Post # 1
Hey Bees! It’s been a while since I last posted, and I really felt like the “engagement crazy” was starting to wear off. I guess I’m in the Boredom stage of waiting. BUT after months of ups and downs, but no proposal – SO turned to me last night and goes “Do you want to go get married tomorrow?” I played it off as well as I could. I said “Don’t say stuff like that to me. Besides, I don’t have anything to wear…”
What the heck is that supposed to mean?! Isn’t it kind of cruel to tease me about something he knows I thinking/dreaming about on a daily basis?
We went ring shopping in April and SO said he knows exactly what he wants to get me – a combo of the things we both love – but I’m almost certain he hasn’t purchased a ring yet. We haven’t been talking as much about “the wedding” lately because it made me too anxious and impatient to talk about when the proposal that I so badly wanted wasn’t coming for a while. So I haven’t gotten a real update on what he’s thinking for a couple months.
We are planning a trip to Boston in August and SO has talked about driving the Providence/Newport to stay on the coast for a night. I’ve toyed with the idea that the proposal might happen there, but I don’t want to get my hopes up just to be let down. Do you think his comment last night was to gauge my reaction or was it just a light hearted comment that he really thought was funny? Ugh, I feel like I’m having an “engagement crazy” relapse. What do you think, Bees?
Post # 3
Who ever knows what men are thinking when they say those things! Hopefully your proposal will come soon! But try to have fun on the trip either way. I’ve been having a hard time with the last few vacations because family and friends plant ideas that he will propose in my head, then I’m disappointed when he doesn’t.
Post # 4
@SaraB2602: I have no clue. I wish I did. Men say the most inconsiderate things sometimes. I don’t think he meant it in a mean way, I’m sure he really was just curious.
Post # 5
Maybe he is testing the waters to make sure you want to marry him becasue you love him and not to get a ring. All the engagement and ring talk can make men feel like it’s all about getting a diamond (such fragile creatures they are!)
My fi used to say things like that all the time to me before we got engaged – at one point we had contacted a JP to secretly elope! But after I said sure I’ll marry you whenever you want, just go get the marriage license – we both decided we’d like to wait and go the traditional route.
Post # 6
My fiance says that to me all the time (and did while we were “waiting”). He’s usually just caught up in the moment.
Dont think too much in to it. He obviously knows you want it.
Post # 7
My SO pointed at a Shane company banner at a baseball game recently that said “Ask her already” and made a joke. What are men thinking?
Anyway, it was time then for a chat….where I said I knew it would come at some point and I was not trying to push, but making jokes was just too cruel and could he please not. I don’t think men realize what being a waiting girl can feel like, so then I told him what it felt like and how easily I get disappointed or upset by jokes or comments.
I think after that he got it, and agreed not to tease me. He also gave me a timeline that helped calm me down.