Post # 1
A few things I wish my mom had taught me:
How to properly apply makeup &
How to walk comfortably in heels
It’s not that my mom didn’t wear makeup or heels it’s just that my mom has always been a minimalist. Some red lipstick and her eyebrow pen and she’s good to go. She’d wear heels from time to time but mostly on special occasions.
Don’t get me wrong my mom is a wonderful mom and I love her dearly. She made sure both my sister and I have grown to be strong, independent, and educated women.
I just feel so behind the curve as I’m trying to make sure everything looks right and ladylike for my wedding and its been so frustrating when I’m stuck with the sales person that is trying to convince me that “beauty is uncomfortable”.
So I’m curious is there anything you wish your mom would have taught or told you?
Post # 3
I wish my mom would have taught me to cook… that is one of the things i struggle wiith being a newlywed.
And not necesarily my mom, but i wish someone would have taught me how to study… i still dont know a great way to retain information other than repetitive reading..
Post # 4
I wish my mom would have taught me the importance of eating healthy. I was raised pretty laissez-faire in that regard…after age like 6 if I didn’t want the healthy dinner options, I was totally able to go house a bag of doritoes or skip meals instead lol. Now I have all kinds of weird food addictions and deficiencies that have been really hard to shake and I think it all could have been avoided if healthier eating habits had been established when I was young.
Post # 5
Although I’m not sure that is a virtue that can be taught, lol.
Post # 6
I wish my mom would have taught me her organizational skills. Either her or my dad.
We had bi yearly cleaning sprees at my house when I was a kid, so I learned how to get rid of things but not how to keep things organized. It’s been really annoying at times for FH, because he’s super organized and I’m lucky if I can keep the sock drawer organized.
Post # 7
I wish either parent had taught me more about managing money
Post # 8
I wish she taught me about eating healthy and exercising. It was NEVER addressed in my house. We also come from a culture where carbs are a staple – my body can’t process carbs like normal people – and I didn’t figure this out till an endocrinologist told me in my early 20s. Would have been helpful to get into a good routine earlier.
I also wish she taught me about saving money. It’s not her fault – we always lived paycheck to paycheck growing up- so now that I have a grown up job, I had no idea what an IRA vs 401k etc was all about and what was a good choice for me.
Other than that, ma did a great job. She was a single mom, only 20 years older than me – and she worked with what she had.
@gemchick82: My mom only wore heels in high school – I have NEVER seen her in a pair of heels. She also didn’t really wear makeup until I got into it, bought it for her, and showed her how to apply it! It would have been nice having someone to teach me when I was younger.
Post # 9
cooking and eating healthy. i grew up pretty much solely on boxed mac and cheese, tv dinners and pizza.
Post # 10
Managing money (my parents are pretty well-off and thus, never really had to worry about it) and cleaning. I am a pretty good cleaner, but my mom puts even the best to shame.
Post # 11
@gemchick82: I read the title and instantly thought how to apply makeup. She never talked to me about that, and she wears a pretty large amount every day.
On another note, I sometimes wish my father would have taught me how to drive and not my mom. She is very impatient and aggressive and it rubbed off on me where as my dad is very calm and mellow while driving.
Post # 12
How to cook! Though, she can’t really cook either so not sure how that ever would have happened.
Post # 13
How to be a girl. I’m 28 and I still have no idea how to put together an outfit, how to layer clothing, how to walk in heels, how to properly blowdry/straighten/style my hair, or how to apply makeup.
I’m not a tomboy, I’m a huge nerdy girl. I just look like a tomboy in jeans and t-shirts because I don’t know how to do it any other way.
On the other hand, reading this thread I think I did well. My mother isn’t a girly girl either, but she is an amazing woman who taught me how to be a pretty damned awesome person.
Post # 14
I wish I had been taught how to ride a bike (I know, it’s embarrassing) and how to walk in heels, I still walk like bambi
Post # 15
I feel like my Mom was really bad at the stuff she didn’t try to teach me!
Like she didn’t wear heels or make up, and she’s a pretty basic cook (I grew up on pasta and still consider cereal an acceptable dinner food).
But she taught us about money, how to keep a home, and how to take care of babies! And that’s my Mom’s thing. (Though having a SAHM that can barely cook was funny/bizarre)
Post # 16
My mom never left the house without makeup, ever. She would wake up at 5am just to have enough time to do her makeup & hair before she took us to school. She was amazing & teaching me confidence & self-esteem but I def. picked up on the whole never leaving the house without makeup thing too. I wish she had told me that not wearing makeup is ok and in most cases will actually clear up your skin alot quicker. Also, that self-esteem should be more than skin-deep….
My mom bakes really well, but cooking is not her forte. She used to make frozen foods all the time, so I really wish she had taught us more about healthy eating. It was hard as an adult to try to figure out how to cook fresh foods because she mostly made frozen/boxed/canned foods. Also, the importance of exercise on your entire body- she would exercise when she felt she didn’t look good enough- not because she should and it makes her healthier.
I also REALLY wish she had taught me the importance of listening & tuning into my own body. We talked about periods but she never really told me that if I paid enough attention I would start to know my pre-period symptoms, how my body reacts to certain things, and be able to better understand what was going on with my body as well as predict when my period would arrive & why I was being so catty…