Post # 1
While at Starbucks about an hour ago a lady came up to me while I was waiting for my tea latte and said something to me that I’m not quite sure how to take. She told me I “looked like I was well taken care of.” Since that has to be the strangest thing to say to someone you have only known for about 30 seconds I wasn’t quite sure how to reply so I simply said “Thanks” grabbed my drink and walked out pondering her comment.
While I don’t necessarily think I am offended or insulted I don’t know if I am complimented either. To imply that someone is taken care of means that there is someone else doing all the care and my assumption would be in particular a man. So is she assuming that I have a sugar daddy? That I don’t work or provide for myself? What about a woman would lead someone to this assumption?
To be fair I was at Starbucks at 11 am on a Friday, I needed a break from work, so perhaps she thought I was a woman of leisure?
I am curious how others might interpret a comment like this and what if any witty or fabulous comebacks did I miss out on?
Post # 3
I’m not sure what that is supposed to mean, so I would probably just be confused, lol.
Post # 4
You don’t know her. She could be a total nutbomb. Why waste any energy worrying about her intent or whether or not you should be offended?
Post # 5
That is probably the strangest thing to say to someone… I don’t even know what that means!?
The only thing I can come up with is that you seemed really put together and maybe it was a sideways compliment to your ring, but she didn’t want to say “holy cow! your ring is FREAKING GORGEOUS and HUGE!” (sorry, you know how much I love your ring, so any time I can compliment it, I’m going to ) so she skirted the issue and made it awkward?
Post # 6
That is bizarre. I don’t know!
Post # 7
Hahahaha. Just be confused about it. So many people have different intrepretations of things. I remember this guy said to me once “One fish, two fish, three fish sea.” He then signed off of AIM (oh yeah, so cool back then!) and left me puzzled. I couldn’t figure it out for the life of me what it meant. I asked others and go so many different opinions. I finally just let it go.
Post # 8
My first thought was “what an odd compliment.”
Guess you look good when you get coffee. 😉
Post # 9
She may have saw your beautiful ring, noticed the fact that you were at Starbucks at 11am on a friday when she would then assume that if you were a working woman you’d be at work. Tie that together with the fact that you were probably very well dressed because you were actually working and just taking a break. She probably thought you were engaged to a very rich man and that he dressed you well and that you didn’t have to work.
I am just assuming this may be it. Was she older? That might explain why she said that because she might have grown up thinking that the man takes care of the woman? Who knows. I wouldn’t be too offended by it, though. Seemed harmsless enough.
Post # 10
I have no idea what thats suppose to mean either. I would of just been like “ummm ok? whats that suppose to mean?”
Post # 11
in my experience most of the time when people go out of their way to talk to you in public they are trying to be nice, so I would assume she meant it as some type of a compliment
Post # 12
Do you think she might have meant “well-groomed”? As in, you take good care of yourself?
Either way, what a bizarre thing to say!
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2012 - Glades Pike Winery, Somerset, PA
o_O That’s definitely very weird. Maybe she meant it offensively, but who cares? She’s some woman you saw for 2 seconds and will probably never see again. But I would definitely be confused by that comment!
Post # 14
Did you have a certain, ahem, glow about you? Or do I just have a dirty mind? That’s the first thing I thought of!
Post # 15
@julies1949: Why? It is a slow day at work and I need a distraction from wedding stuff. Like I said I’m not offended I’m just perplexed. 🙂
@o0olibelulao0o: Ha ha thanks!
@JM1217: She probably thought you were engaged to a very rich man and that he dressed you well and that you didn’t have to work.
Wouldn’t that be nice!?! She was probably in her early fifties I’m guessing so yes that could be a partial explanation of perhaps her point of view. Good thought, thanks.
Post # 16
@Over the Moon: LMAO!!! No there would be no glow (as in baby) or afterglow (as in I had a good start to my morning). Fridays don’t glow here….hence the need for Starbucks. 😉
@KatieBklyn: That is what my FI said too. I just thought it was too bizarre not to share.