Post # 1
Generally, people ooh and ahh over my ring, even though it is a smaller stone (5 mm moissanite) in a very simple, dainty setting. It is very unusual, and suits me really, really well, but it is not what people are used to seeing. I LOVE it, and it’s fun when people admire it profusely (I think they think the stone is quite beautiful, too– it’s extremely sparkly).
I do find having my hand grabbed and my ring inspected and complimented a bit weird. It seems intrusive, but at the same time I like the attention. I do adore the admiration of my amazing ring though!
There has been one comment that actually still bugs me, so far. . . a friend of a friend, who has somewhat flashy style, looked at it and said it was “very pretty” and “cute.” CUTE?! At first I thought she was being nice, but then I realized that I hate the word “cute” and I actually find the term, directed at my ring, somewhat disparaging. The woman in question is perpetually single and not happy about it, and her sister is soon to be married and also has a flashy style (and presumably a more showy ring than mine). Ugh. . . I’m a nonconformist so I expect some of this stuff, but it does get to me sometimes!
Well anyway, would you be annoyed if someone called your ring “cute”?
Here is my favorite picture of my ring so far. 🙂
Post # 3
I think that they are rude and don’t have the common courtesy to say its beautiful even if they don’t think it is.
I’m sorry, but I just don’t take that as a compliment. Honesty is great, but when it comes to things like that you need to be nice whether you like the item or not.
Post # 4
I usually take it as a polite way to say its either 1. “small”, or 2. they just don’t like it.
Either way, at least they made an effort to reply with something nice, rather than something rude.
My ring is quite differant, and I hear all types of compliments on it, only a few “its cutes!”, but I just assume it’s not their style, or perhaps they expected more.
Post # 5
I backhand them with my left hand and then ask them if it also feels cute.
J/K. Your ring is pretty. Anyone who calls it cute maliciously obviously has no eye for gorgeous jewelry. Perhaps some of them mean it genuinely. Until WB, I had no idea people took offense to “cute.” I have since made a note to self to avoid using that term.
Post # 6
Nah, it doesn’t bother me. I already know that my ring is considered on the smaller side here on the Bee (.51 ct), but I’m also really tiny and I get called “cute” all the time, even though I’m twenty-two. (Most people assume 16.)
So I guess it just makes me feel like my ring suits me and is an extension of myself/my style. 🙂
Post # 7
@rachelmichelle: That’s exactly how I feel. I think our stones are the same size, or close to it, too. 🙂
@jenilynevette: Yes, I was figuring it meant “small” also. So what, I am an outdoor person and I don’t take rings off. . . my ring needs to be small so I don’t worry that I’ll ruin it!
Post # 8
I think a lot of people use the word “cute” in place of other things like “pretty” or “looks nice”. Most people don’t mean anything negative. For example, when women go shopping together and try on clothes, I hear women saying, “Oh, that’s so cute!” all the time, and they mean they like it and that the person should buy it. It took me a while to realize that saying something is cute is not a compliment for a man the way it is for a woman!
Anyway, you also said she said your ring was “very pretty”. Maybe she didn’t mean anything negative at all and just used poor wording to express herself.
Post # 9
i agree. I use cute all the time in place of words like pretty, etc., just out of habit. I understand how that can be taken out of context, but I doubt she meant it that way.
Post # 10
I don’t find it insulting. I call my own ring cute sometimes.
Post # 11
No one has ever called my ring cute, but if they did…I’d be annoyed. I don’t like it when people call ME cute – never mind my ring. It’s a very watered down term IMO.
Post # 12
I have decided that some people just don’t know what to say when confronted with something that is not their style or taste. I also have decided that people who say rings are cute or nice are usually people that have no idea how much a ring really costs and have no prospects for ring shopping in the future. That being said, it would be nice if we could all celebrate each other’s differences in taste and appreciate that that ring means something wonderful to that person and comment upon it accordingly. I think your ring is beautiful!!
Post # 14
I haven’t had this comment yet but for me it would depend on tone and the person saying it. I do know a woman who loves all things “cute” (think puppydogs and all that), and she’s not got a backhanded bone in her, so if someone like her had said it, I’d know it was meant as a compliment.
In general since this could be a veiled insult implying underwhelm at the diamond size, and I don’t want to be misunderstood to ever be saying something like that, I would never use this term when remarking on someone’s engagement ring.
Post # 15
I’ve called rings cute before, because I honestly did find them to be cute. Particularly heart shaped rings. I just think they’re adorable.
Post # 16
I would think they were American! Lol! It is not a word we use here other than in the context of small children or fluffy animals!!