What to do when you receive an engagement announcement?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have an engagement announcement on my fridge, with no date or location either.  It’s just that – an announcement.  I expect a STD or invitation eventually.  I didn’t receive many comments from our STDs when they went out, as I didn’t expect any.  It’s just informative, doesn’t deem a response.  I guess they are looking for attention.  You shouldn’t have to call and say you received it and congratulations.  They need to lower expectations of their guests.

 

ETA: We didn’t receive one call or card when we got engaged.  I don’t think that should be expected.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Well, just when I thought some engamentments and weddings couldn’t get more self-involved… :/

Post # 8
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess you should have called? or sent a card? LoL

I never received an “announcement”–so I wouldn’t have known what to do either.  We didn’t  send an announcement. We just told our families and it spread by word of mouth. We did send out STD. that was it

Post # 9
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10986 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Nona99:  +1.

@SamanthaLovesJames:  It’s possible that the couple may have used responses to their engagement announcements as a way to help gauge the interest of friends and family when the couple began to develop their wedding-guest list. They may have opted to include family and friends who took the time to offer a congratulatory note, card, e-mail, or phone call, whereas they may have felt less bad about having to cut someone who didn’t seem all that interested in the news.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve never gotten an engagement announcement.  I wouldn’t know how to respond either, except to say congrats!

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SamanthaLovesJames:  I wouldn’t have known what to do with that. Seems a little over the top if you ask me. I would never have thought that I was supposed to send a congratulatory card…

Post # 12
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1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

That’s really strange. I also wouldn’t know what to do in your situation. 

Post # 14
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I never received an engagement announcement, nor did I send any out for my own engagement. We had an engagement announcement dinner with our immediate family, but that was it. Everyone else found out through word of mouth. I wouldn’t want to add more work for myself by sending out announcements. Sending out the STD and invitations/RSVP is already enough work for me, IMO.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SamanthaLovesJames:  I’ve never received an engagement announcement, but I always send Congratulations cards to my friends when they get engaged because (a) who doesn’t like to get mail? (b) I loved the engagement cards I got from a few people; and (c) they tend to be really excited when they get the card.

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve never gotten one of those…but I’d have probably done exactly what you did–congratulate them in person. I’d find that odd–unless it was an invitation to an engagement party. 

When we got engaged, we didn’t expect anything from our friends or guests–but we didn’t do anything formal to announce it either. We just called our close friends and family, and updated our relationship status on Facebook. That was enough, though. We got lots of comments and congratulations calls. It was really nice. Plus, my fiance’s friend sent us an AMAZING bottle of Dom Perignone champagne to congratulate us. It was totally awesome and unexpected…but that’s just how thoughtful and supportive my fiance’s friend is. 

I know my fiance’s mom is going to do an engagement announcement in their local paper (it’s a very small town), once we take our engagement photos. However, again, we’re not sending an announcement. We figure most of our friends/family already know we’re engaged (apparently due to the family grapevine, most of them know our date too, even though we haven’t made it public yet) and that our Save the Dates will announce everything just fine. 

 

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