Post # 1
I’ve been trying like heck to clean today and he’s been sitting around either playing video games, watching me clean, or asking me when I’m going to the store to get him stuff.
Is your SO helpful around the house?
Post # 3
he does all the cooking and the kitchen cleaning 😉
Post # 4
He makes huge messes in the yard and garage, and even bigger messes when he homebrews, and then complains to me about my lack of cleaning the rooms, toilets, kitchen, etc. It makes me wiferage.
Post # 5
@Blanche: Wiferage! Love it! I have to use that one!
Mine vaccuums bc I can’t do it due to a shoulder injury.. but he only does it every 2 weeks or so if I don’t nag him like crazy. He tries to remember to take out the garbage.. but has forgotten both garbage days this week.
Post # 6
I cook, he cleans more than I do, I scoop cat litter boxes (so it evens out). He does everything yard-related. We always run errands together. I’m sorry your dude thinks you’re filling the role of his mommy…
ETA: also when I cook, he likes to think he’s helping, so he just paces around me and tries to guess when I need something handed to me. It’s cute. He tries hard to pull his weight around the house.
Post # 7
@Blanche: Lmfao at wiferage. That’s how I feel this morning. We both had realllllly long weeks at work (put in about 60 hours each) so neither had any time to do anything during the week and the house is a wreck and I hate hate hate a dirty house. I don’t mind cleaning but I “wiferage” if he’s just watching me, or walking into my freshly cleaned kitchen and making a mess, or sitting on his butt playing video games and bitching at me to go get him Gatorade… Which has been the case this morning.
Post # 8
Mr TTR is great. He takes care of the cars and the yard & gardens outside. And all the household repairs. He also is an excellent cook, and enjoys time in the Kitchen (as do I).
He also helps quite a bit with indoor chores… infact in the big scheme of things if I add it all up, he probably does more than I do in keeping out house afloat.
To be honest though, we struggle with day-to-day general housework… it is just so dang boring (we’d rather be outdoors “playing” with our time off, rather than inside doing chores)
I’ve always kept a Weekly / Monthly / Annual List of what needs to be done (ever since I was married the first time 30+ years ago… and got a “Housekeeping Book”). There are lots of such books out there… of which Martha Stewart is certainly one of the “stars”
But a 20 mile list can be intimidating !!
In the last few months I’ve discovered The Fly Lady ( http://www.flylady.net ) and I much prefer her methodology… a little bit each day. And if you don’t get it all done that is ok. Definitely less stressful for a busy couple.
And the good news is I’m beginnining to actually see a difference in how much actually ends up getting done each Day / Week / Month. A fairly painless way to manage a household (and it has FREE time built in as well… so you can juggle the days to fit your own schedule / work life… for example we switch out ERRAND DAY on Thursday to Wednesday because Thursdays are too hectic for us)
Hope this helps,
Post # 9
@Taeyers: I think I’m even more irritated todaythan usual because we are TTC and no way in hellllll am I going to work full time, clean the whole house and take care of yard work AND be responsible for the majority of child rearing.
Post # 10
@apex: That’s completely valid. I don’t have any useful suggestions, but you’re more than justified in feeling the way you do. If he wants a baby, maybe tell him there won’t be one until you can see a team effort around the house. Sometimes men just don’t get it until you explicitly outline the rules of the game…
Post # 11
He always does the lawn/yard work and takes turns cooking, then just random other things here and there.
Post # 12
Hubs does a lot outside: mowing, piling wood, shovelling snow, tiding the yard, oil changes in the car, etc.
Inside he sweeps/swiffers the floor, cleans the bathroom.
I don’t expect him to do a lot since I’m at home on Mat-leave right now though. House keeping is my “job” right now. lol
Post # 13
He does most of the cooking and a lot of the washing up, buys the groceries and takes the rubbish out.
I clean and do the laundry.
If anyone should have rage, it wouldn’t be me – he does loads.
Post # 14
He does the dishes and cleans the kitchen after I make messes when cooking. He will help with the cleaning if he sees me doing it, but won’t willingly do it himself.
Post # 15
Literally nothing. Wait, he does feel the kitties and do their box.
That said, he works a zillion hours a week so I don’t want him to worry about household stuff when he’s not working. We also have someone come in weekly to do the deep cleaning.
I really don’t mind, but I did say when we have another kid I’m not working because I can’t handle it all!
Post # 16
My FI does more than he should. He works full time as a teacher, then goes to a PT night job, and then comes home and cleans the kitchen, saying he does it because I cooked. I try to clean, but he tells me to let him do it.
On his days off, he’ll help out with sweeping, dusting, vacuuming, dishwasher. Those I usually do when he’s working.
His “always” chores are garbage and kitty litter!
ETA: I didn’t mention yard work because we live in an apartment, and there’s not really much yardwork to be done. he keeps our porch clean though!