What Does the Good Groom Do?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
473 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think using a fishy would be a bad idea. As long as you make sure it goes home with someone who will take care of it! Do schools even take fish? 

Post # 5
2323 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@droidednole:  Keep in mind if a betta fish sees another betta fish, even in a different container, they FREAK OUT.  My friend held hers up to a mirror once and they essentially explode, they get much bigger, about twice their size.  Apparently it isn’t bad for the fish to be flared out but it looks completed different from a relaxed betta.  Also a container that looked just about the right size for a relaxed betta will look a little snug on an angry one.  I imagine they’d see each other at least in transport and I don’t know how long that response lasts.  Hope that helps!

Post # 7
2323 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@droidednole:  Haha I’m sorry, I’m no betta expert, I just remembered my friend with the mirror and thought that could be a problem.  You could always test it in advance I suppose, hold a mirror to a betta from a distance and then get progressively closer and see when it flares?  Good luck!!

Post # 9
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@droidednole:  Be prepared for the reaction that many people share at the thought of using a living thing in a centerpiece. Count me amongst that group. There are dozensof previous posts about beta fish centerpieces and fish ending up doing the backstroke on your guests’ tables.

Ther are lots of other ideas for centerpieces for a beach or seaside wedding- using sand, shells, faux coral etc.


Post # 10
3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Bettas need at least a 1/2 gallon of water to be comfortable, vases are usually not large enough for them even though people think they are. It really depends on what kind of container you have them in how far apart you have to keep them. In a round container 6 inches is usually suffcient to keep them from fighting, you can also place things between the containers so that they cannot see each other during transport.

I’m really not for using living creatures that you do not intend to nurture for the rest of their lives as centerpieces though. Bettas are awesome little guys theat have tons of personality and deserve to have loving homes.

Post # 14
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@droidednole:  Yeah, I would make sure I had a plan in place to get the fish somewhere well before I bought them. You need to call schools/nursing homes NOW and get assurances that people will take them. Are you going to provide fish tanks to these people? If someone has to buy a fish tank and food, they might not consider your free (cheap) fish anything more than a burden. As for logistics, who is going to feed them the day of the ceremony? How are you going to get them there? Where are you going to store them before the reception? How are you going to ensure guests don’t mess with them? How are you going to ensure the centerpiece water is properly de-chlorinated before putting the fish in?

Basically those fish are going to be freaked out in a glass “cell” for the entirety of the day because you think it looks cool. I think it’s an unnecessarily difficult, wasteful – and frankly, stupid – idea. 

Post # 15
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Keeping the ethics and views on animal usage out of the discussion, I just don’t understand your vision for what the vases would look like. what’s the lighting at your venue? if its just a beta fish in a glass vase in a dark room, you might as well have no centerpieces. And as a guest, I might find it funny. You’re having a gorgeous beach wedding, why beta fish? you don’t see beta fish at the beach.

i understand you want to keep this cheap and to make it something that you like too. What about getting a picture of fish -or anything else beachy- and printing it on som vellum and wrapping around some candles. Likes the picture above (sorry I’m on a phone and can’t move it). Put some coral around this a colorful table runner, I think you’ve got a nice center piece without flowers. You can even add some sand and seashells in the mix, maybe  a vase of those. 

Good luck! Don’t try to over decorate your venue, you’re there for the beautiful setting. Let that shine through. 

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