Post # 1
Meaning, when you quote your wedding budget to someone who asks, do you leave things out? I’ve heard people say things like “$X, not including rings or honeymoon.” When I added up the number for my first guess at a wedding budget, the number looked pretty unreasonable, but I’m hoping that when others quote their budgets, they might be not counting things like premarital counseling, prenups, rehearsal dinner, any extra trips to plan the wedding if it’s a long-distance planning situation (we’re getting married in our hometown), rings, honeymoon, etc. Am I fooling myself? Or do people’s quoted wedding budgets really include everything?
Post # 2
sunflower22: this is an old post but I am bumping because I also wonder.
Im looking into wedding planners, and most get a percent of your budget. In someways that makes sense, but why the hell would my planner get a percent of my dress and rings budget too? Something they did zero work for.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
When I say my budget was $X, I didn’t include honeymoon or engagement ring (but DID include wedding rings, because they were part of the ceremony). I guess it was everything that involved the wedding day itself and the day before’s preparations (rehearsal and its dinner).
MrsBuesleBee: Are you saying your planner charges based on how much you tell her your wedding budget is??
Post # 3
I included everything except a honeymoon in my budget because everything was wedding-related. Including the rehearsal dinner, tips, etc.
MrsBuesleBee: You might just send an email to planners to double check, it’s possible they’re just referring to the budget for venue, DJ, flowers, food, alcohol etc. Anything they are doing. I would think it’s silly/unreasonable for them to take a % of your rings, if they do that I wouldn’t put it in my budget. Some planners might help with dresses though, you’ll probably have to ask them.
Post # 7
sunflower22: ours includes abolutely everything wedding-related! We are coming in around 13/14k which I’m pretty happy with
Post # 5
sunflower22: When I think of my “budget,” I’m really just considering the day of my wedding. Very recently I posted a number that included our wedding bands, honeymoon and wedding dress on top of the reception costs which is a very bigger number than the budget I have in my head.
I always think it’s good to clarify what’s included when you post your budget or ask for others’ budgets. If not, it can be very misleading as you know.
MrsBuesleBee: I have researched planners and DOCs around here and no one charges a price tag based on your budget. Most have a flat rate and go up from there. A few offered hourly packages in fact. Maybe you can find a flat-fee person in your neck of the woods. It’s a pain.
Post # 6
What I include in my budget:
- Venue (food/alcohol/catering)
- Church fees/donations
- Entertainment (DJ & photobooth)
- Dress & alterations
- paper suite
I am not including our wedding rings because I feel that is something we are getting each other.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2016 - The Fox Hollow
When I tell people my budget, it includes everything except the engagement ring, since that isn’t part of the wedding at all and it’s something FH paid for, and the wedding is a mutual expense for us. My budget of $30K includes honeymoon, rings, venue, photographer, videographer, flowers, church and all the millions of little details I had no idea about before I found these boards lol. It also does not include my dress, as that will be a gift from my parents.
Post # 9
I normally don’t include the honeymoon cost, but if I do, I’ll add “with the honeymoon”.
Post # 10
I am including the bed and breakfast we’re going to immediately after but not our official honeymoon a few months later. We are planning on an all-inclusive and would be going regardless of it being a honeymoon.
Including hair updo day of but not the cut/colour I’m getting the week before as I’d be doing that anyways.
Not including the engagement ring.
Not including rehearsal dinner or day after brunch
Pretty sure I included everything else.
Post # 11
I think everyone has a different things included and excluded from their budget, but in general, when I hear someone talk about their budget, I assume they’re including everything unless they say differently.
Mine specifically includes everything for our wedding day only, so it excludes rehearsal dinner and honeymoon. FI’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, so it doesn’t count towards the budget. We’re also not planning to go on a honeymoon until some time after the wedding because of work schedules, and it also gives us a chance to save up a bit for it.
Post # 12
I don’t count the honeymoon, because I think that is a separate event from a wedding, especially since mine was 2 months later. I don’t count my engagement ring, because that happened before we started planning the wedding. I, personally, don’t count my wedding dress because my grandmother gave me the dress as a gift and I would have bought a cheaper dress, had I been paying for it myself.
I count everything else associated with the wedding. Everything. My spreadsheet had glue and printer ink and postage and and my teeth whitening and my husband’s ring and the welcome dinner (instead of rehearsal dinner) and the hotel room and wedding party/family gifts and every other cost I could think of associated with the wedding. I kind of went over the top with budgeting. But it was nice to know exactly where our budget went.
Post # 13
aggie2010: kes18: LilRhodyGem:
I think I accidently engaged the primo $$$$ fancy planner of all time because the reply was 18% of the budget and I was like uhhhh…. no.
Post # 14
sunflower22: I am including everything pre-wedding, which means rings and even the ”rehearsal dinner” the evening before (not a rehearsal, just a fancy dinner with our parents), and hotel the night before and the night of the wedding.
I’m not including : gas to get there (the venue is 2hours from home), and honeymoon. That’s it. Everything else is part of my budget, even the teeth whitening kit ! Unless, as some PPs mentioned, it’s already part of my daily life routine (such as cutting my hair or dying it at home, which I’m doing every 6 weeks). Obviously, I’m not calculating the makeup I already own and will be purchasing unless it’s a very specific product I want for this day – then I add it to my wedding budget.
Post # 15
I had been pondering this too. I think I used to avoid quoting the budget with everything in it because it freaked me out when I saw how much we were really spending. Anyway, now I’m facing the facts and my budget includes everything but the engagement ring and the honeymoon.