Post # 1
Just asking. I learned today (amazed that this never came up before) that future hubby does not approve of women using birth control because it has bad side effects and it’s overall “not good for you.” Further, he hopes I “soon see the wisdom in going off it” because I don’t need it. I had to put the phone down so as not to instinctively curse him out. Have you Bees ever had a man tell you something like this?
Post # 3
Uh no. Birth control is perfectly safe. Women have been using it for over 40 years. No one dictates your reproduction rights but you.
Post # 4
Yeah, men often have NO CLUE when it comes to women and their health. Give him some facts.
Post # 5
Um, MY body, MY choice. Does he maybe have a reason for his way of thinking? Like, does he have a sister who got blood clots from bc pills or something like that? Or is he just being a ding-dong-dude about the whole thing?
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Wow…I would have to restrain myself from going off on him too. FI wants to have babies like yesterday and I told him that it’s not going to happen until after the wedding. I’m not ready yet and I want to enjoy some newlywed time. :-p
Post # 7
Fiance is happy I’m on the pill now, I guess. He definitely is glad I’m on some sort of BC, he doesn’t want to wear condoms.
ETA: Yeah, your body, your choice.. and that’s coming from a pretty conservative Republican 😉
Post # 8
No. My Darling Husband would probably prefer the pill, but I’ve had horrible side effects from every one I’ve tried (in addition to physical responses, I also become totally cray cray…I cried when someone took a bad photo of me…yeah.). I said “no way”, and he didn’t question it.
That said, if my Darling Husband was *worried* about how a certain BC would affect me, I’d be open to other suggestions. Ultimately, I decide what I do to my body, and he decides what happens to his (snip, snip…jk), but we should be able to discuss our concerns & preferences with one another.
Post # 9
Well there are side effects, so he’s probably just looking out for you. I never had a guy have a problem with it. My husband used to say before we got married..honey you took your pill, right?!
Post # 10
Darling Husband is fine with it. I’ve taken some that hasn’t agreed with me and he was obviously concerned with how I was feeling, but not in a “it’s not good for you” way, more of a “maybe you should try a different pill” way. We’re both CBC and BC is very important to us. I make sure he is educated on the topic.
Post # 12
Fiance and I are equal partners when it comes to birth control. It’s my body but I can’t reproduce alone! We talk about the pros and cons of diffferent methods and decide what methods we/I use together.
Post # 13
My Fiance would probably flip if I wanted to NOT be on the pill….we are not ready to be parents!!!
Post # 14
Glad to know I’m not crazy, lol. This isn’t about babies though, he and I won’t be having sex until after we’re married. I decided to go on BC after lots of thought, prayer and research because in the past year I suddenly started having the WILDEST PMS and period symptoms. I had no defined cycle, my period would come whenever it felt like, would last as long as 8 or 9 days, would occasionally skip a month, would sometimes arrive back-to-back and other foolishness. On top of that, all those unregulated hormones bouncing around in my bloodstream were causing debilitating emotional effects to the point that at least a couple days per month I was having to call out of work or leave early because I literally couldn’t think/talk straight.
My sweetheart is very opinionated and that’s one of my favorite things about him (he’s a college professor so he approaches almost everything from the position of a researcher). But were it not for my intense love and respect for him I would simply reply “as you do not have a uterus, I truly DGAF about your opinion.” LoL
I don’t mind him sharing his thoughts, but I haven’t yet devised a tactful and respectful way to let him know that I am simply not in a position to have him “inform” me about anything related to my reproductive health irrespective of how many articles he’s read on the subject. Same reason I will never have a male gyno or a baldheaded hairdresser. If you can’t feel my pain, your opinion is basically meaningless to me. Is that horrible?
Post # 15
I hope he also didn’t tell you about your vagina’s magic anti-rape venom, because clearly he doesn’t know what he’s talking about!
Post # 16
Yes BC has side effects. I personally don’t like the hormal aspects myself and have thus moved to a non-hormonal form. Why is he saying this would be my question? Did he pick up a nugget of info from a female coworkers and now have a position that may be out of context or blown out of proportion? Have you complained about side effects or is he noticing them? I think I’d probe that a bit when you’re ready to have a 2 way conversation.
My guy kept urging me to demand a surgery for a minor health issue I have… but his urging was uneducated because the cure was worse than the disease in my case and needed to have it spelled out for him. Ultimately he took an annoying stand because he loved me but just needed the whole picture (something I have had much more time to look into and I had to catch him up)