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I think that those look exactly like one of the pieces in the inspiration board you submitted. If you wan to talk to her about how the little thingys are set up (i.e. more in a central row like the first big photo), I think that is totally cool.
As much as I love the first look, the second one is just as nice. Not to mention, none of your guests will have ever seen your inspiration picture so they have nothing to compare it with. I'm sure they are all going to love this so much. Try not to stress on this. Trust me, at the end of the day, you will laugh that you stressed over something like this. It's going to look great!
It looks exactly like the pic in the bottom left, not the top left. Could she have gotten confused? There's no reason why she can't put them in a box in a row instead of scattered. I think it was probably just a miscommunication.
I voted for deal with it because I think it is actually really good. The way the burners are spaced out will be better than the close together burners for crowd flow.
I think the main reason I was disappointed was because we actually discussed the box and how they could custom make a box, possibly a clear one to use. During our conversation, we definitely both focused on the upper left picture. I think she even mentioned that she had sterno holders (like the one used) and could do that as an option and I said that I preferred the upper left.
I think I am torn between being completely realistic and laid back, because I understand @wendys328's point, and just not being happy because it's not what we discussed. I'm between being logical and letting go and being nit picky and wanting what I want. I've gone the logical and letting go way for the most part of this whole planning process, so it's a little hard for me to be disappointed, but it's definitely there . . .
If it's what you had clearly discussed, then I would mention it, but be prepared for her to say no, or say yes but then not actually follow through, since she didn't listen (?) the first time.
Hey Lady,
I just wanted to say that I totally understand your disappointment. I'm a very particular person and I just want what I want, especially if I have a specific vision. I think you just have to decide whether this is something that is really important to you or whether you can just let it go. Only you can answer that.
If you don't ask, it won't change. It doesn't hurt to check, just realize that it may not work in their particular set up. If you don't ask, the answer is always no.....
Honestly after all the details of a wedding are done, its probably not something that you would even go back to think over in the end if it doesn't change. Regardless, people will love it because it is a new and different idea!
@Meowkers - The smores bar was the one thing I went into wedding planning knowing that I want, so I guess this is the one thing I am kind of particular about and I have a specific vision for. I know I would be satisfied with whatever they give me and that it won't make a difference to our guest. Maybe I just need to express my concerns and let go of whatever doesn't completely fit the vision.
I love the smores idea. I wanted to do this actually. I really like her set up. Yours is very modern looking and nice too, but hers is neat. I'd like it.
Wish you well :)
I think yours will look great. The guests will be happy to see something new and original at a wedding.
all i think is that i really want a smore now....
no but seriously, i'm having a smores bar as well, and i would take that!
@JennHasFeet - I was wondering if any smores girls would chime in! Have you seen what yours is going to look like at all?
And, I totally had a smore . . . it's awesomeness distracted me for a little bit :)
I think you need to let her know what you liked about her tasting such as the glass containers with the smore items. But then let her know that you are more then welcome to help build the boxes to house the sternos. Maybe she was concerned about the sternos burning someone or something. Give her a chance to explain her option.
Yum! I would definitely speak up and just say you really like a more linear look, if possible. Since this is new for her as well she may be open to some changes.
I'd say unless you're willing to help her pay for or straight up personally buy the different kind of burners (what do you call the thing with the fire?!?), I wouldn't say anything. Is that your biggest conundrum? Or is it something else?
I mean, she's adding this to her 'menu', and thus made an investment based on what will work for her to use with other clients, not just you, so if you want something 'upgraded' it makes sense in my mind that you would be paying more for it.
If it's in your budget to upgrade it though, then yeah, talk with her!
I understand your disappointment, but in the end I think this setup will be better for your guests. It will keep people from clumping while they melt their dessert. BTW, a smore bar is an awesome idea! This makes me want a smore right now!
smores are fun, but have you ever actually made one with those gel sternos? they make a huge mess. I always get all sticky and spill stuff all over the place. Not really something I'd want to do at a wedding in nice dress attire. If you do decide to do it, please have wet naps readily available for your guests.
