Post # 1
So hubby and I received an engagement announcement in the mail. Was a postcard with 3 pictures of the couple and one with him proposing. Hubby and I are excited but confused because there’s no DATE? NO PHONE NUMBER, email, nothing. Just a return address. So we just assume that we’ll congratulate them when we see them.
So 2 months later we see them and we congratulated them. They both asked us, how come we didnt respond. Respond to what? Huh! It’s an announcement of their engagment. There’s no save the date. They seem disturbed when we congratulated months later when we see them and asked for date. I guess they have no date yet. Is there ettiquette for announcements? Is this a new thing?
Post # 3
@SamanthaLovesJames: I believe they expected a congratulations card
Post # 4
I have an engagement announcement on my fridge, with no date or location either. It’s just that – an announcement. I expect a STD or invitation eventually. I didn’t receive many comments from our STDs when they went out, as I didn’t expect any. It’s just informative, doesn’t deem a response. I guess they are looking for attention. You shouldn’t have to call and say you received it and congratulations. They need to lower expectations of their guests.
ETA: We didn’t receive one call or card when we got engaged. I don’t think that should be expected.
Post # 5
@SamanthaLovesJames: A congratulatory card or call is all one could expect.
Post # 6
Well, just when I thought some engamentments and weddings couldn’t get more self-involved… :/
Post # 8
I guess you should have called? or sent a card? LoL
I never received an “announcement”–so I wouldn’t have known what to do either. We didn’t send an announcement. We just told our families and it spread by word of mouth. We did send out STD. that was it
Post # 9
@SamanthaLovesJames: It’s possible that the couple may have used responses to their engagement announcements as a way to help gauge the interest of friends and family when the couple began to develop their wedding-guest list. They may have opted to include family and friends who took the time to offer a congratulatory note, card, e-mail, or phone call, whereas they may have felt less bad about having to cut someone who didn’t seem all that interested in the news.
Post # 10
I’ve never gotten an engagement announcement. I wouldn’t know how to respond either, except to say congrats!
Post # 11
@SamanthaLovesJames: I wouldn’t have known what to do with that. Seems a little over the top if you ask me. I would never have thought that I was supposed to send a congratulatory card…
Post # 12
That’s really strange. I also wouldn’t know what to do in your situation.
Post # 13
never knew had to respond with a congratulations card. Next question automatically would be, when is the date? and they have no date.
Post # 14
I never received an engagement announcement, nor did I send any out for my own engagement. We had an engagement announcement dinner with our immediate family, but that was it. Everyone else found out through word of mouth. I wouldn’t want to add more work for myself by sending out announcements. Sending out the STD and invitations/RSVP is already enough work for me, IMO.
Post # 15
@SamanthaLovesJames: I’ve never received an engagement announcement, but I always send Congratulations cards to my friends when they get engaged because (a) who doesn’t like to get mail? (b) I loved the engagement cards I got from a few people; and (c) they tend to be really excited when they get the card.
Post # 16
I’ve never gotten one of those…but I’d have probably done exactly what you did–congratulate them in person. I’d find that odd–unless it was an invitation to an engagement party.
When we got engaged, we didn’t expect anything from our friends or guests–but we didn’t do anything formal to announce it either. We just called our close friends and family, and updated our relationship status on Facebook. That was enough, though. We got lots of comments and congratulations calls. It was really nice. Plus, my fiance’s friend sent us an AMAZING bottle of Dom Perignone champagne to congratulate us. It was totally awesome and unexpected…but that’s just how thoughtful and supportive my fiance’s friend is.
I know my fiance’s mom is going to do an engagement announcement in their local paper (it’s a very small town), once we take our engagement photos. However, again, we’re not sending an announcement. We figure most of our friends/family already know we’re engaged (apparently due to the family grapevine, most of them know our date too, even though we haven’t made it public yet) and that our Save the Dates will announce everything just fine.