(Closed) What Do You Write About Alcohol on the Invitations?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you could do it a lot of ways. Word of mouth. On your wedsite (if you have one).

 

BUTTTTT saying it on the invite is the most sure-fire way to make sure that everyone knows. You can’t assume your guests will bring money.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wouldn’t write it on the invitations, either.  I always bring cash to weddings, just in case.  I would simply rely on word-of-mouth.  Or, on your website, you could say “Beer and wine will be available.”

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

yeah i don’t know about directly on the invite but agree with pp put it on your website or if you’re putting an insert in you could put it there.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

You can assume people will have money. I totally agree with your comment…

“And who doesn’t bring money with them?  Do people honestly not bring money to weddings?  I have always brought money with me.  And if I happened to forget it I wouldn’t mind leaving for 10 minutes to find an ATM.”

I ask the same question every time I see some one mention that you should tell your guests there will be a cash bar. That does not belong on the invite, just like you would not put the menu on the invite.  I say deal with the wrath of grandma later and hope that she does not even notice. If someone really does not have money for alcohol then that is their problem and they don’t need a cocktail.

I feel like it needs to be said that weddings do not require alcohol and if someone is only coming for the free booze, do you really care if they are suprised when they show up to find a cash bar?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would mention it on a website. I never bring money with me to a wedding – just myself and a gift. I’ve been to plenty of weddings and have never needed money for one and wouldn’t assume that I would need to.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wouldn’t put it on the invite but maybe include a small card with your wedding website to contain these details. Be sure to have the family spread the word as well so others will know about it. This will help. I personally do not bring money with me to a wedding but this is not the case for everyone.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

The website for sure! Word of mouth, etc. I don’t always bring cash with me everywhere. Sometimes I forget to swing by the bank and we get in a rush. I’ve been to a few locations where there is no atm nearby and it’s cash only and I went “oh poo i want a glass of wine with dinner”. 

Then again, I do appreciate the practicality of somebody being up front with me. I think putting it on the RSVP card would be ok, not the actual invite. You could say “beer provided during cocktail hour” b/c then it’s obvious it’s SOME, not all.

I’d rather see it and KNOW that not know and be all “hmmmm….who do we call to find out?” unless i’m friends with the bride/groom, then I’ll just know. But a family member? Hard to say, like an extended cousin or something?. None of our friends have had a cash bar (at least wine during dinner/cocktail hour) so I WOULD be surprised to be all “oh crap i have no cash!” but that’s common for our area. Even limited bars even at most venues are made affordable around HERE. Emphasis on where I live. Shoot, Anheiser-Busch is made in St Louis. Enuf said.

I don’t think people go for the free booze (really, like a college frat party?), but it’s nice to know if you need a $5 or a $20 on hand or just a credit card.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you need to mention it somewhere (the website is probably a good idea)  I personally never bring cash to weddings (open bar is the norm where I’m from) and it may be difficult for people to get to an ATM once they find out it’s cash bar.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I rarely have cash on me in general these days! And I would never think of withdrawing cash to go to a wedding!

I don’t think it should go on your invitation but do agree with putting that info on your website or use word of mouth!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i agree writting cash bar would be tacky. Le

Post # 13
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Newbee

You definately want to let people know that it is a cash bar. Have the word spread around and definately don’t rely on you website because (believe it or not) some people never check a website. Think about the older generation, many of them may not use a computer, (my father hates the computer and wouldn’t look at someones wedding website and he is in his late 50’s). I don’t bring cash with me to a wedding either, I  mean think about it, does the bride remember to bring cash with her? Why should the guest have to do the same, unless they know they have to.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with everyone who has said to put in on the website. I wouldn’t put it on the invitation. I do NOT always have cash on me though so it would be best if you could let people know! 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I would probably get the information out by word-of-mouth.  We did only beer and wine for our reception, so I spread the word ahead of time, so that people were prepared.  I would definitely want to let people know ahead of time.  Personally, I very rarely have cash on me at any given time.  I will often bring a few smaller bills with me to a wedding (i.e. for tipping the bar or parking attendant), but because cash bars are rare within my family/friends, I wouldn’t think to bring enough cash to pay for drinks with me without hearing it beforehand.  Of course, if your friends/family are more used to cash bars, they might bring something anyway.  Either way, I think it’s good to let people know what your plans are.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t write it on the invites either but I think its not fair for you to assume people will have money and judge them if they dont. In our area, its always open bar so I never have cash. But I never have cash in general, gotta have money in the bank to have cash lol good thing FI always does!

 

I say wedding website or let your biggest loud mouth cousin who cant keep anything to herself know, she’ll spread the word!

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