I think the setup that the caterer has seems pretty nice. Maybe even better than yours because it is more spread out and will give guests more room to make smores. But what I think would be even better is if each table got a cauldron to roast their smores over. Then you won't have to have a rush of all of your guests to one table for the smores. Otherwise have multiple smores stations up around the room. Maybe many different cocktail tables with the cauldrons on them?
I'd ask her to change the set up. You can still use those black things for the heat source, just line them up like your favorite inspiration picture and ditch the multi-level table with draped linens for a clean-lined table with one straight linen.
It wouldn't be too hard or costly to find or make a box, but the black things in it, and then put stones or rocks in the box to cover the bases.
I think they way she's set it up would look a lot nicer if it were displayed differently. I don't care for the silk and risers underneath. There's a lot going on there, so maybe it would be better it if was set-up a little simpler. Just my thoughts.
I am having a smores bar too :) I know it is messy, but we aren't having a formal reception, and are serving BBQ, so it can't be messier than that! LOL! I will definitely have wetnaps available (that is a great idea!)
I like your inspiration pics better. I am not a fan of the way she has them arranged.
if the issue is more like the glass containers, that's easier to fix.. they're probably going with a set up that wouldn't cost them an arm and a leg (and then you as well!) if they already had the burners. I like it! you can tweak the stuff overall, but i think the second way is just as nice. Not as crowded. Melty sugar and fire and white dreses need a little room to breathe. You may be pleasantly surprised!
My issue is with all the draping fabric everywhere. It's really throwing me off. It looks out of place and messy. The inspiration pics you posted of the buffet are cleaner and more structured looking.
I like the caterers setup too because of the space it provides for your guests. I also think those little black burners look more elegant than the gel sternos, but that it just me. Have you thought about making individual boxes for each sterno to fit your look, but still have them more spread out?!
Also, you said the second setup was at the tasting... Was this for a group of people? Maybe she wanted the tasting setup to appeal to a large number of the clients, but still has your vision in mind for your reception?
P.S. I want a s'more right now!!
Could you make or supply a box to put the covered burners in? I think the exposed Sterno burners are super unappetizing, BUT the covered ones would be relaly nice in a box w/ stones like that.
Maybe you guys can provide some things to facilitate the look you want and ask them to set it up withwhat you supply them.
I'd talk to her about it - she may have specific reasons for setting it up the way she did (flow of people) etc. or maybe not. It can't hurt to have a friendly conversation!
The pictures from the tasting don't look anywhere near similar to the inspiration pictures. Also, if you discussed the box setup in detail, then why wouldn't they be willing or able to do that for you instead? The tasting pictures look ok but definitely not the same as the inspiration at all. The draped fabric looks really out of place with everything else. I would push to have the original box setup or else scrap the idea if they won't work with you on that.
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A month or two ago, my fiance and I signed a contract with our caterer. During our meeting, we discussed with the caterer about how we wanted a smore buffet rather than a cake. This would be the main focus of our dessert, with a chocolate fountain and brownie as our other dessert options.
These are the pictures I gave her.
The picture in the upper left was the one I told her was my favorite and ideally what I would like.
So, she loved the idea so much that she decided to introduce it to her tasting and she invited me back to see it for myself and tell her what I thought. This is what she had set up (the black things hold gel sternos, so that is where the heat to melt the marshmallows will come from).
It would do, but I was just a little disappointed because it's obviously very different than the primary inspiration picture. Both my bridesmaid (who accompanied me) and I discussed and went over what we did like and what we didn't like. Obviously, this set up still works and it by no means would ruin the wedding, everyone would still love it . . . but, just the more I think about it, the more disappointed I am by the set-up.
What do you think?
What would you say to the caterer about it?