Post # 1
Just wondering what you bees give as gifts when you go to a wedding?
Our neighbours got married, and we are great friends with them, so we gave them a gift of their registry ($120) for one of their showers, and $200 for their wedding. (we gave them US cash because they were going to Bahamas on their honeymoon)
Our other friends got married and we got them a $100 item from their registry for their shower, and $200 on their wedding day.
For both of the above friends, I was invited to the showers but couldn’t attend.
Friends that we really aren’t that close with are getting married, but we aren’t actually going, and didn’t get invited to the shower…we are planning to send a $150 cheque.
What’s the norm? I’m from Ontario, Canada.. I’m from a suburb of Toronto but now live in a super small beach town.
Hoping I am giving the right amounts! All of these couples are coming to our wedding, so I’m sure they will just give us the similar amount back.
Post # 3
I don’t think there’s any set amount. I think it depends on how well you know the people and what your financial situation is. For someone that is just an aquaintance, I’d give a gift or gift card in the $50-$75 range, and for a closer friend $100-$150.
Post # 4
We give at least $100…it depends on who it is and how close we are to them
Post # 5
At least $100, depending on the couple. But we did give $50 once to my friend’s mom who we weren’t really sure why she invited us. I have a feeling it was just for a gift, so we only gave her $50.
Post # 6
I give $200 at the wedding if I’m not attending, and more if I am attending, and more if FI is also coming. I usually spend about $100 on shower gifts.
(If you’re trying to look geographically, I’m originally from Massachusetts, and live in DC now)
Post # 7
I recently came across the following website that helps you calculate a monetary gift based on set variables. It’s fun to see what they suggest, but I don’t think that there is a set standard. What you have been giving seems very generous to me.
Post # 8
Depending on how close we are to the couple and our finances at the time, we usually give $50 for not-so-close friends, $100-$300 for family or really close friends. I usually try to just buy off the registry though to avoid trying to figure out a set amount.
Post # 9
@MsMindle: That website is cool! For the people we gave $150 it said we should give $145.. so I guess we were close! For our neighbours it said we should give $320! But I guess with the $120 gift for a shower and $200 cash it’s the same thing?? haha cool website!
Post # 10
I follow the rule of at least $100 per person.
For weddings that I’ve attended on my own, I’ve always gifted $100. Now that I attend weddings with my husband, we give at least $300. (Which we know is enough to cover both our plates plus some since we just had our own wedding!)
Post # 11
I usually spend $50 on the shower present and we spend anywhere from $100-200 on friends depending on our relationship to them.
Post # 12
I would say you’re on the upper end, at least from my experience (in Ontario).
I give at least $75 per person if we’re going, the rest depends on our relationship with the person and how much it cost us to attend.
Post # 13
I also give around $100 per person.
Post # 14
FI and I generally give what we feel would cover our meals/drinks, plus a little extra, so it really depends on the venue and if it’s an open bar or not.