What do you think when someone says your ring is "cute"?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you find "cute" to be annoying when it's applied to your ring?
    Yes, I hate it, it's a veiled insult! : (36 votes)
    22 %
    Yes, it's a little annoying : (49 votes)
    30 %
    No, I don't care : (33 votes)
    20 %
    No, I don't find it insulting : (34 votes)
    20 %
    I love polls and sparkly things! : (14 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think that they are rude and don’t have the common courtesy to say its beautiful even if they don’t think it is.

    I’m sorry, but I just don’t take that as a compliment. Honesty is great, but when it comes to things like that you need to be nice whether you like the item or not.

     

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I usually take it as a polite way to say its either 1. “small”, or 2. they just don’t like it.

    Either way, at least they made an effort to reply with something nice, rather than something rude.

    My ring is quite differant, and I hear all types of compliments on it, only a few “its cutes!”, but I just assume it’s not their style, or perhaps they expected more.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I backhand them with my left hand and then ask them if it also feels cute.

    J/K. Your ring is pretty. Anyone who calls it cute maliciously obviously has no eye for gorgeous jewelry. Perhaps some of them mean it genuinely. Until WB, I had no idea people took offense to “cute.” I have since made a note to self to avoid using that term.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Nah, it doesn’t bother me. I already know that my ring is considered on the smaller side here on the Bee (.51 ct), but I’m also really tiny and I get called “cute” all the time, even though I’m twenty-two. (Most people assume 16.)

    So I guess it just makes me feel like my ring suits me and is an extension of myself/my style. 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I think a lot of people use the word “cute” in place of other things like “pretty” or “looks nice”. Most people don’t mean anything negative. For example, when women go shopping together and try on clothes, I hear women saying, “Oh, that’s so cute!” all the time, and they mean they like it and that the person should buy it. It took me a while to realize that saying something is cute is not a compliment for a man the way it is for a woman! 

    Anyway, you also said she said your ring was “very pretty”. Maybe she didn’t mean anything negative at all and just used poor wording to express herself.

    Post # 9
    Member
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    i agree. I use cute all the time in place of words like pretty, etc., just out of habit. I understand how that can be taken out of context, but I doubt she meant it that way.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1787 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t find it insulting. I call my own ring cute sometimes. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    No one has ever called my ring cute, but if they did…I’d be annoyed. I don’t like it when people call ME cute – never mind my ring. It’s a very watered down term IMO.

    Post # 12
    Member
    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 1993

    I have decided that some people just don’t know what to say when confronted with something that is not their style or taste.  I also have decided that people who say rings are cute or nice are usually people that have no idea how much a ring really costs and have no prospects for ring shopping in the future.  Wink  That being said, it would be nice if we could all celebrate each other’s differences in taste and appreciate that that ring means something wonderful to that person and comment upon it accordingly.  I think your ring is beautiful!!

    Post # 13
    Member
    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1994

    Laughing

    Post # 14
    Member
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I haven’t had this comment yet but for me it would depend on tone and the person saying it. I do know a woman who loves all things “cute” (think puppydogs and all that), and she’s not got a backhanded bone in her, so if someone like her had said it, I’d know it was meant as a compliment.

    In general since this could be a veiled insult implying underwhelm at the diamond size, and I don’t want to be misunderstood to ever be saying something like that, I would never use this term when remarking on someone’s engagement ring.

    Post # 15
    Member
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve called rings cute before, because I honestly did find them to be cute. Particularly heart shaped rings. I just think they’re adorable.

    Post # 16
    Member
    631 posts
    Busy bee

    I would think they were American! Lol!  It is not a word we use here other than in the context of small children or fluffy animals!!

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