What do you wish you had done prior to having babies?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Currently pregnant with my first and have zero regrets. 

I spent my early 20s single and living in my own apartment in NYC and doing the whole independant thing.  Met my now husband when I was 25 or 26 and was able to travel the world.  We both have no debt, great careers, and are just really ready for the next phase of our life – Family life!

Sure there would be always be a cool place to visit, but Nepal can wait 🙂

Post # 5
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Taken a nap. Lol…I wish I was kidding. 😉

Post # 6
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


MissGeeBee: I just wanted to say I love your name! I saw someone cal their grandma geebee on tv once and I loved it. I named my hermit crab that.lol

Post # 8
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a lot of fun before baby (travel, countless nights out, etc) and hope to do more (I’m a new mom at 36), but I do wish I had taken more risks, like moved or took more career risks. Because now that I have a very stable job, I fear changing things up with all the responsibility that comes with a child.

Post # 9
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m expecting our first in November so I know I’m not technically allowed to comment but I don’t regret anything. I’ve been ready for a child for about 4 years and I’m 32. I have my qualification, my career on the up, traveled to America, Europe, and Asia, been in a few relationships, made lots of friends, bought house, rented by myself, lived different states, partied, and finally, got married. 

Post # 10
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No regrets here!

Post # 11
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nothing I “regret” so to speak, but it would have been smart to travel more before we had kids because its so hard (and expensive!) Now with children.  Oh, and slept more – that never happens now. Lol.

Post # 12
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I just had my first 2 and a half weeks ago and I have had people ask me this while I was pregnant because I am only 24. The truth is nothing. My family traveled a lot when I was younger, so I have been to 13 different countries. I went through my partying phase the first 2 years in College. I have a great job as a teacher, have a nice house, and I married my dream guy. The only thing I possibly could have done before having her is finish my masters. I have 4 classes left to go. I am taking one this summer and will continue to take the rest over the next two years. My goal is to have my masters before baby #2. It would have been easier to not have to take classes while having a little one, but the classes are all online and I take them while I am not working, so it really isn’t a big deal.

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Post # 13
4762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is an interesting question. I don’t have kids yet, but if I look at my parents, they did most of their traveling and built a house after they had their 3 kids. When you’re young, you’re usually a) in school or building your career and b) broke! My husband and I have traveled, but I certainly don’t expect that to stop when we have kids. Sure we wouldn’t go across the world with an infant and it will be more expensive, but it’s not like your life is over. I guess we are a bit older (I’m 28, he’s 38) and pretty low-key, so we won’t have wild nights out to miss when we have a baby. I think that’s a big one for a lot of people, but I haven’t done that since college anyway!!

I think getting school done before having a baby would be a big thing. I finished my PhD, but my husband wants to go to graduate school and I do wish he had done it earlier. I guess I won’t know until we have a baby, but I feel like sleep will be the biggest thing I miss! And maybe just being able to go out on a run or to the store without much thought, but there’s not much you can do to prepare for that 🙂

Post # 14
3 posts
  • Wedding: May 2015

My FI and I haven’t been together for very long, so I do sometimes feel sad and regret that we’ll never be just “us” again. I mean, I say that, but it’s just silly things like how we LOVED going to wine tastings with our friends, etc… I don’t know. We had several trips planned out in our future, really bad ass ones like backpacking through Europe, and we wanted those to happen BEFORE having kids. Honestly, it was going to be at least 3-4 years before we started TTC. But clearly the universe had other ideas – I’m 5wks today! Hah, I’m working on getting used to the idea. I know we’ll still have our adventures, they’ll just be different than what we had imagined.

Post # 15
6685 posts
Bee Keeper

 I had plenty of dating experience, finished my education, lived in many places, started a career and travelled.  We had saved enough money to buy our first home and have savings and enjoyed two and a half years being just the two of us.  We were more than ready for kids. 

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