(Closed) What does a maid pay for herself?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

No they usually pay for hair, makeup and accessories too. Being a maid is expensive business 😛

You can make it part of their gift

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I have heard a million conflicting sources on this. Hair, makeup, accessories, hotel, and travel are all things that the wedding-o-sphere seems conflicted on as to who foots the bill. I’d like to see whether anyone knows of any definitive-esque source.

It seems to me that hair and makeup would have to be paid for by whoever is paying for the wedding, since otherwise wouldn’t most bridesmaids just choose to do their own? And the point is to kind of have a uniform style, not to mention the fun relaxing bonding experience of getting it done together?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

dress and shoes is on them, but if you want hair and make up uniform you pay to get it done.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

No one told me that when I was a bridesmaid in many a wedding.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it just depends. I’ve been in one wedding where I was on my own for hair and makeup and another where I got a big gift card to the salon to get my hair and makeup done with the rest of the bridesmaids. For my wedding, I paid for my girls’ hair and makeup, but let them do whatever style they wanted. I didn’t want it uniform, but I did want them to look spiffied up =]

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I did one wedding where we did our own make up and the bride and the bridesmaids split the cost of the hair stylist to come and do all of our hair.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

For our wedding we paid for the dress and shoes, and they paid for everything else. In other weddings I’ve been in, usually I have had to buy my own dress and shoes, and everything else was paid for.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think they pretty much pay for all of it: shoes, dress, makeup, hair, bachelorette party, etc.  But, I felt like I wanted to treat my maids and because I only have 2: One MOH and one BM, I am paying for their dresses and hair. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

There is no definite answer to this.  It various in different circles and based on the bride’s financial capabilities.  I think a bridesmaid should just assume that she will be paying for everything, and any contribution that the bride makes should just be a pleasant surprise.  The only exception to this I think is that if the bride requires the maids to get their hair and makeup done she should pay.  But if they are given the option to do their own then it’s up to them to pay if they chose to have it professionally done.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agreed that there is no totally agreed upon answer to this. The best bet is to talk to your maids and see what they can do, and toss around some ideas. 

FSIL paid for hair/makeup and it took a lot of the pressure off… if it’s in your budget that’s a great way to pamper your girls!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It depends. I’ve only been a BM once, but I paid for my dress, shoes, airfare, hotel, rental car, food and other entertainment expenses, and mani/pedi (but that’s what I do anyway, so I don’t really count that as an added expense).

The bride paid for our hair to be done because she wanted it done a particular way, and the jewelry that we wore. I do believe she paid the mani/pedi for the other girls, but I didn’t go with them since I was using the trip to also see my LDR boyfriend.

For my first wedding, I paid for the girls jewelry and dresses. They paid for alterations and their own hair. I did the make-up (since I once was an aspirira MUA and had had a full-kit). They paid for their own mani/pedi.

This time around, I plan on paying for the MUA for all of us, and then possibly some of what they will be wearing depending on cost and/budget. I also plan on paying for transportation to/from the wedding and afterparty.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Among my friends, it’s the norm for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dress, shoes, hair, mani/pedi, etc. I’ve been in four weddings, and few times the bride has given us maids gifts of jewelry, a clutch, a wrap, etc., at the rehearsal dinner. This is definitely a nice gesture! But none of these brides have mandated how the maids should have their hair done (or even mandated that they have it done rather than just styling it themselves), so because I was choosing to have my hair done, I certainly didn’t mind paying!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am paying for their hair and mani/pedis and they are DIYing their makeup. I’m not sure if their jewelry will be another gift or if I’ll let them pick out their own, like their shoes.

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