(Closed) What does your SO do around the house?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

he does all the cooking and the kitchen cleaning 😉

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

He makes huge messes in the yard and garage, and even bigger messes when he homebrews, and then complains to me about my lack of cleaning the rooms, toilets, kitchen, etc.  It makes me wiferage.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Blanche:  Wiferage! Love it! I have to use that one!

 

Mine vaccuums bc I can’t do it due to a shoulder injury.. but he only does it every 2 weeks or so if I don’t nag him like crazy. He tries to remember to take out the garbage.. but has forgotten both garbage days this week. 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I cook, he cleans more than I do, I scoop cat litter boxes (so it evens out). He does everything yard-related. We always run errands together. I’m sorry your dude thinks you’re filling the role of his mommy… 

ETA: also when I cook, he likes to think he’s helping, so he just paces around me and tries to guess when I need something handed to me. It’s cute. He tries hard to pull his weight around the house. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR is great.  He takes care of the cars and the yard & gardens outside.  And all the household repairs.  He also is an excellent cook, and enjoys time in the Kitchen (as do I).

He also helps quite a bit with indoor chores… infact in the big scheme of things if I add it all up, he probably does more than I do in keeping out house afloat.

To be honest though, we struggle with day-to-day general housework… it is just so dang boring (we’d rather be outdoors “playing” with our time off, rather than inside doing chores)

I’ve always kept a Weekly / Monthly / Annual List of what needs to be done (ever since I was married the first time 30+ years ago… and got a “Housekeeping Book”).  There are lots of such books out there… of which Martha Stewart is certainly one of the “stars”

But a 20 mile list can be intimidating !!

In the last few months I’ve discovered The Fly Lady ( http://www.flylady.net ) and I much prefer her methodology… a little bit each day.  And if you don’t get it all done that is ok.  Definitely less stressful for a busy couple.

And the good news is I’m beginnining to actually see a difference in how much actually ends up getting done each Day / Week / Month.  A fairly painless way to manage a household (and it has FREE time built in as well… so you can juggle the days to fit your own schedule / work life… for example we switch out ERRAND DAY on Thursday to Wednesday because Thursdays are too hectic for us)

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@apex:  That’s completely valid. I don’t have any useful suggestions, but you’re more than justified in feeling the way you do. If he wants a baby, maybe tell him there won’t be one until you can see a team effort around the house. Sometimes men just don’t get it until you explicitly outline the rules of the game…

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He always does the lawn/yard work and takes turns cooking, then just random other things here and there. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hubs does a lot outside: mowing, piling wood, shovelling snow, tiding the yard, oil changes in the car, etc.

Inside he sweeps/swiffers the floor, cleans the bathroom.

I don’t expect him to do a lot since I’m at home on Mat-leave right now though. House keeping is my “job” right now. lol

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He does most of the cooking and a lot of the washing up, buys the groceries and takes the rubbish out.

I clean and do the laundry.

If anyone should have rage, it wouldn’t be me – he does loads.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He does the dishes and cleans the kitchen after I make messes when cooking. He will help with the cleaning if he sees me doing it, but won’t willingly do it himself.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Literally nothing.  Wait, he does feel the kitties and do their box.

That said, he works a zillion hours a week so I don’t want him to worry about household stuff when he’s not working.  We also have someone come in weekly to do the deep cleaning.  

I really don’t mind, but I did say when we have another kid I’m not working because I can’t handle it all!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My FI does more than he should. He works full time as a teacher, then goes to a PT night job, and then comes home and cleans the kitchen, saying he does it because I cooked. I try to clean, but he tells me to let him do it.

On his days off, he’ll help out with sweeping, dusting, vacuuming, dishwasher. Those I usually do when he’s working.

His “always” chores are garbage and kitty litter!

 

ETA: I didn’t mention yard work because we live in an apartment, and there’s not really much yardwork to be done. he keeps our porch clean though!

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