Post # 1
My father passed away when I was 5 years old.
My mother remarried when I was 11yrs old.
Never been close to my stepfather; he’s not a terrible man and there is no tension between us But…
I would perfer my older brother (3yrs older) to walk me down the aisle and not my stepfather as a way
for my brother to have a part of my big day (we have the same mother, same father)
Also, I only have bridemaids (my 4 half sisters) no groomsmen (lack of men in our family)
I want to give my brother an important part, if not walking me down the aisle then my FI and I were thinking
of him being the bestman.
FI doesn’t have anyone worth to pick for his bestman so we have the thought
of asking my brother of being the bestman if walking me down the aisle is not a good idea. I know
it’s my day and I can do whatever pleases me but just want to have an idea of what others might think.
Post # 2
My father passed away also so I am having my brother walk me down the aisle. Are your brother and your fiance fairly close? I honestly think it will be a little unbalanced for you to have four bridesmaids and your fiance to have no attendants. I don’t think his attendants have to be men though. Does he have sisters or female cousins he is close with? If so, why not have those be his attendants and they can wear a different dress. Just an idea:)
Post # 3
I am in nearly the same situation (but my mother haven’t remarried), so my younger brother will do this. He is the part of the family, so any doubts.
I think, it is ok to ask your brother, because your comfort is the most inportant thing for your big day
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens
I think if you’re close with your brother then just be open and explain that to your stepdad. I think the importance of the act is having someone meaningful hand you off to your new husband. Not that it need to be a specific person. So I think if your brother is the one that this is meaningful with then it should be him who does not. Not your stepfather just because of “tradition”.
Post # 5
You could have them both walk you. You could have your mother walk you down the aisle. Any idea how your stepfather feels about this? Do you think he assumes he will walk you? Just a consideration. Is your fiance very close to your brother? Seems like he could easily be a groomsmen or best man or you and your fiance could jointly ask him to be in your wedding party and have him stand wherever you want during the ceremony.
Post # 6
If I were you I would honour your step-father by asking him to walk you down the aisle. Your brother could be the best man.
Weddings are family affairs. I see too many people saying it’s just the bride’s day. It isn’t. It is the beginning of two families joining together. Why not get off to a good start?
Good luck and let us know what you decide 🙂
Post # 7
onelovelybride: I think it would be really nice to have your brother walk you down the isle.
I also think its a nice sentiment to have him walk you and then go stand on your FI’s side as a groomsman or bestman.
Post # 8
I’ve decided to go with my stepdad to walk me.
My brother will be the bestman.