Post # 1
I’m still a ways off from a wedding, but I came upon an interesting website through wedding magazines called Hatch My House (hatchmyhouse.com). I know that it’s not considered classy to ask for money… However, this website allows you to design your house (with items in it as well such as a bed, chairs, kitchen sink, plants, plates etc.) and also give your guests the option to “buy” windows, a roof, stairs, columns, flowerbox, etc. The guest get to leave a note attached to what they bought. So if you already have a lot of things normally on a registry, such as towels, kitchen supplies, etc., this gives you an opportunity to put money towards a house but in a more personal way. I’m not asking whether or not I should use it. Odds are, I’ll probably need those normal registry items in two years. Just curious what you all think – terribly inappropriate or super creative?
Post # 3
@misswhimsy: Super creative. Mrs Funnel Cake from the blog did something similar but it was towards their honeymoon, I think the house option it’s way better.
At the end it is a registry.. so there shouldn’t be a big deal.
I just wish they had something like that here so I could use it, but it’s not considered innapropiate in my country to ask for money.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’d like it if it weren’t for this- “The Hatch My House fee is 5.9%”- as a gift giver, that would bug me, and I’d just give cash instead. But very creative- I like it more than a honeymoon registry.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s tacky but unless you’re actually going to buy a window with the money why make guests go through the hassle of picking it. I might bebiased though since I’m a fairly dedicated cash giver to begin with.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s inappropriate. I’d just worry about logistics – what if some people purchase columns etc, but other items are missed (roof, stairs etc)? If a couple had the $ to purchase whatever they didn’t receive on a registry like this, I think it’s great! 🙂
Post # 7
I wouldn’t call it “terribly inappropriate.” But for my part, I’m not a big fan.
I’m one of those “old fashioned” people who avoids giving money and prefers to give gifts. I don’t like Honeyfund or mortgage funds or insert___here funds because–and yes, I’m aware at how harsh this will sound, there’s something about those registries that makes me immediately think, “Um, if you need to pay a mortgage/have a honeymoon in Paris/buy a new car…why are you having a wedding?” In my head, there is a difference between elective luxuries and general adult responsibilities and I don’t like feeling as a wedding guest that I should be obligated to help someone with those things. A place setting is one thing, but it’s not my responsibility to pay for someone’s vacation or home improvements. I also understand the position that it’s the couple’s day and it’s what they want and all that, but again, I can’t help it–a wedding in itself is a luxury and to me, it’s like if you need people to pay for your home, then you shouldn’t be trying to afford a wedding. For this reason, I’m also not the type to relish contributing to a child’s college fund at a baby shower and I’m also the type who will buy off the registry every time unless there is no other option but to cut a check.
I KNOW this is sort of irrational in the sense that cash is cash and the $100 I’d spend on a juicer is the same as $100 I’d spend on buying a new window for someone’s house, and in cases when my good friends have requested cash or done Honeyfund etc. I’ve obliged because they’re good friends. But as a matter of principle, I guess I’m sort of fuddy-duddy that way.
Post # 8
I get where you are all coming from. And BothCoasts, I understand what you are saying. While it’s nice to get someone a gift (and they’ll think of you when they see it!), you don’t want to feel like you’re taking on their responsibilities, especially if you’re doing those same things on your own. I wonder if it would make a difference if someone had that as an option, and then Bed Bath and Beyond, Crate and Barrel, etc. for more conventional options. Thanks for all your opinions! 🙂
Post # 9
Personally I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing it, but I think it would be a great option for a lot of people.