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Thanks! I love our idea, the only hesitation is that I don't want people to think we're doing a money grab. But at the same time, everyone attending will know our grandfather's history and would think the idea is very sweet.
i think it is a nice idea! especially with a cute sign infront of where they would put the donations so they know where their money is going.
How are you going to know someone made a donation so that you may kiss? The purpose of the annoying clinking is to get your attention...maybe after they donate they make a noise of some sort-bell, clickers, flash a light??
That's a good point. I'm planning on having the box at the end of our head table, or up front near us at the podium (where our master of ceremony will be). Maybe they could announce into the microphone as they do it?
I think it's a creative idea; but am in the camp that would think it was strange and don't like it. It makes me think of those donation jars on counters at restaurants or at the grocery store.
Also, I wouldn't go up and make a donation to see a couple kiss.
@oracle: What about putting the donation box on the memory table with our photos and candles? Would that be less weird?
It's a cute idea, but I don't think it will stop anyone from clinking their glasses.
@Lyndzo: Honestly, I don't think asking for donations at a wedding is the right place and time. If you want to make a donation as a favor, I'm all for it (and I usually dislike doing donation favors!). But, that's the farthest I'd take it.
ETA: If you want to raise money for charities of your choice - what about doing a: in lieu of wedding gifts, please donate to "X" or "X" and put the reasons why.
Or, you could also say a percentage of all cash gifts will be given to "X" and "X" charities...
Eh... I think it's a very sweet idea but it has the potential to go either really well or very poorly. Charites can be tricky because people may not like the two you picked and don't want to support them (like PETA). It's not that people are against curing cancer or whatever, they just don't agree with how the donated money is handled (Koman Foundation is a good example of this).
Another thing to consider is that not everyone carries cash on them (I typically don't) and thus they wouldn't be able to partake - which could be a bummer for some (I know I would be bummed).
Also, it could be kinda awkward for guests to come up to your table and donate in front of everyone. How would everyone know that someone donated? Would you have a bell you'd ding (like the kind you find at front counters in stores)? You might want to consider that so then it's not just the one person who donated watching you kiss (holy creepiness!).
Do you have anything against the sound of bells? I went to a wedding where they had little bells at each place setting and a card letting guests know that if they wanted the bride and groom to kiss that they should ring the bell (I'm sure there was a nice little poem, but I really can't remember what it was). I thought it was adorable (and different) and very cute when the bride rang the bell because she wanted a kiss.
@Lyndzo: What a cute idea. What about having a little bell to ring on top of the boxes.
Maybe you could also include a 'wish box' for those that don't want to give to charity for whatever reason. They can still take out the time to write out advice or a memory for you, and then ring the bell.
ETA- I see other bees suggested bells as well :-)
@RunsWithBears: Bells is actually a cute idea. I could definitely work that in.
I was just hoping to somehow include our charities in it, but I guess it may be too hard :(
I think it's a great idea! But like a pp said, I doubt it will stop people from clinking glasses
You girls are great! Thanks for all the advice.
I really like the idea of donating a % of any money gifts to our charities. I could put something up on the Memory Table letting guests know about it :)
I admire your creativity and your very generous spirit. However, I do not really think this is a good idea for a wedding.
I think your heart is in the right place but I don't think a wedding is the appropriate place for a fundraiser. Regardless of the end results, I think it's never ok to ask your guest to take out their wallet at your wedding.
I agree with a PP about asking for donations in liue of gifts if you are really dead set on contributing to a charity.
I say do it! I love the idea - my best friend did it at her wedding (she had a bell by the box, and we put little notes on the table explaining what was going on). She ended up raising about $100-150 for a local children's hospital.
I don't think for a second people would think it's a 'money grab'. But hey, maybe it's a Canadian thing?? 
Cute idea - good luck. The clinking of the glasses is one of my biggest pet peeves ever. It makes me want to claw my skin off with my fingernails. Ugh. (Everyone who has ever sat at a table at a wedding with me knows this about me, so I just spread the word to please not clink their glasses or they would have an angry bride to answer to! It worked fairly well)
I think charity is a really private issue, and I wouldn't be comfortable going up to make a donation in public, despite being very active in a number of charities.
The Canadian cancer society has also recently come under fire (around the summer time) because they spent more money fundraising, then actually researching for cancer. So even the most seemingly PC charities (I mean who likes cancer?) can have a seedy under belly.
I think it's a great idea.
For all you brides that don't like the clinking glasses, I heard about this-- they have to stand up and sing a song to get you to kiss.
How about something that is more personal to you and your groom?
I've been to weddings where people did creative things to "earn" the couple's kiss. For example, the groom LOVED golf so they set up a minature golf strip and you had to get a hole in one for the couple to kiss. =) Maybe something along those lines?
The reason that people clink the glasses is that they don't have to get up from their seats. I would never want to walk up in front of everyone nd let them see a donation, to me that is a very private thing. I also don't find it very appropriate for a wedding, while I think you are trying to find something with heart, I just don't think this is the way to do it.
Weddings are not the appropriate place to raise money. Your hear is in the right place, but charity is a personal thing and I know I would be extremely uncomfortable with that.
instead of doing a box up front, you can always create a small box for donation at each table with a tiny bell next to it. Every time someone donate something at their table, they get to ring their bell. That way, the guest doesn't have to go all the way up (I know I would be embarrassed)
I really don't like it. I attended a wedding recently where the bride & groom did something similar and I can tell you that the donation box was pretty much empty. I agree with PPs that your wedding is not a fundraising event.
How about you ask guests to tell a story about each of you, the two of you as a couple or to sing you a song? I went to a wedding where they did this and it was really fun because people told quick little stories about bride or the groom or they just picked a few verses from a love song to sing. (There was a mic that was passed around from table to table so no pressure to stand up in front of 300 people)
We came up with the idea to have a Donation Box. Whenever someone wants us to kiss, they will have to come up and make a donation
no. its no better than a money dance or a garter auction - just no. your wedding isnt a fundraiser
but i do note that you are from canada and people there seem to do things differently, someone was telling me about a party where people give toonies (sp???) that goes towards the cost of the wedding
I think it's a great idea but you may have a problem relaying this info to the guests...
@eloping: Yes, lots of people do stag and doe parties which are basically fundraisers. There are tickets, prizes, drinks etc. and usually lots of people who are not invited to the wedding are invited to the stag and doe (I get lots of invitations for total strangers). In some places it's seen as a big community event since people have nothing better to do. I'm not a fan.
@Ms. Martian: I'd say it's only in smaller towns though. I live in a major city and have only ever been to ones in small towns and 1 in the city (which was a flop, because Torontonians don't really do it, IME).
I think that your heart is in the right place and it is a cute idea but I don't think it would actually go over well.
A wedding isn't an appropriate place for a fundraiser (IMO) and it also puts your guests in an uncomfortable position to have to go make a donation in front of everyone.
Think it is a great Idea!!! My friend did a similar one, but it was to donate or you had to answer a trivia question and if you were wrong then you had to kiss someone in the wedding party!! Lucky I got to kiss a friend of mine was fun!!
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So I can't stand the glass clinking and my FI isn't a big fan either. So we thought it would be fun to come up with something different if people want us to kiss.
We came up with the idea to have a Donation Box. Whenever someone wants us to kiss, they will have to come up and make a donation (any amount) to the 2 charities of our choice. We thought it would be unique and a nice idea to raise money for the charities that mean a lot to us.
My grandfather died of Cancer so I'm choosing Canadian Cancer Society and my FI is choosing Heart & Stroke foundation in honour of his grandfather.
What do you think of our idea?