also, being a close family who talks to eachother often: maybe you should just spread the word that mommy doesnt want pink or purple?
Post # 11
I think it’s a cute and unique idea. The WOM note that it isn’t required seems like a good idea too just in case a guest can’t find a gift in the “assigned” color. There is always the option for your sister to return or exchange things if she doesn’t think she will use the item. I’m sure if someone is offended by it, they won’t participate. I’m usually a stickler for no gift info on invitations but for a shower it doesn’t bother me. That seems to be the whole point.
That is going to be one stylish baby girl.