What do you view as a big age difference between SO's?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@lenabee:  I think anything thats over 10 is a big difference. If I had a difference of 10 years, I couldn’t help but think things like when I was 10 he was 20…LoL

 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t think the number makes a difference. I imagine it would be difficult to be in a relationship with someone who was in a different stage in their life though. I work with a guy who recently had a baby with and married a woman 40 years his junior. All 3 of his kids from his previous marriage refused to go to the wedding. Can’t say I blame them.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

When I was 20, I would have said anything 7+ looked like a big age gap. Now that I’m closer to my thirties (and am 9 years younger that my FI), 10 years is not a big deal to me. It has become 15+ years that I consider a *big* age difference. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We have a 9 year age gap but I think anything more than 12-15 years seems kind of big to me.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think the actual number depends on how old you are – it wouldn’t even register to me if a 50 year old got together with a 65 year old, but I’m often suspicious of a 30 year old getting with an 18 year old.  I think especially with older guys and younger girls, age gaps can create a power imbalance where the older guy always “knows best” and the younger woman is obligated to follow him.  It does work out sometimes, but it is a red flag to me.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

We have a 9 year age gap but it doesn’t seem like much at all to me. I’d think like 12-15 years was a big gap.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@mrs_pudding_pop holy crap we posted almost identical…weird!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My DH is 13 years older then me. I’m 30. But, no one would ever guess he is that much older. He is very young looking (and apparently very immature for his age lol) but like a PP said, it would be different if I was 18 and he was 31. As you get older the age gap doesn’t matter as much! 

Plus I think mentality matters a lot. He has no kids, has never been married…hes lived as a bachelor for the past 20 years. If he had grown children it would be very different 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

FH and I are 3 years difference. My mom and step-dad and 14 years difference. At first didn’t really notice 36 and 50. But now 46 and 60 and he is having health issues so it starts to show their age difference more. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I consider 10+ a big age gap. Once you start hitting 2 decades I begin to question what you could possibly have in common anymore. But I am sure there are bees out there with a 20 year age difference who are very much in love.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think if one of you is old enough to technically be the other’s parent, that’s a bit much for me. So I guess about 15+ years. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

To me, anything 10+ years would be a big age difference.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

10+ years

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think 15-20 years seems like a big difference. 

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