What does official "budget" include?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 2
7911 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

sunflower22:  this is an old post but I am bumping because I also wonder.

Im looking into wedding planners, and most get a percent of your budget. In someways that makes sense, but why the hell would my planner get a percent of my dress and rings budget too? Something they did zero work for.



Post # 3
1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

When I say my budget was $X, I didn’t include honeymoon or engagement ring (but DID include wedding rings, because they were part of the ceremony). I guess it was everything that involved the wedding day itself and the day before’s preparations (rehearsal and its dinner).

MrsBuesleBee:  Are you saying your planner charges based on how much you tell her your wedding budget is??

Post # 3
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I included everything except a honeymoon in my budget because everything was wedding-related.  Including the rehearsal dinner, tips, etc.

MrsBuesleBee:  You might just send an email to planners to double check, it’s possible they’re just referring to the budget for venue, DJ, flowers, food, alcohol etc.  Anything they are doing.  I would think it’s silly/unreasonable for them to take a % of your rings, if they do that I wouldn’t put it in my budget.  Some planners might help with dresses though, you’ll probably have to ask them.

Post # 7
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

sunflower22:  ours includes abolutely everything wedding-related! We are coming in around 13/14k which I’m pretty happy with

Post # 5
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

sunflower22:  When I think of my “budget,” I’m really just considering the day of my wedding. Very recently I posted a number that included our wedding bands, honeymoon and wedding dress on top of the reception costs which is a very bigger number than the budget I have in my head.

I always think it’s good to clarify what’s included when you post your budget or ask for others’ budgets. If not, it can be very misleading as you know.

MrsBuesleBee:  I have researched planners and DOCs around here and no one charges a price tag based on your budget. Most have a flat rate and go up from there. A few offered hourly packages in fact. Maybe you can find a flat-fee person in your neck of the woods. It’s a pain.

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What I include in my budget:

  • Venue (food/alcohol/catering)
  • Church fees/donations
  • Entertainment (DJ & photobooth)
  • Photography
  • Flowers
  • Coordinator
  • Cake
  • Dress & alterations
  • paper suite
  • transportation 

I am not including our wedding rings because I feel that is something we are getting each other.


Post # 8
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - The Fox Hollow

When I tell people my budget, it includes everything except the engagement ring, since that isn’t part of the wedding at all and it’s something FH paid for, and the wedding is a mutual expense for us.  My budget of $30K includes honeymoon, rings, venue, photographer, videographer, flowers, church and all the millions of little details I had no idea about before I found these boards lol.  It also does not include my dress, as that will be a gift from my parents.

Post # 9
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I normally don’t include the honeymoon cost, but if I do, I’ll add “with the honeymoon”.

Post # 10
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am including the bed and breakfast we’re going to immediately after but not our official honeymoon a few months later.  We are planning on an all-inclusive and would be going regardless of it being a honeymoon.

Including hair updo day of but not the cut/colour I’m getting the week before as I’d be doing that anyways.

Not including the engagement ring.

Not including rehearsal dinner or day after brunch

Pretty sure I included everything else. 

Post # 11
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think everyone has a different things included and excluded from their budget, but in general, when I hear someone talk about their budget, I assume they’re including everything unless they say differently.

Mine specifically includes everything for our wedding day only, so it excludes rehearsal dinner and honeymoon.  FI’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, so it doesn’t count towards the budget.  We’re also not planning to go on a honeymoon until some time after the wedding because of work schedules, and it also gives us a chance to save up a bit for it.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  vip0802.
Post # 12
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t count the honeymoon, because I think that is a separate event from a wedding, especially since mine was 2 months later. I don’t count my engagement ring, because that happened before we started planning the wedding. I, personally, don’t count my wedding dress because my grandmother gave me the dress as a gift and I would have bought a cheaper dress, had I been paying for it myself.

I count everything else associated with the wedding. Everything. My spreadsheet had glue and printer ink and postage and and my teeth whitening and my husband’s ring and the welcome dinner (instead of rehearsal dinner) and the hotel room and wedding party/family gifts and every other cost I could think of associated with the wedding. I kind of went over the top with budgeting. But it was nice to know exactly where our budget went. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  JenGirl.
Post # 13
7911 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

aggie2010:  kes18:  LilRhodyGem:  

I think I accidently engaged the primo $$$$ fancy planner of all time because the reply was 18% of the budget and I was like  uhhhh…. no.

Post # 14
2878 posts
Sugar bee

sunflower22:  I am including everything pre-wedding, which means rings and even the ”rehearsal dinner” the evening before (not a rehearsal, just a fancy dinner with our parents), and hotel the night before and the night of the wedding. 

I’m not including : gas to get there (the venue is 2hours from home), and honeymoon. That’s it. Everything else is part of my budget, even the teeth whitening kit ! Unless, as some PPs mentioned, it’s already part of my daily life routine (such as cutting my hair or dying it at home, which I’m doing every 6 weeks). Obviously, I’m not calculating the makeup I already own and will be purchasing unless it’s a very specific product I want for this day – then I add it to my wedding budget. 

Post # 15
641 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I had been pondering this too. I think I used to avoid quoting the budget with everything in it because it freaked me out when I saw how much we were really spending. Anyway, now I’m facing the facts and my budget includes everything but the engagement ring and the honeymoon.

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