Post # 1
Recently, my FI told me that his father planned to wear a suit out his closet since "he wasn’t doing anything in the wedding".
Since he is the father of the groom, i thought that made him special and that he should dress to match the wedding party anyway. Also, all the other guys, my dad and ushers included will all be wearing tuxedos, I am now thinking he will look underdressed in photos if he were to wear a basic suit out of his closet.
What is the rule here? Are FOGs supposed to dress like the other men in the wedding party? What will your FOGs be doing?
Post # 3
If all your groomsmen and groom are wearing tuxedo’s then I would definitely let the FOG know and see if he would like to wear one too! Even though he won’t have any specific roles, like you said, he will be in the photo’s. You want him to stand out too!
We are only having my FI and his GM’s wear light tan suits. We told his dad this to let him know the attire. We aren’t requiring it but it would be nice for him to match and stand out.
I’d say, tux for your FOG!
Post # 4
I also agree with the tux, but I don’t know that you could force him to do this. You might have to be real careful asking him to. Maybe if money is tight you could rent it for him, but then again money is probably tight for you too.
Post # 5
I think it’s up to the FOG. Just like the MOG/MOB are not required to match the wedding party, but generally dress in a style and in colors that "go with" the formality of the event and the colors of the BMs dresses, the FOG/FOB both just need to look nice and feel comfortable. My dad is just wearing a nice, dark suit, and we are getting him a tie in shades of lavender, to go with my mom’s dress. If the FOG/FOB would feel more comfortable in a tux since that’s what the GMs are wearing, then by all means they should have tuxes. Also, if they don’t have a nice suit available, renting a tux is cheaper than buying a suit (my dad wore a tux for my sister’s wedding mostly because he didn’t own a suit at the time).
Post # 6
ok. so there isn’t a formality rule?
I am not picky about his shirt/tie combo, but I wondered about the formality and tone of what he is wearing….thought that needed to match……
@Candi- money is tight (am i that obvious? lol) so we won’t be able to pay for his tux…..although, I’d be willing to make an exception since he is the FOG afterall. but he’s a prideful man, so I am not sure how that would go over…..
Post # 7
I guess it depends on how matchy-matchy you want things to be. I definitely don’t think the FOG needs to be in a tux, but if you care about him "not matching" the rest of the bridal party/FOB, I would offer to pay for it. I think this is one of those "choose your battles" situations.
Just so you know, our wedding is formal, and we’re just asking those in the wedding party to wear black suits. My dad chose to buy a beautiful new suit for the occasion and I didn’t want to hurt him by telling him that he couldn’t wear it, so I just let his fashion choices set the pace for the guys’ clothing (though he also wears high socks with shorts and golfing hats all the time so I’m not sure how smart that was!). =)
Post # 8
Well, unless you’re asking all your guests to wear black tie as well, and unless all your female guests wearing floor length dresses, your whole wedding really isn’t a formal event. What are your BMS wearing? Because if their dresses are tea length or short, then putting the GMs in tuxes already gives you a level of formality that doesn’t match up for the wedding party itself.
The main reason you put the GMs in tuxes when you’re not really throwing a formal party is for ease of matching – you may not have thought of it that way, but it’s true. You can actually rent suits from a lot of formalwear places now, and so it’s not necessary to have everybody wear a tux just to match – but most people still put the GMs in tuxes even when nobody else is in formalwear, just because it’s what they are used to seeing. And it is more and more acceptable nowadays to just wear a very nice dark suit in lieu of a tux – pay attention next time you watch the Academy Awards, and you will see lots of guys in very nice suits rather than the standard "monkey suit." I would think that as long as his suit is a nice black or dark grey, it will look sufficiently "formal" for the family portraits you will be having taken. Photos of the FOG should be mostly with the groom and with the MOG – family photos rather than wedding party photos – but if you want a photo of everybody together, stand FOG next to MOG rather than in the line of monkey suits, and you should be fine.