Post # 1
FI hasn’t done a lot for the wedding (my choice) but the suggestions he makes, we NEVER agree on. He is in LOVE with this idea and I don’t think our guests will understand. We have gotten some decent reviews from friends but I’m still skeptical. So here’s the deal…
Ya know how when you go around from table to table, everyone asks you the same questions (where are you going on the honeymoon, how did you meet, how did he propose, etc etc). Well FI wants to have a “press conference” where we will have question cards on each table for guests to ask questions. Then someone will ask us the questions, press conference style (he’s a huge sports fan if you can’t tell). That way, when we go around and greet people, they will have more “original” things to talk to us about.
I could write a book about this debate but I won’t make you read that. I have come up with some ideas for a compromise but don’t want to share because I want you to solely give your opinion on the press conference. Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
I think that is very unromantic and ..tacky.
There is something wrong if you can’t be happy and patient about repeating where you met, where you’re going on a honeymoon, etc to your guests on this once in a life-time day.
Post # 4
p.s i think it shows arrogance towards your guests and they may feel uncomfortable knowing what else to talk to you about.
Post # 5
I definitely wouldn’t do it at the reception. Press conferences are messy, especially for the first time ‘reporters.’ People talk over each other or they don’t get to talk at all. If you think of a first grade classroom where no one is encouraged to raise their hand, you get a good idea of what it’s like to be in them. They work on tv because coaches, officials, whoever, know who to ask questions of based on how large their station is.
If he’s 100% set on it, try to work it into the rehearsal dinner or something!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do it exactly the way you’re describing. That seems strange, to put it lightly. But I do think it would be cute for you two to make a little speech together about the relationship, that answers the how-you-met, how-he-proposed, where’s-the-honeymoon type questions.
Post # 7
I don’t think a wedding is an appropriate venue to play out famous sports hero related fantasies. A bachelor party is more appropriate for that.
Post # 8
To be completely honest we didnt get asked those questions at our reception!
Before and after the wedding all the time but at the reception people just kept complimenting us, the wedding, our clothes etc.
Post # 9
i’m glad you all agree with me so far. i don’t think many of our older relatives are going to even understand what’s going on. Plus, there are many people coming to our wedding that we barely know. What else are we going to talk about with them?!
@BanditGirl: haha well said.
@jo.lee: FI did come up with ideas to make it less messy so i give him credit there but i completely agree with you
Post # 10
@FMM: good to know! and i don’t think we’re going to be mad or annoyed by people asking us those questions. i think FI was just trying to make things more exciting or different but he doesn’t completely understand
Post # 11
Even actual celebrities don’t have press conferences at their actual wedding… because it just spoils the mood
Edited to add: when I’m at a wedding i never hear ppl asking the bride and groom where they met or where they are going on honeymoon.. and i’ve never asked these questions myself on the actual wedding day.
Post # 12
that sounds really forced and awkward. I don’t think guests would like to do that sort of them. Just let them be happy for you two naturally. They don’t need to ask you staged questions to fake their happiness or interest in your marriage.
Post # 13
Also, why are you so worried about having conversations with all the guests at your wedding. You won’t have time for that. You will pretty much only have time to say “hi and thanks for coming” to most of your guests So don’t worry about what you are going to say to the guests you barely know.
Post # 14
ditto re what amariem25: said -you will only have to say thanks for coming, I hope you have good time to people you barely know. ( I presume these are your parents’ guests.)
Post # 15
Generally I’ve found that conversations at weddings go something like this:
“It was such a beautiful wedding” “Thanks so much and thanks for coming!” and then on to the next person!
Post # 16
Tell him to put that stuff on the wedding website or something.